Thursday, March 25, 2010
How come some people/families face more hardships, trials and tragedies than others?? Is it just the way it is?? Is it payback for some dreadful wrong that may have happened generations back?? While I know that God never inflicts pain, sickness or horror on people and that He is not the source of these evils, I also know that He is the One who ALLOWS the bad things to happen. While everyone faces hardships at one time or another, why do some people face much more than others??
Take my late friend Marissa's family for example: Marissa's parents are God-loving, amazing people. Her parents pastored a church and were in ministry for quite some time. When Marissa's younger brother was born, they found out with time that he was mentally and physically (to some degree) handicapped. Maurice can't really speak or take care of himself and has been in special schools and programs all his life. Even now as an adult he is in a special day program and needs the daily assistance of a nursing aide. Not only did this family have to deal with a challenged family member, but when Marissa and Maurice were children, their dad was diagnosed with Brain Cancer and died, leaving her mom a widow with a sick son. As if that wasn't enough, 2 years ago Marissa died of cancer too. On top of this, Marissa's mom has faced some relatively serious medical problems of her own. ((Please pray for her, as you can imagine what it is like to lose a husband and a daughter, being left to tend to your grief and ill son)).
Today I heard more bad news for another family who has been through an excessive amount of hardship as well, kind of like Marissa's.
I KNOW we all go through hard times and I want you to understand what I'm trying to say: While everyone goes through hard times, there are just some people and some families where the hard times never seem to end; where they get more and more horrific each time. My question is WHY?! What makes these families different than another?? What is the reason that their amount of suffering is greater than mine?? Are their Biblical answers to this?! I mean, of course Paul suffered many hardships but most were a result of persecution. But take Job for example. Why were his sufferings so much more intensive and prolonged than let's say Daniel or Joseph?
I know we all go through hard times. It's a part of life. I just don't understand who decides who goes through what and what that decision is based on. I'm looking for answers. Any comments or insights would be helpful.