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How the House is Involved

Saturday, June 12, 2010

All you have to do is watch some eps of Hoarders, Clean House, How Clean is your House? and you quickly see the correlation between disorganization, holding onto outdated stuff, and pure filth as it relates to mental health. Is my home ready to be on an ep of Hoarders? Certainly not, but it does reflect that the last 20 years have not all been hunky dory.

Not to sound sexist (and if you knew me in person you would know that I am 100 percent Feminist) but when a Woman's home becomes a pigstye then you know Houston we have a problem. The home is traditionally the woman's "place" but moreso I think it is women who care about the state of the cave - generally, men don't "get it." If a man has a comfortable bed, a television, a place for his hobbies and a woman to take care of the cleaning, laundry, dishes etc... he's a happy camper.

Yeah there are a few men who care more then their womenfolk; I have a girlfriend's husband who is the Neat Freak, but on the whole (I have three brothers, married for 20 years, and a son), men don't really get worked up when the house is a wreck.

The state of this house reflects many things, some uncomfortable and some flat out sad and disturbing to me.

1.) Financially, this house is a burden to us. We have tried to sell twice and both times the economy shortly collasped (yes we are the cause of 9-11, the crash AND the home mortgage collaspe). This makes me angry and I've taken it out on this house by ignoring it.

2.) Caring for a house is a symbol of traditional womanhood. When I met hubby 20 years ago, I had to drop my career and what I had always thought my future would be. Not to gloss over it but this put me in counseling for four years and we almost divorced. There was quite some serious fallout and my role as woman became totally re-defined.

For a long time I resented that, and to this day it comes out by not doing housework for a husband and two kids who generate quite a bit of mess (all three are packrats; I am not).

3.) I'm very sensitive to my environment - so much so that husband would actually clean the house (before kids) because he knew that would improve our bedroom time. emoticon

When the house is dirty, messy and disorganized, I feel hopeless, depressed and YUCK. Because of my susceptibility to depression this then becomes a vortex that is hard to pull out of.

So when I post about cleaning, organizing, throwing stuff out --- and even decorating --- it is actually significant to my mental health.

BTW I've spent the entire week cleaning my son's bedroom. About three trash bags later, tons of new storage tubs (over 12, 18 quart tubs of LEGO), and a few pieces of new furniture, his room is now completed.

Details on his room


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
LINDAMARIEZ1 5/19/2015 6:01PM

    hoarders upset me last night! I am messy but not that messy!


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BUDSNRAINA 1/21/2012 8:05AM

    Keep up the great work! I began neatening my daughters room at the end of each day because I was tired of the mess(she is almost 5) - she has decided she likes it clean and can now find what she wants to play with - and has been trying to keep up with her mess on her own now! I just keep telling her what a great job she is doing and it seems to be working.

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HEALTHYRED 7/18/2010 9:18AM

    Wow I really love this room, especially the ceiling lamp!

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ZESTYLADY 6/13/2010 6:06PM

    I just spent my whole weekend trying to clear out spaces consumed by my hubby's inability to let go of broken things. It wears me down that so much time is spent doing this same thing over and over and over. I remain ever hopeful that something will change for him to be able to let go of so much crap. Until then...i just keep moving it around! Sheesh!

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SURLYGIRL 6/13/2010 10:36AM

    Another nice room. You've been busy and very productive. Good for you!

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HAPPY0408 6/13/2010 12:25AM

    I know what you mean. I feel so much better after a clean organized home. I have been putting it off, but reading your blog just motivated me to declutter again. The only way I will feel energized is to have a clean organized home again. So tomorrow the plan will be to just get a start. I will start with the kitchen. Thanks for sharing!

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LINIS_THIN 6/12/2010 11:07PM

    You know I feel you!!!

The D*** house can't leave you alone!!!

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    lol! Don't forget to blog about his reaction :)

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GIANTPANDA 6/12/2010 1:36PM

    Thanks for a great blog. I'm decluttering the kitchen before the World Cup playoffs today while my hubbie is out doing working on his favorite hobby until late tonight. I so agree about decluttering and the state of mind. My efforts really began to change with Peter Walsh's book, "Does This Clutter Make My Butt Look Fat?"

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LABYRINTH 6/12/2010 11:59AM

    I'm a history buff (area of interest is more Elizabethean and Renaissance), raised by a history buff (Civil War and WWI and II history), with three brothers, who each specialized in a war era - as well as planes, and brother D who is more into ancient Rome and Napoleonic eras. It's a thing I guess.

Son has a lot of historical collections in his room (which don't show up in the photo so well) - lots of Civil war books, items, as well as a Civil War Drum replica that he uses when doing reanctments with his dad. Replicas of old maps and coins from various eras - some pirate memorabilia (long story but I used to have a party business one of which had a pirate theme).

He also has some old cameras (not valuable) and seems to pick up old electronic equipment from the 50's (the bane of my parenting existence) and one of those pieces (an audio oscillator- whatever that is) is on the dresser.

When I started to decorate that just seemed to be the vibe - vintage 1940-50, more Thin Man era.

Officially, son said he didn't care and do what I wanted - but no cute bedspreads.... he comes home tomorrow and we shall see what he thinks emoticon

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BREWMASTERBILL 6/12/2010 11:13AM

    Very neat. Out of curiosity, what made you choose 1940's? Did the teenager have a say?

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PATTYKLAVER 6/12/2010 10:38AM

    It's great you're making improvements. Keep up the good work.

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