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Friday, May 14, 2010

Just some thoughts after stopping for coffee
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    I can give you many reasons why this particular person did not answer but it´s really not that interesting, the interesting thing is how you feel about it and how that influences your healthy choices.

    I have to agree with an earlier comment - it´s SO awesome that you make these videoblogs, you look and sound nice and I think you are doing so right in sharing the weird stuff in your head - in my experience my feelings of alienation leaves when I share them.

    If I should be a little sharp - browse around and notice that there is not many people that gets as many comments and positive responses that you do. Why do you think that is?

    You help me - so thank you! Rock on!
    2841 days ago
    Well I have to agree that it may be a region thing. It also may be that person. Maybe they are awkward around strangers. maybe they have had a bad experience. Looking at the video blogs you seem like a perfectly normal guy. So I see no reason why a normal person would be shunned or put off by a standard greeting like the one you gave.

    Don't let perfect strangers influence how you are as a person. I am the type that I say hello or greet everyone that makes eye contact with me. If I am in a room or an elevator I will say hello to everyone there. Whether they like it or not. They will get a sincere smile and a warm greeting.

    I could care less if it is reciprocated. Because I am not doing it for that. I am doing it because I am a nice guy and I like the people around me to be in a better mood when I leave than before I got there.

    Stick with it my man!!! You are looking awesome by the way.

    As far as the snacks go. Get yourself some low calorie munchies. Like celery or baby carrots. Those always do it for me. I chug some water and eat a cup ro two of carrots and BAM!!! Hunger gone. Sure it is not the most delicious meal on earth. but it is only like 80 calories. HAHA!!!
    2842 days ago
    PS (Sorry for 2 comments)
    Maybe it's a regional thing, ya know? People in certain parts of the country are more aloof, more warm, more open, more cold, etc. than others.

    I once met a woman who told me the story of when she moved to the neighborhood. She's from the South. She was so upset and hurt when nobody came over with a casserole or dessert to welcome them into the neighborhood. It was only after quite some time that she realized that people here in Chicago just don't do that sort of thing.

    I refuse to believe that the problem is you. Especially now that you have these v-blogs. You sound nice, you look nice --- anything else is THEIR problem.
    2842 days ago
    I totally understand where you are coming from. I think a big part of it is your sensitivity to perceived rejection. (You've mentioned this in this blog as well as others. So please understand that I am not criticizing.)

    I am wondering if you are choosing the wrong people to say hello to. WTH are these people that won't even acknowledge a "hi" or a "good morning" or whatever?

    I went through a phase where I would say "hello" to people and not wait for the response (not rudely but just moving on in my own thoughts) because I didn't want to wait and see if I would be rejected or not.

    I dunno... I'm sure it sucks. In fact, I know it sucks. But don't give up. Really.

    2842 days ago
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    Hello, you seem like such a friendly guy. Don't ever let some rude person define you. Keep on smiling and speaking to people. You probably lifted someone else's mood and did not even know it. There is no reason not to be the nice person you were raised to be because you run across a few miserable people. Trust me it its not you it is them. Keep on smiling and speaking.

    :o) sending you a smile.
    2842 days ago
    I can fully understand the feelings of zero self-esteem from your early years. To this day I still struggle to believe that I make any difference whatsoever. I assume I'm easily forgotten about...BUT, I do realize that that is MY thinking, and probably not a realistic vision of what is true.

    The first thing that jumped out at me with this blog is that you did a VIDEO blog! Do you know how flipping cool that is?!?! It can be a scary thing to talk into a camera and yet here you are doing it! That is AWESOME!! It's a huge step of confidence and one that I bet you didn't even realize.

    Second, there are just some people in this world who just suck. Plain and simple, not everyone is nice and you could stand there handing out $100 bills and those same people will snatch them out of your hand, while cussing you under their breath at the same time. But what's important to note is, IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. Nothing. Zip, zero, nada. Some people have no idea how to handle social graces and are completely lacking in manners. That speaks of them and not you. So don't lump that on your shoulders when it's not yours to begin with. Let them carry that around with them. On the flip side of that, I think some people are truly not aware of the looks that are on their faces. I've passed many a person who looks like they are giving me the evil eye or are passing judgment in some way, only to find out later that they were completely lost in thought and have zero recollection of even seeing me. Depending on how I'm feeling at the time, I realize that the eyes of my insecurities sometimes looks for things that aren't there, rather than letting the eyes of my face due the real seeing. Often times we don't see things as they are...we see things how WE are. Big difference.

    I see you wrote a couple of blogs (still catching up) so I'm off to go read those. Awesome blog again!
    2842 days ago
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