In yesterday's blog, I touched on using the phrase, "I'm only human." I thought about that later and surmised that people use that phrase either as an excuse, an explanation, or as an apology.
.....We hear this all the time. Yes, I've even seen it here on Spark many times. A person says they ate this or that thing they didn't want to because [insert a million reasons here] --parent issues, work troubles, the family made me do it, and so on. Now of course there is always reasons for our behavior. They don't have to be "good" reasons, but much of our behavior is a result of cause and effect. I had a bad day at work so I ate a pint of Ben & Jerry's. If we really look at that, it would be obvious how disconnected and unrealistic the choice is. We ate the ice cream and guess what, the problem at work is still there and not only that, we've added more emotional baggage like being disgusted with ourselves and maybe even put on a pound or so which will spiral into more self-loathing. Recognize when using the I'm only human excuse is just a cop-out -- a ready-made reason to misbehave. Kinda like the expression, boys will be boys. It's really just giving the nod to bad behavior.
.....Some people are pragmatic. They have an "is what it is" view of things. They are not judgmental even if what they are saying may seem harsh. They are just stating a fact really without passing judgment about it. So when a pragmatic person says, "I'm only human," they are basically just recognizing their limitations. It's not a cop-out for them, but an acknowledgment that humans make mistakes.
.....This is the category I fall in. I know it sounds funny, but I'm an apologist for my bad behavior. When I say, "I'm only human," it really is an apology for being weak. Like the pragmatist, I recognize that we're flawed, but I think I can do better and don't just accept 'it is what is.' Maybe I shouldn't really use the word apology, because I see being human as motivation to do better.
Of course, the dynamics of human behavior is much more complex than that, but you may recognize yourself in one of those descriptions. So many things in our lives are totally out of our control. Sometimes, we can only observe or react. But weight loss is one of the things that is definitely within our control. I haven't heard of any instances where people are being forced to eat things they don't want. You are in control of your hand-to-mouth movements. YOU! Not mommy, daddy, husband, wife, boss or co-worker. Not even your Spark friends. Just YOU.
Yes, human beings are flawed. We all know people have the capacity for the worst kinds of behavior. But, there is another side that can excel and do great things. I choose to be inspired by that side. I choose to strive for perfections and even if I don't achieve it, I'll fall somewhere close by it. If I say for 365 days I'm going to eat between 1200 and 1550 calories and I only make it for 340 of those days, I believe I've done darn good. No excuses, no it is what it is, but instead every day being as strong as I can for as long as I can. What do you mean when you say, "I'm only human?" Is it an Excuse, an Explanation, or an Apology.