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The slippery slope of careless habits

Wednesday, April 07, 2010



The slippery-sliding slope of careless habits is so easy to fall back on...and unfortunately I've landed there with a big *PLOP.* That's part of why I'm cutting back on my Spark time. Ironic isn't it that the site that offers me so many resources for vibrant good health is also the temptress (because of all the peripheral toys and SparkFriends to play with) that cause me to "while away" valuable time that could be better spent FOR INSTANCE on my Trek or doing strength training.



But I certainly can't give all the blame of having found myself 20 pounds over my goal weight to my excessive SP time per se...my crazy out-of-control mind is hugely culpable as well. Controlling the monkey mind is my big challenge in this life. If I control it, it is my best friend, if it controls me it is my worst enemy, as the Bhagavad Gita so wisely says in chapter six (and I love Sri Easwaran's translation -- tinyurl.com/ye2w76p )



Eknath Easwaran's Thoughts for the Day are a huge source of pithy wisdom for me. Yesterday this arrived in my InBox:

"The first wealth is health."
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Here is Sri Easwaran's commentary on Emerson: "When you regard your life as a trust, you realize that the first resource you have to take care of is your own body. This can be startling. Even your body is not really your own. It belongs to life, and it is your responsibility to take care of it. You cannot afford to do anything that injures your body, because the body is the instrument you need for selfless action. That is the fine print of the trust agreement: when we smoke, when we overeat, when we don't get enough exercise, we are violating the terms of the trust.

"If you want to live life at its fullest, you will want to do everything possible to keep your body in vibrant health in order to give back to life a little of what it has given you."
www.easwaran.org/Thought
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I must also share today's Thought, because like the preceding commentary it too is SO on-target for me here-and-now:



"If one who enjoys a lesser happiness beholds a greater one, let him leave aside the lesser to gain the greater."
-- The Buddha

Easwaran comments: "The Buddha, the most practical of teachers, says that wisdom is essentially discrimination -- the precious capacity to see what is important in the long run and then choose our course of action accordingly.

"Most of us are vigilant when making big decisions, but less so when dealing with little ones. We forget the cumulative effect of all those missed "little" opportunities. It is precisely on those thousand little occasions, and over a period of time, that the mind is taught to be calm and kind (and make everyday wise choices) -- not instantaneously or by great leaps. In the ordinary choices of every day we begin to change the direction of our lives."


The instant gratification of short-sighted behaviors has gotten me into this *trouble.* Getting my eye back on the goal, which requires that I release those immediate pleasures that ultimately result in long-term grief is what I'm about these days.

This means, for instance, that although I will appreciate and profit from any and all comments that these words might *Spark* I may not be able to take the time to respond. I need to be smart about my priorities if I intend to reach my long-term goals.

Gotta' say though, that the friendships I've made here on SparkPeople are amazing and strong and just as important to me as my dear 3-D friends (and at least nine SFriends have transformed to 3-D friends all across the country, with more to follow hopefully during my summer camper adventures!!!) Bowing in gratitude to all of you for all you offer as we tread this path to better health of Body*Mind*Spirit together!

Blessed be!
Maha
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SUDEAUX 4/17/2010 5:16PM

    Thank you for your honesty about too much SP and not enuf working the program. Some people wouldn't even cop to it.

I sometimes *reward* myself with stuff (more free time, computer time) after I finish my walk, yoga, etc.

Just don't vanish on us now that we've gotten to know such a neat person as yourself.

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SUCHAHOOT 4/10/2010 11:15PM

    Balance, balance, balance. It's so tough to maintain. Have a rest and a hug. I just stopped for a while myself. It's so easy to while away the hours here.

xxoo
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CMRAND54 4/8/2010 9:18PM

    Your blog is so true. I am tempted to avoid the treadmill so I have more Spark time. But I get so much out of being on Spark People! Balance is the key.

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MAZZYR 4/8/2010 10:45AM

    Well, this blog speaks to me as do the comments that follow. Thank you for sharing YOU and your thoughts.

Take good care of you... with loving kindness and Hugs from me too.
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STLRZGRRL 4/8/2010 9:54AM

    Ya, ya, ya... What I could USE is a little cooperation from this body, ya know!?!?!

I think it's testing me to see if I really mean to take care of it this time... My body is such a child... crossing its arms and steadfastly shaking it's head "NO!"

Hm.

I guess ONE of us has to be the adult around here... Come here, Body... Imma give you a BIG hug now...

And one for Maha, too!!!
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AZIMAT 4/8/2010 9:24AM

    Timely words. Thanks so much.

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LYNNANN43 4/8/2010 9:10AM

    Maha, take all the time you need, dear friend.

And if you happening to be traveling to the northeast, please consider stopping by to visit me & Tee:D

Namaste

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XINIXINIX 4/8/2010 8:07AM

    I *just* finished writing about my own slippery slopes having turned into slipper Mt. Everest(s)...so your blog was a *must* read...and I DO so appreaciate it.

Thank you!

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LYNNANN43 4/8/2010 7:41AM

    Maha, take all the time you need, dear friend.

And if you happening to be traveling to the northeast, please consider stopping by to visit me & Tee:D

Namaste

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DDOORN 4/8/2010 3:53AM

    Yep, balance in ALL the aspects of our lives, SparkFamily included, is so important and such a challenge at times!

Don


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MIKIIO 4/8/2010 3:17AM

    So right to the point, once again.
Prioritizing, managing our time, and Living our life is so important, I'm still a "newbie."

Wish you to enjoy at the fullest all these precious "little" moments.

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LEOLO_1 4/8/2010 12:14AM

    so true! emoticon my sister straps her laptop onto her treadmill and walks for an hour while she does email and watches videos...


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BABYFACE26 4/7/2010 11:24PM

    Great blog, Maha, and great wisdom. For me, its been a Facebook addiction! But either way, it's too much time at the computer. The way I look at - taking care of my Body...is that, it's my main job. Because if I don't do it well enough, it will affect my quality of life and the quality of the contribution I make to this world. Be well, my friend. You are such a good writer!

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WATERMELLEN 4/7/2010 10:05PM

    No need to response to all of our responses: just know that we've benefited from reading what you've written, and focus on your MAIN goals! (for me: MAINtaining!!).

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BRIGHTSPARK7 4/7/2010 6:39PM

    Please take excellent care of your body, dear Mahalakshmi. It is doing so much service and deserves your best and kindest attention. Excellent blog. I hope you go back and re-read it.

Less is sometimes more.
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WALKINGANNIE 4/7/2010 6:12PM

    Wise as ever, Maha.

Do what you have to do. Be who you have to be.

You will still be present in our thoughts as one of the 'bold sisterhood' and I will think fondly of you until we 'meet' again.

Be healthy

Annie x

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TAZMOMSGOL 4/7/2010 3:02PM

    Yep. Monkeymind is a plague!

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PENNYAN45 4/7/2010 2:46PM

    Thanks for all the wisdom in this blog today. I especially like the advice to take care of my body because it is my responsibility and because it is the instrument for "selfless action."

Many of us probably spend too much time on SP. As long as I am successfully losing weight, I can justify it to myself. That is so even though much of my time on SP is spent just interacting with people that I like and enjoy.

I am only now beginning to spend some time learning from the many nutritional resources on the site.

I share your feelings about SP friends -- many of them are as important to me as my 3d friends. (You are one of those for me, Maha.)

Now that springtime has arrived, lots of folks here are talking about spending less time on SP so they can enjoy the out-of-doors. We will probably all do that to a certain degree.

But we can all check in now and then to keep in touch.

Have a great time!!




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BAGGYPANTS5 4/7/2010 1:49PM

    And I thought I'd said something to offend! Don't worry, that's just my paranoia speaking. Go and do what you have to do, and we'll all be here cheering you on and waiting, but do come back!! We'll be thinking of you.
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RAYLINSTEPHENS 4/7/2010 1:45PM

    SparkPeople is definitely addictive!

I am constantly reminding myself that I am not exercising when I am sitting at my computer online.

We are here for you when you can work us into your schedule!

Hugs,
Linda

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WANT2CHNG17 4/7/2010 1:37PM

    Oh, so that was YOU I slid past on that slope!!
I've been doing the same thing, except that I've been sucked into the Facebook time warp. UGH.
Great blog (as always), filled with much gentle wisdom. Time to grab onto the rope and pull ourselves UP!

Hugs,
~Mary Ann

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LBIMAMMA 4/7/2010 1:01PM

    It is indeed a slippery slope. Liked this---- "the precious capacity to see what is important in the long run and then choose our course of action accordingly".
May we continue to make good choices!
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DARKTHOR 4/7/2010 11:53AM

    There is something to the idea of too much SP time can equate to too little time spent 'just getting moving'. Do what you need to do for your own health and happiness.

BTW, I finished Joy Harjo's 'How We Became Human' and am now in the middle of 'Three Cups of Tea'. I am loving this book! Thanks for turning me on to it. Have you ever read 'Ishmael' by Daniel Quinn? I would highly recommend it. It changed how I looked at people. Cheers!

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FRANCESCANAZ 4/7/2010 11:28AM

    Oh we love & appreciate you too! I wish we were closer so we could both take out our Treks and go for a nice long ride together. I totally get what you are saying about the time spent on SP. emoticon too but I have got to do less typing and more exercising.

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MSDESERTRODENT 4/7/2010 11:17AM

    Oh I so love this blog!!!!!
It's all so darn true!

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PONDERTHIS 4/7/2010 9:55AM

    Thank you for a very thought-provoking post. NNTR = no need to reply. :) Just know that you do have friends who missed you.
Love and light,
Anne
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SHANTRA 4/7/2010 9:36AM

    "If one who enjoys a lesser happiness beholds a greater one, let him leave aside the lesser to gain the greater."
-- The Buddha

Thank you SO much for sharing this with us, I love it. It is now one of my favorite quotes because it is very relevant to where I am too.

Lot of wisdom in this blog, good luck with focusing more but please let us know how you are doing even if you only blog.

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MISS_VIV 4/7/2010 9:21AM

    Thank you this morning for this beautiful blog. A wealth of information and one that hits right in the heart of the matter. I so totally agree with you and Easwaran's thought for the day. I find that my days are becoming so full of little things now that I have gotten away from spending so much time in the sparking.
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DEBRA_T 4/7/2010 9:18AM

    Struggling a little myself the past week, I commented to a priest-psychoanalyst friend of mine that sometimes knowing how we're all on this speeding bullet train called life and that each of us in turn will be thrown off the train at some unspecified future date, I think why deny myself pleasure now? He said, well, we're always denying ourselves something. What gets denied within and without you so that one can have the pleasure of eating is a question well worth thinking about.

Cheers, Debra
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