feeling like an afterthought on mom's day :(

Sunday, May 09, 2010

This is my very first mother's day!

My wonderful son is 6 moths old. I am a SAHM and I work very hard at it.

I was very much looking forward to today...but I have spent much of the day crying.

It all started yesterday with a tiff with my husband (about how difficult this program is and how well I am doing and how I need him to support me and not accidentally sabotage my efforts). Nothing HUGE, just residual tension and umpleasantness this morning.

Then, we went out for lunch (but not in honor of mom day...we always go out for lunch at the same place on sundays).

Then he stops the car on the way home at a grocery store, tells me to stay in the car, and comes back 20 minutes later with flowers...and a CHOCOLATE BAR! I was so hurt.

First, by the fact that it was just an afterthought on the way home to pull over for flowers while I waited in the car, and second, how could he buy me a chocolate bar???? he is not the type to sabotage me on purpose...so what then, he just doesn't give a sh*t?

Now, if you knew my husband, you'd understand why this is such a big deal. He is NEVER a fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants kinda guy, he plans EVERYTHING, always mulls over every detail and pays such close attention...it just seems that none of said attention is ever pointed at me.

We live a pleasant day-to-day life, which is more than some can say I know, and he is kind and polite with me, and can be loving, but for the most part (especially on any kind of holiday), I feel like an afterthought.

And that hurts.

And no....I did not eat the chocolate bar.
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    New motherhood is soooooo hard, and you obviously deserve to be recognized for it. Try to remember though that it's the first time your hubby has had to think about it, and cut him a little slack....especially if things are basically good otherwise. Try to remember that this is a holiday created by Hallmark, so don't invest too much energy in it. When your kids are a little older, they will do little things that will touch your heart--I promise. Now, having said all of that, i love the tackey tie idea!
    2845 days ago
    Take a deep breath. I bet you both are sleep deprived. My hubby never is much for birthday or mother's day or chistmas. When I have birth to our son 5 years ago. The only thing I was told was not to turn him into a sissy no thank you or good job or anything. We have older kids who make the day special so that is something you can look forward to. take a picture of the flowers to remember and joke about later. Take a small bite of the chocoalte each day and savor that you are a mom now and have a special holiday then for father's day get him a really tacky tie.
    2845 days ago
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