Tuesday, April 20, 2010
Let me let you in on a little secret you most likely were not aware of:
You are perfect just the way you are.
Yup you read right.
As you sit in front of your computer drinking in every word you read, YOU, the person who believes they are so full of fatal flaws and all that other melodramatic stuff we put ourselves though, that YOU, is perfect just the way they are.
Know what? You don’t believe it any more than I do!!! We read about it write about it, talk about it, pray about it and then discard it to try to be like the person next door or down the block or in the cubicle next to us. We want to be taller, shorter, thinner, brighter more attractive and we invest thousands of hours and hundreds of dollars trying to recreate perfection.
How messed up is that?
You were born with a very unique set of gifts and talents that no one and I mean no one else was given. As soon as you became aware of those gifts and talents you tried to trade them in on another set, someone else’s set. It’s sort of like trying to fit into size five shoes when you are a size eight…. All sorts of issues!!
We become unhappy, so we toss around words like “self discipline,” to correct our perceived wrongs and then we become more unhappy. In my case there was more of me there!!! I got bigger and bigger and blamed it on stress and on bad diet and on the planets not being aligned correctly. Told myself and others I liked to cook, loved to eat and oh well what could I do?
“Uhm John? You could have quit fooling yourself.” No kidding, LOL.
We are so busy trying to change US that we never take the opportunity to simply be us!!! We never discovered who we were and what we were capable of doing so how in the name of the good Lord were we supposed to love ourselves?
“Oh, John!!! If you only knew some of the stuff I did in the past you wouldn’t want to hang with me!!!”
Question: “Everybody in the room who has never, ever screwed up royally and majorly please stand up.” I see everyone is sitting down which means you and I have lots of company. Our mistakes in life have their own personal and unique flavor on them but a mistake is a mistake. If God refuses to reject you, if God loves you so tenderly and deeply despite your faults do you think it’s okay for ME to judge you? I doubt it.
Here’s an idea. I floated it to you yesterday. Instead of dwelling on all the screw ups start writing down one thing a day you do well, something that satisfies you and makes you feel like you are part of that perfect world you claim you don’t belong in. In a year you will have done at least three hundred sixty five great things.
It only takes a second and if you think about it you are only writing down what you are doing anyway, right? Of course, right!
You are perfect just the way you are. Don’t fret or stress. We are not conditioned to act that way. When I started applying in my life the things that had been floating around in my head, the stuff I did well, viola, I started getting healthier, started losing weight, making new friends. (Like YOU!!!)
I want to exercise, maybe not always with a smile on my face and song in my heart, but I know I am worth it.
I woke up this morning and as is my custom I lie in bed and start to review all the stuff I need to get done today.
“Ooops, I didn’t say my prayers.” I spent a few seconds berating myself. I mean God has done so much for me and I had forgotten to say good morning.
As I whipped myself spiritually and emotionally my inner voice spoke to me as said, “Why don’t you just lie there and be quiet for awhile. You don’t always have to be doing or saying something. Just be with me.”
So I did.
That’s when it came to me, I am perfect just the way I am, deeply loved and one of the coolest people on earth. Yes I can be smarter and cooler and I can learn much, much more.
Don’t just do something, sit there.
Have a perfect day, perfect people
Sorry, I forgot. The one thing I do well today has become the motto for my business
“I help good people become better.”