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Tuesday, June 01, 2010

This is a serious question...Does anyone know a trick to stop yourself from crying when you experience intense feelings of pride? My son is giving a speech in his public speaking class on Thursday as a tribute to me. I am afraid I am going to cry like a baby and not be able to stop. I will be embarrassed and so will he, I think.

I am one to experience such intense emotional feelings that it is hard to gain control of my reactions. Sometimes I feel like it is a curse, other times I think that it can put me into action. (Like compassion, excitement, or when there is some kind of tragedy it helps me to find a way to help) When I am sad, I am REALLY sad. When I am HAPPY, I am really happy, when I am excited about something I can't sleep the night before because it feels like it is always bubbling up to the surface with such exuberance, trying to be let free (Christmas eve for example) When I am proud of my children or even myself, it touches me so deeply that I can't help to react. Most of the time it is with a bucket of joyful tears.

Help me out, do you have any tricks??

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DRAGONFLY1974 6/3/2010 7:28AM

    I breathe deep, some times it works, sometimes it doesn't. Either way you shouldn't be ashamed considering the circumstance!!!!

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JILLIANPRNCSS 6/3/2010 7:20AM

    Since I had kids I cry at EVERYTHING. I have learned to just keep my face neutral and let the tears drip. People only notice when you start to wipe them so I just let it drip til the end then wipe or pretend I have something in my eye. Kids just open up those tear ducts.

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_DASH_ 6/2/2010 9:07AM

    i am very emotional hahah so i cry at everything and just embrace it at this point. but if you dont want to embarass anyone- try looking upwards- but be careful it doesn't look like youre rolling your eyes, looking up will help stop the tears from coming because the motion restricts the tear ducts somehow. or maybe have him read you the speech before hand so there are no surprises when he reads it in the class- you can be present when he reads it to you at home and cry all you want, but then when he's reading it in class, you can sort of "check out" and think of other things if you think it will make you cry. :D hope this helps!!! congratulations- that sounds like such a nice honor.

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DONNA_VT 6/1/2010 4:26PM

    I agree tears of joy or pride are nothing to be ashamed of . . . sounds like you have a lot to be proud of.



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BRIGHTSPARK7 6/1/2010 2:19PM

    It's great that your son is honoring you with a tribute. Very moving. It maybe that if you cry he will be touched, rather than be embarrassed. But if you don't want to be bawling (LOL!) and don't mind being a little teary eyed, the trick is to be self aware. And you are already that. You are considering his feelings as well as your's. Kudos to you!
It is possible to experience one's feelings and then release them before they become overpowering. For example, exhale with a sigh and release. We each have to find our own method of releasing that works best for us. But the first step is self-awareness -- knowing the state you are in at the time. The second step is letting it go.
An important distinction is that we are not our emotions. Emotional energy flows through us, on the surface. In our deep core selves we are peaceful, joyful and loving. By experiencing the emotion, witnessing it, and letting it go, we return to our true nature more quickly.

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SKINNYPOWELL1 6/1/2010 2:07PM

    Sorry to say that I don't think there is a way to control your emotions, especially when it comes to being proud of your children. I say... let the tears fall where they may. It's ok to cry, just bring plenty of tissue. The worst part for me is trying to get rid of the painful lump emoticon in my throat when i start to tear up. I am sure you will come thru it just fine.

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JESTICJADE 6/1/2010 1:25PM

    I think that is a good thing, but i understand you notwanting to cry. Just think of something else like when you dont want to cry. maby something funny

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THEGORGESBLONDE 6/1/2010 1:19PM

    Sorry, but my first response to this is go ahead and cry! There's absolutely nothing wrong with feeling proud of your son, and I think everyone there will be happy with you and very moved. Congratulations!

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