Thursday, June 03, 2010
“Stop the self deprivation! The pity parties end today! If you're here...if you're reading this...you've taken the first step. So stop feeling sorry for yourself, because...YOU ARE WORTH IT!!!”
I think this is a kick in the pants, but I also think it’s a more positive approach in delivering that kick. Do you agree?
I’m just having a difficult time right now with excuse making. I’m really struggling between the kicks and pats. I’m really struggling with that fine line between showing support and enabling. Are you feeling me?
I hope this puts a better slant on what I’m trying to say to people. I’m trying to be helpful and sensitive to beginners…but people farther along, like me, need that timely kick in the pants.We need to stop making excuses. We need to stop feeling sorry for ourselves. We need to stop saying… “I blew it today so I’ll start again tomorrow.” Or, “I stumbled last night and had a bowl of ice cream because the kids were too difficult to deal with.” Or one I like to use being a caregiver… “Dad was just way too difficult today. I need a can of Coke and a bag of chips. That’ll help me deal with it.”
Those are nothing but excuses my friends! Those of us who are farther along know better than that. We should have the discipline to wait…to take a deep breath…to take a pause…to drink a glass of ice cold water…to let the craving pass. We have to… because when we slip like that, what did it accomplish? We just sacrificed what we wanted most for what we wanted at the moment. There are going to be tons of those moments in our lives. What happens if we give in every time? That’s right…we’re right back off the wagon. Face it friends, it’ll be much easier to give in the second, third, and fourth time if we give in the first time.
And here’s the main point I’m trying to make. When we veterans get on here and post those messages that ask for sympathy, we need someone who cares enough to let us have it right between the horns. We don’t need someone saying… “Oh, it’ll be alright. So you slipped up once. At least you stopped it right there. Tomorrow is a new day, just start over again.” To me, that’s being an enabler. I won’t do that anymore! And I don’t want people to do that to me either! Mollycoddling someone who knows better is not helping them at all. I was mollycoddled way too much in my earlier attempts at weight loss and look where it got me…on the old yo-yo train. That Master Chief I spoke of earlier didn’t mollycoddle. He knew it was a matter of life and death and he had to be tough. Obesity is a matter of life and death too and I’m so thankful to the special people who gave me “Tough Love”. Do you know why? Because I am worth it! And so are you!