Monday, June 21, 2010
A friend of mine was trying to “explain” to me the other day why she will always be overweight. I heard a long list of I can’t do this or thats followed by “dieting is so much easier for you.” My confused stare was complimented by about 30 seconds of silence, to which I replied “First off, I am not on a diet. The changes I have made to my life are just that, changes. From what I eat to what I do, I cannot go back to the way I was, EVER. However, if you are really and truly interested in making beneficial changes in your life, you need to accept a few things. 1. Announcing to yourself and the world that you are on a diet will not cause weight loss. 2. Refusing to accept that you have to make changes only means that no changes will be made. 3. Since the changes that are to be made are for you, first and foremost, you must believe that you are worth it.
I did not get where I am easily. It was August 2009 and I was overweight and miserably depressed. I was at the surprising end of a two-year relationship and was left with a broken heart and felt terribly used. I had to make changes in my life if I wanted to live. I started slow. Walking for more than 15 minutes left me winded. I couldn’t do more than 2 minutes on an elliptical. After I got past my “I’m too depressed to eat” stage, I had to realize that what, how and when I ate had to be changed. Feeling sorry for myself just wasn’t working anymore.
Today, those changes I made now have become habits. As easily as I did nothing before, I am now doing something. I am 2/3 of my way to my goal weight and to be honest, have worked very hard to get here. Making excuses doesn’t work. Accepting less than you know you truly deserve doesn’t either. Some days it’s easy, other days incredibly hard, but believing in yourself in the first step. I certainly could have made a ton of excuses why I couldn’t do what I have already done. I’m sure glad I didn’t.