Crazy is Easy

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

I am reminded of this saying when I think of my friend Sheila who was killed the day before her 43rd birthday 5 years ago. Sheila would throw this saying out anytime her friends even hinted that they wanted to give up on something. Though she never said it, we were all convinced that her feelings on this came about when Sheila's mom just gave up on living. Sheila came from a single-parent home and was the 3rd of 4 children. When Sheila was 15, her mother decided one day that life was too hard. She stopped going to work and eventually wouldn't even get out of bed.

I met Sheila in college and her story was really remarkable to me. We became fast friends and still were at the time of her accident. She was such an inspiration. After her mom's illness, Sheila worked two part-time jobs from the 10th-12th grade, graduated with honors and received a track scholarship to a good college. The first time I heard her use the phrase, "Crazy is Easy" was when one of our dorm mates took an overdose of aspirin which she later said was from the pressure of school and depression from a recent break-up. Sheila and I were talking about it later and she basically said that just throwing up your hands and giving up is the easiest thing in the world. Hanging in there and finding a way to overcome difficulties is what separates the winners from the losers. I had never looked at it that way and I remember at the time thinking it was a little harsh.

But today, I hear the words of my old friend. I miss her --she was like a relentless drill sergeant who led by example. I can't ever remember a time she got down about anything and that made it hard for her friends to ever be down around her. So today, when I don't feel that great and I want to eat whatever and not exercise, the words of my friend keep popping in my head, "Crazy is Easy." Giving up is easy. Slipping back into old habits, that's easy. So today, I've decided I want to be a winner and winners don't do easy. Thank you, Sheila.
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    What a blessing she was to you. Thank for sharing Sheila with us.

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  • LULU1959
    Thanks for sharing this with us. Lets toast to Sheila for her wise words "Crazy is Easy." emoticon Glad she was a great influence in your life and that part of her still remains with you. Her words were what got you through today and put you back on track and towards becoming a winner! When you have another day like today think back on these two words your friend use to say and you know exactly what to do.

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    Comment edited on: 4/29/2010 12:31:39 AM
    Crazy is easy because you don't have to answer to anybody or for anything. I so know what she means literally. Living is the hardest thing in this world to do and living without God and people who care about you is inconceivable. Thanks JoJo for sharing your story and always remember how blessed you are to understand what she said and how she still lives on in you.
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    Thank you, Jo.
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    I concur with everyone - and I am honored to have met your friend through your blog. As far as I can tell, Sheila and you are both still leading by example.
    2884 days ago
    Wow! Your friend really knew how to live and how to inspire others. I know you miss her! I'm not going to forget this "crazy is easy" line for a very long time.
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  • JCL129
    Thank you Jo, for sharing your friend Sheila. I really needed to hear that today. Those three little words will help me keep focused.
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  • WYND10
    Your friend, and you, are right. Crazy IS easy. Thank you for the reminder. :)
    2884 days ago
    What a great story! I think I will use that saying to help move me on the days I don't want to. You honor your friend by remembering her so fondly!
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    What a nice story! What a great friend she was. Nice to have that as your reminder! emoticon emoticon
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    That is a remarkable story, what an inspiration! You are so right when you say that you want to be a winner and that giving up is easy. It is way harder to hang in there, but at the end it was all worth it!! emoticon emoticon
    2884 days ago
    This is really touching. I, too, am borrowing this quote. Crazy is aheckava lot easier than focus, determination, and discipline.
    2884 days ago
    I'm going to add that to my fav quotes! I love that SP is not the "easy way out!"
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