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Halfway There


Sunday, March 28, 2010

As of this morning I am slightly more than half way towards my original weight goal. When I began, what has become the seventh best experience in my life, (My wedding day and birth of six kids ranks one through six.) I set a goal of losing one hundred pounds. As I wrote it I was way skeptical. I couldn’t imagine me one hundred pounds lighter.

The Spark was published two weeks after I joined and I devoured it. I was comfortable that no one tried to sell me a drug or a program and I didn’t feel like Chris was pointing a finger in my face and telling me I was some sort of evil nasty person for not always living a healthy life style. I felt like he was welcoming me to participate in a process that would finally give me the confidence to put together in a logical and cogent order all the ideas that had been floating around in my head for so long.

Then there are all of you. So, so many of you that along the way gave me tips, gave me encouragement and gave me the best gift I believe anyone can give anyone else, your friendship. When I get up in the morning and head out the door I look over my shoulder and I see all of you clapping and waving and yelling “Go John.” I mean who couldn’t succeed with friends like you guys?

So for what it’s worth here is what I have learned so far and even some stuff that didn’t work but I learned from:

I decided I was not on a diet. To that end I am only going to weigh myself every two weeks. This happened quite by accident to begin with. I was out of town for a funeral last weekend and Sunday is my weigh in day. I didn’t get home until Monday and I decided to wait until today. But I noticed last week that I was more relaxed not worrying about the Satan called a scale. (I got that phrase of a really good Spark friend) I made good food choices because one day I will reach my goal weight and instead of going OMG, stressing out and eating everything see, I will know how to act and behave. I realize it may take me a little longer than I’d like to get the next fifty pounds off but I need to learn to be comfortable with me. Once it’s gone I have promised myself it isn’t coming back.

Take what the room gives you in relationship to exercise. I darn near put myself in intensive care a month into this experience. I was up to forty minutes a day of cardio, seven days a week and posted a blog that said I was going to go to fifty five minutes a day and then a month later fifty minutes a day. My body wasn’t ready. I am still comfortably doing forty minutes, seven days a week. I am cheering on my younger and more durable Spark friends who are performing at a higher level. I am gaining strength and I am getting healthier so for right now I am staying at forty minutes a day. I do plan on starting to add strength and core training. In two weeks I am beginning a class on developing abs and core on the stability ball and using resistance bands. It meets twice a week for one half hour and it lasts four weeks. When I have completed that course I am going to look into retaining a personal trainer.

I made myself a priority and let everyone I love know I was doing so and why. Mostly we fail because we fail to communicate. I told my wife and my family what I wanted to do and why it was important. They understood. When people know WHY you are doing something they either help you along or get out of the way. I do miss my wing eatin’ beer drinkin’ buddies sometimes but as I am so fond of saying, “You are who you hang around with.”

As I posted yesterday I am starting to explore living healthier by eating less or eventually no meat. I am doing this slowly and I am going to research it completely before I get into it. I want to be successful if I do.

My stress level has decreased because I am reaching goal I have set for myself and so my self esteem is higher. Some people who know me live and in person cant believe I have/had a self esteem issue. But if you have been or are overweight you know what I am talking about. No matter how good you feel there is always that guilt or shame. By reaching small goals I feel better and know I can accomplish more.
I have two affirmations I read over and over:

“They way you see the world is the way you see yourself.”

“If I can find an excuse not to do something, I can find a reason to do it.”

Finally, I really believe that positive energy is the greatest healing tool God gave us. I have been profoundly affected by each of you and am grateful for you.

Have a great day

Love
John
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CRANBERRYKITTY 3/30/2010 9:51PM

    Although I have only known you for a short time, I am very, very proud of you.

Thank you for sharing this today.

Best wishes,
Sydney

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LAWRALOO 3/29/2010 2:53PM

    I am so proud of you :)
You've come a long ways since you joined spark and I have enjoyed being a part of your journey. :)

Thanks for always keeping me positive :) You're made of awesome!

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BECCALYNN75 3/29/2010 2:05PM

    John, almost everytime I read one of your blogs there is a statement that I feel I could have written myself. This time it was:

"Some people who know me live and in person cant believe I have/had a self esteem issue. But if you have been or are overweight you know what I am talking about. No matter how good you feel there is always that guilt or shame"

Just this weekend someone very close to me asked me why I was so insecure about certain things. Because they have never been overweight they never realized the insecurity that causes. It was also a good learning experience for me too, in that I never consider the fact that naturally thin/fit people might not realize that.

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VALERIEMAHA 3/29/2010 1:14PM

    I followed my friend GIRANIMIAL here to see what "halfway" we were talking about! MOST IMPRESSIVE!!!!!! And your attitude through the blog is quite amazing really. Besides the discipline and consistency that you need, the support and compassion of the SparkCommunity is definitely a factor in the ongoing motivation needed to achieve what you have...I quite agree with you!

Spark On!!!
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GIRANIMAL 3/29/2010 1:01PM

    emoticon , John, on reaching your halfway mark! It really feels great doesn't it, especially when you once were skeptical about the feasibility of your original goal. I know that feeling!

Your consistency and self-confidence are inspiring as ever -- and I really need it today, so thanks!

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CMBELISLE 3/29/2010 12:14PM

    Woo Hoo! Time to do the happy dance for John - he's halfway to goal! Way to go!

Best of luck with leaving off meat. I most likely won't be joining you on that journey - as the hubby says, those eye teeth are in there for a reason. emoticon I am however eating smaller portions and increasing the varieties by adding fish more often to my beef, chicken and pork rotation.

Have a great week!

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TWENKY215 3/29/2010 10:31AM

    Congratulations! Amazing is how I know you are feeling right now. emoticon

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OHYESITSME1 3/29/2010 7:25AM

    Congratulations! What an amazing feeling that must be!

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REMODELINGPAT 3/28/2010 9:27PM

    The halfway point is definitely something to celebrate!
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PINETREEGIRL 3/28/2010 8:04PM

    John, I'm so happy to have you in my network of supporters. I love your posts. I'm excited that you're working so hard toward what you want!
This is my favorite quote (roughly) from your page:
"Do you want a good reason to be happy? Look in the mirror--that is your reason to be happy."
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FIT2BME2010 3/28/2010 5:17PM

    Great post!! Your doing great! emoticon

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TINKERBELL200 3/28/2010 4:58PM

    Congrats on being 1/2 way there John! I know since I reached my goal I have had so much more confidence in myself. It's great when you wear a new outfit and everyone says Wow you look great! What size are you wearing now? I have a great support system too, my hubby and kids, and church and work! What more could you ask for? Keep on keepin on and you'll get there! emoticon You're doing emoticon !
Just look at it as Phase ll of your journey!
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LUNADRAGON 3/28/2010 3:53PM

    Bravo! Well done! Keep it up!
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CRYSELLE 3/28/2010 3:31PM

    Congrats John, you are so totally Awesome :) emoticon

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TEENY_BIKINI 3/28/2010 2:23PM

    Wow!!! That is amazing.

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BARBARAROCKSIT 3/28/2010 2:18PM

    WooHoo! Half-way! Incredible awesomeness!

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TAZZIEGIRL 3/28/2010 1:06PM

    You are doing great. I'm a carnivore so I doubt I will be giving up meat any time soon though.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/28/2010 12:46PM

    emoticon You are doing great!! Keep it up!!

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STORMTMB 3/28/2010 12:09PM

    Congrats on being half way there. I'm thinking that your new class will change your body and your metabolism in a great way and give you yet another boost toward your final goal. Keep it up and thanks for sharing the journey, Dude.

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