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Beautiful You

Wednesday, May 12, 2010


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ROSE5328 5/13/2010 8:19AM

  Thank you John! This is something I really struggle with. I think I will watch this video at least once a week to remind myself that I am beautiful!


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SUSIE85251 5/13/2010 4:44AM

    Another wonderful, insightful blog. Thanks for reminding me of how special I am!

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SPARKENISTA 5/13/2010 12:36AM

    John--It is my observation that our appearance is a direct reflection of how we think of and care for/nurture ourselves. Therefore, when someone finds fault with their appearance they are really finding fault with some internal trait. It could be failure to follow through with plans and be consistent. It could be some other habit or trait.

While, in our society, vanity is frowned upon, self-care and the improvement that manifests in appearance are really critical to our self-esteem, welfare and ability to function as good role models to our children.

Therefore, while balance is necessary in all things, not addressing the issue of outward appearance is tantamount to denying our corporeal selves. It all begins with the self-esteem to paricipate in self-care.

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AMYTATH 5/12/2010 11:16PM

    I love this blog John!!! This is something that I have struggled with for years...As I dug out an old picture of me circa 2001 and looked at it, showed it to girls at work to show the amazing transformation I have made. I was about 230 (years before pregnancy), one girl says, "wow, doesnt even look like you" another "you didnt have a necke" ect you get the point...everyone is amazed at how far I have come (this being the 2nd time I have come this far 1st time being 5 years after that pic this time post pregnancy). But what I keep thinking to myself as I look at that picture and marvel at the 55 pound difference in then and now I just keep thinking to myself "but I had so much confidence then!!! I loved myself then!!! I dont now...whats wrong?" I know that I look like a completely different person, I know that I am many sizes smaller but I still dont like what I see therefore I dont value myself like I did then.

And realistically this is why I have been struggling with finding out Im pregnant, instead of focusing on how wonderful and amazing this blessing is I keep focusing on "but Im so close to my goal!!!"

I am slowly working on loving myself as I am and you are helping me do that!!

I really hope that the WKY team can still meet Sunday even if there are just three of us there. I get so much support from you guys and want so much to give you a hug and thank you in person!


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HDHAWK 5/12/2010 7:22PM

    Still something I'm working on! Thank you so very much for this topic. You are certainly a gift I'm thankful I've found this week!

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HAWAIILINDA 5/12/2010 7:05PM

    Hi John, Another good topic. I learned to look at this idea in a different perspective a few years ago. It is a truth that some people are more physically attractive then others and so I have trouble saying I'm beautiful. What I do believe though is that I'm a miracle, I believe that all life is a miracle. When your think of life even existing with all the things that can happen to make conception go astray it is amazing how often life happens. I take that blessing/miracle of life given to me and I believe I am here for a reason and I believe I have a responsibility to do the best I am able with the gift of life. And though not physically attractive I am an awesome, wonderful person. I have a lot to offer this world ,and society just aqs I am and if people choose to shun me because I don't meet their expectations of attractiveness then they are the ones that lose out. I accept myself for who I am right now, yes I hope to be healthier and with that my appearance will be more pleasing to some, including myself, but I won't be more worthwhile/valuable then I am right now.

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JOMOMMY 5/12/2010 5:36PM

    Your video blog was inspiring to me! Thank you for sharing your thoughts, you gave me something to think about today. emoticon

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ROTTLADY 5/12/2010 4:57PM

    Checked in but video email don't work well on my system.Will check back tomorrow

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ANGELSANDYBABY 5/12/2010 12:51PM

    Hi John! I loved your blog..Thanks!
I'm going to add you as a friend..please feel free to do the same.
You have a great day, too!


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IDALUKE 5/12/2010 12:41PM

    Once again, you hit wright on the nail, that is so true. made me look at my self in a different light, Thanks John emoticon

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TENDERLOVE1 5/12/2010 12:40PM

    You bring tears to my eyes with every blog of yours that I read! Great JOB thank you!

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GEEMAWEST 5/12/2010 12:29PM

    HOME RUN!!

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AZCUPCAKE 5/12/2010 11:32AM

    Once again, you hit the ball right out of the park, John. Your words could not have found a more concise target - and I am sure everyone seeing/listening to your blog today will take a new look at their PHYSICAL selves in a new light. We are SO critical of ourselves -- why is it that when a loved one tells me I look pretty today, I shrug it off and am self-conscious and embarrassed, but a passing acquaintance can tell me that 'I think a different kind of dress would be better for your shape?' and I take THAT comment to heart and hold it close to me, replaying it over and over, as if it is a TREASURE?! That is just so WRONG!

You really know how to provide the 'balm for the soul' regarding this journey we are on; you really understand. Thank you for a great start to my day.

p.s. I am going to tell myself I am pretty today and really BELIEVE it, thanks to you!! emoticon

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VICTORY-LEE 5/12/2010 10:21AM

    Hey Hey John!

I will tell you honestly that you made me cry! You pretty much said everything I feel about myself, about the people who love me. My 48th b-day was yesterday & it was "a little humbling". I always worried about my looks - I was never happy. I have always been overweight & like u had said, I too would look thru magazines & see what I wanted to be. Funny, because I really knew I couldn't.

Anyway, I finally have accepted myself for who I am...& I finally realized I LIKE ME - warts & all!!

God Bless You John!

Thank u for the great blog!!

Luv Ya
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JJSSKINNYGIRL 5/12/2010 10:05AM

    Thank You for another great blog!!

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DOLLBABE56 5/12/2010 10:05AM

    I think this is your best "video" blog yet! So true.

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MOMMABOF7 5/12/2010 10:03AM

    Thank You John!!! You are a Beautiful person. I'm greatful that you share your wisdom with me. I do feel lovely today even in my sweats headed to the elliptical.

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JAE_HENNINGTON 5/12/2010 9:49AM

  Once again John, You have nailed it. I have wrestled with these very issues myself. I grew up in a home of abuse, neglect and abandonment. I never felt loved or wanted. I was born with a physical disability, also with parents who were perfectionist. I knew from an early age that no matter how much I tried, I would never measure up to my families expectations. I have spent a lifetime trying to find a place to fit in..and to "feel" ok. I have always wanted to be accepted and loved. I have learned the first place you have to find this is within yourself. I have this "little girl" in me that "needs" to be loved. So while I know what you say is true and I work on it everyday of my waking life. There is a part of me that continues to wish I could find the acceptance through another person. Great blog John, as usual you have left us with much to ponder.

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GETFIT2LIVE 5/12/2010 9:17AM

    John, I love seeing and hearing your video blogs! Well said; are we building our houses upon the rock or upon the sand? If we don't have a foundational belief that we are beautiful just the way we are today, even though we are working towards looking and feeling better every day, we won't make it for the long haul. Good luck on the C25K training--most of all have FUN with it!


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SATYAGRAHA 5/12/2010 9:03AM

    John! That was really wonderful. Thank you SOOOO MUCH for sharing your wisdom. You are truly beautiful, inside AND out! emoticon And you WILL get out of that chair and do C25K. emoticon emoticon

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BUGGYS 5/12/2010 8:52AM are right on once again...I joined SP not becasue of my appearance but because of my health...I love myself enough to want the inside to work well so that it shows through on the outside...sure, I would love to look good in a size 10 but that is never going to happen...I do want to get off my meds and live a long time, to enjoy life for as long as I can. I am amazed at this site because I have gotten to know sveral "friends" and I don't even know what they look like and you know, I don't even care...I love what they have to say ans what their comments mean to me. Thank you for instilling in all of us that we ARE worth it! emoticon

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MNABOY 5/12/2010 8:41AM

    Sorry couldn't get it to down load

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