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Why Linda6105 started this journey!

Friday, April 02, 2010

Okay so the assignment for this challenge was, 'Write a blog sometime this week and remind yourself why you started this journey."

Wow! There are a number of things that I could say here, however I'm a believer that the hardest is the one that causes the most growth. So, I'll blog on that.
Last year about this time (3-18-09) you remember this kind of date as it affects your life so profoundly. My family was told that our Father had 3 months to live. He was dying of a rare form of cancer, mesothelioma. There was nothing that could be done for him. Nothing, that was hard to except but except it we must and try to enjoy the little time we had left with Dad. We had 2 different family reunions as not everyone could make it at the same time. We were also able to celebrate Dad’s 77th birthday on June 1st and then his home going on the 18th day of June. We have a very large family there are 13 children & spouses, 46 grandchildren & spouses, 56 great-Grandchildren & spouses, 4 great-great-grandchildren, that’s a total of 119 decedents from Mom & Dad. I along side of my Mother cared for my Dad for the next 3 months. We had days of joy and days of tears and the fear of loss. My Dad was concerned to have to leave us all behind, especially Mom one day he talked with me about taking care of her when he was gone (I’m the oldest of his 7 children). During that talk he said “You have to take care of yourself to be able to take care of Mom.” I knew what he was talking about as I was experiencing a lot of medical; problems most of the common ones associated to being over weight. My Father died exactly 3 months to the day, on June 18th.
For the next 2 months, I found that one learns to live with the loss, the tragedy, the waste, and the gaping hole in the fabric of one's life. There is no closure, nor would I want one. I want to remember him all my life, vividly: his laughter, the smell of his Aspen cologne just after he had shaved, his moments of joy, his humility, and his integrity. So on Aug. 13th,2009 I found SparkPeople and joined. That’s why I started this journey, because the end of Dad's earthly journey.

Daddy you are greatly missed.

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  • DSG1955
    I'm sorry for your loss of your dad. Thank you for sharing with us, about your family. emoticon
    2622 days ago
    emoticon Linda for sharing your very moving story. Your dad sounds like an amazing dad. It's great that you were able to help care for him and spend such precious times with him. I know too that with God's help you will be a great caregiver for your mom. I sure that our Father in heaven is pleased with how you are caring for His temple, your body, and for your very precious mom.
    It is so important for us to take care of our bodies, since they are the temple of the living God.
    If we keep His temple clean and in good working order physically and spiritually, we will be fit for our Master's use.
    I am praying that I will be able to do as good a job as you are doing caring for your aging parents. Mine are 87, and 88 years old, and are still taking care of each other. We only have to go over about once a week to do things around the house that they can no longer do.
    You are a great inspiration sister!
    emoticon to you from Ruthie emoticon
    2898 days ago
  • MAUR28
    WOW! what a touching story...and so very meanignful as well. He is right- you must take care of yourself first in order to take care of others! You are doing a great job of it too! And you are helping so many of us along to the way! Thanks!
    2904 days ago
    Wow I can really tell a difference in your face!
    2907 days ago
    Linda, I am sorry to read of your loss. It is so interesting how much you and I have in common. I lost my Dad April 9th of last year. I never want to forget 1 thing about him. My Dad had a laugh that if you were in the other room and you heard it you would smile. It was that joyful. God is so lucky to have him. Happy Easter. Sherry
    2907 days ago
  • MARY1313
    Oh Linda! I'm so sorry for the loss of your Dad. What a sweet face he had.

    I am here too because of what I saw my Mom suffer through, all because of her weight. I don't want to be confined to my bed for the last 15 years of my life.

    Today would have been my Mom's 78th birthday. I lost her three years ago and then last year, my brother who I know grieved himself to death over the loss of my Mother. He lived with her and took care of her and they were best friends.

    It is the profound things in our lives that we learn the most from. I am so glad you are here and that you are my friend. I have really enjoyed all of the scripture that you have shared here and it never fails to lift me up!

    God Bless,

    2907 days ago
    I'm so sorry about your dad. You were very brave to write about it. I hope that it helped you in some way. Since my dad has had heart disease for the last 6 years, I decide it was time to get healthy myself so I wouldn't put my family through what we've when through with my dad. He had open heart surgery and since then he's had several stents put in. Last time he went into Afib. It's been so hard on us. I don't want my family to have to go through it with me. Sparkpeople is a great site. It helps keep me on track. God bless you.
    2907 days ago
    Great blog. Great reason to start this journey.

    2907 days ago
    I agree it is a wonderful story. I am glad you have such found memories of your Dad
    2908 days ago
    2908 days ago
    What a beautiful and touching story! Thanks for sharing it.
    emoticon family!
    2908 days ago
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