Sometimes when there is lots of people doing something as a group or congregate in large groups one tends to get lost in the crowd. Unless you really want this to happen you should make an effort to be an individual and do your own thing. This is especially true for those of us wanting to lose weight. We must individually set our goals and sights outside of what others are doing. A workout buddy can be an inspiration but you should not base your progress on what they are doing or what their goals are. You can encourge each other to succed but it's up to you do actually achieve your goals. When others tend to give up, keep going and the goals will follow.