Life has been challenging. It seems I am lucky if I have 5 minutes to myself these days. My calendar has changed from a weekly version to an hourly version just so I don't forget to do something. So what has changed? Well in a nutshell - Aliegh.
Aliegh's parents are alcoholics/addicts. Only one is in recovery and fortunately the other (the dad) is rarely in the picture. My daughter is in a deferred program due to two DUI's. To say it has been challenging doesn't even touch it. She hasn't managed to stay sober since she is a binge drinker and continuously thinks it's okay to have one drink. Normally her binge behavior has been about once a month. Well last month it was once a week where she lost her glasses and her droid cell phone EACH time (yes you calculate the monetary cost of those binges for someone collecting unemployment
We took action and removed Aliegh from my daughter (even though she never drank around Aliegh, I just wasn't willing to risk it since her decision making was clearly messed up). It was the only way I knew I could get her attention to the seriousness of all of this. I basically told her she either had to work her program or drink - but I was keeping Aliegh until I saw her actually working her program. And that is what I did for a couple weeks while mama decided attending 2 meetings a day, getting sponsors and actually being HONEST with her counselor was in order. When I returned Aliegh, I stressed that I was in zero tolerance mode - meaning IF it happens again, we WILL go to court for custody and I would report her (ie she would go to jail for 90 days minimum to a year).
Having a 14 month old around 24/7 at my age is....tiring..lol! Trying to do any work online, Sparks, tend to the house, attend my Al Anon meetings, walk Abe daily, AND fit in an hour at the gym - CHALLENGING. Dear god - how did I have a "life" when my kids were young??
So once Aliegh returned home, I still had to babysit every day (except Friday-Sun) and play taxi cab (since mama can't drive and the bus system sucks out here). Now mama starts work Monday morning and doesn't have any day care assistance from the state set up yet (takes about a month for approval). So guess whose it? You betcha...
Starting tomorrow, I will be rolling out of bed at 5:15 to be at her house by 6am. She works 730am-4pm. She still has AA/NA meetings to attend and outpatient treatment on Wednesday and Thursday evenings. So basically I will have Aliegh until 6 most nights and overnight on Wednesdays. I won't be able to attend a couple of my meetings - limited to only Sunday morning ones. I haven't figured out how I am going to fit in Abe's hour walk and my gym time but somehow, I will manage.
The downside to all of this: well I have wiped out my right elbow and right shoulder. They are already replaced and well there is this little thing about a weight limit which Ms Aliegh has kinda bypassed quite awhile ago. I saw the orthopedic surgeon who confirmed they both need to be revised and no I can't do them at the same time (DRATS but I had to ask)...evidently they can be complicated due to I don't have alot of bone to work with. The idea of being laid up (I am right handed and I own a stick shift so wouldn't be able to drive) doesn't make me happy and ISN'T going to happen until I soak up the last of the beach time this summer. I have an elbow brace to help support the joint but it is horrible (can't put it on myself) and makes me look/feel like the Terminator..lol. And it is far from fashion forward - it just clashes with everything!
So all of THIS is why my presence has been sparse on Spark's. I am still here - I check my mail via my cell phone but I don't have a smartphone yet (no upgrade until September) so I can't actually respond to threads when I am not home since my daughter doesn't have internet (unless I manage to find an unsecured network). So please send me any extra energy you have because if I have a month of this, I am SOOO going to need it!
And this is my pride and joy:
Watching the Sounders lose their soccer game - she sums up my feelings: