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    CHERYLK08  
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Sorry all, been MIA for a while....


Saturday, March 20, 2010

Sorry all, been pre-occupied and in all honesty it will probably continue off and one for a while longer.

Last Sunday my Dad was found unconscious in his home. The best guess is that he had been that way since some time Friday night. Thank goodness my Dad is a creature of habit and the neighbors noticed that lights stayed on and the paper didn't get picked up. After several phone calls and banging on the door the fire department and ambulance were called. They had to break in and found him lying outside his bedroom in the hallway.

He has several health issues and is doing better, but we may never know what caused his blackout. He will be going home with my "middle" sister after he is strong enough to move around on his own and such like. The hard part is when he realizes that he will not be going home to his house to live. He has reached a point in his life that for his own safety he needs to live with some one else.

It has been real hard being almost 700 miles away. Not being able to visit him in the hospital. Not being there, but we have to choose carefully when we go back for health issues. We just can't take off every time. 1) can't afford too and 2) work won't put up with it if it happens too much. I was assured, by my sisters, that everything is okay for now and a trip is not required at this time, that does not mean that I haven't worried about everything.

I have talked to my Dad on the phone and he sounds a little stronger each time so he is on the mend, he just has to regain his strength and get his meds adjusted to help him. Anyway just wanted to let you all know that you haven't seen the last of me yet. I'll just be a little scarce.

Thanks for understanding,
Cheryl
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102633 5/8/2010 8:32AM

    Hey Cheryl,

I see from your status update that your dad is out of the hospital at the present time. We haven't heard from you in a while but we do still think of you and are praying for your dad and for you.

I am sure that posting a blog on Sparkpeople is the last thing on your mind most days but keep us updated on how everything is going.

This weekend is Mother's Day and it is my prayer that you will have a joyous and happy day. I am sure that you are a special person to all of your family and you deserve to be recognized for all that you do.

Keep the Faith and God Bless!!

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ANDIHALLI 4/27/2010 2:15PM

    Cheryl
I'm so sorry to hear about your dad.
It's hard to see a parent failing like this.
You are strong.
If you need to talk or vent, please feel free to sparkmail me.
I'm a good listener.
My dad passed away 13 years ago and I was 500 miles from him.
My dad and I were close.
Big Hugs my friend
Andi

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JOHNNASMOM 4/14/2010 11:36AM

    This kind of thing is SO difficult. I had to place my mother in a long term care facility, due to a stroke, while I was pregnant with my daughter. I am an only child, but at least I was close and can visit regularly.
I will continue to remember you and your family during this difficult time.....
Lori
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MSLZZY 4/12/2010 7:25AM

    I hope your dad is getting better. Take care of yourself!

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MANDORA3 4/7/2010 3:36PM

    Take care of yourself...Here is to a quick recovery of your father. emoticon

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GLAMIT 4/3/2010 9:00AM

    Hope your Dad is feeling better.

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102633 3/21/2010 11:30PM

    Cheryl,

Thanks for the heads up on my spark page about your blog. I am so sorry that you are experiencing all of this with your Dad. I will certainly place him and you on my prayer list.

As far as being geographically distanced from your Dad - it will be a sacrifice but take the time when you can to be as close to him as often as possible. We never know what tomorrow will bring so make the most of every minute that we can have with those we love.

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WEKIMER 3/21/2010 11:47AM

    Cheryl, so glad your Dad is ok now. I'll pray for him and for your peace of mind. It's really hard when you are so far away. I have the same problem and my parents are both getting up there in years and my mom has dementia. Both won't admit there is a time when they might not be able to live alone. Hugs. kim

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JAE_HENNINGTON 3/21/2010 9:36AM

  you have certainly have been missed, and glad to know what has been happening. my thoughts and prayers to you and your family and this difficult time

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ALEXSGIRL1 3/20/2010 8:12PM

    i hope you dad is on the mend will pray for your family. emoticon

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SEATTLE9 3/20/2010 7:55PM

    It's so hard. I'm thinking of you.

My kids' Dad went through stroke alone at home and heart issues for a while, and I was comforting, advising, and directing behind the scenes. After a while things settled down to a level where he is ok, but never to return to the way things were. I think I am sharing this with you because after the period of physical issues and frantic grown children, things did become easier for everyone. What I told my kids, some of which did not have much of a relationship with him, just do what you will be comfortable to look back on. Maybe that means more regular phone calls, or listening to the long rants, or sending funny cards every week. I do know regular little things mean so much more than one major trip.

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ABERLAINE 3/20/2010 6:52PM

    It is so hard when our parents get old. My mom and dad moved to Florida when my kids were little. We spent most of our school vacations with them.

When my dad got sick (after my mom died), I spent lots of time on a plane flying from New York to Florida. Nothing could be done: he wouldn't move back to New York and all his kids lived in the northeast.

Finally, I got a call from his "girlfriend" that he was not doing well. I got down there to talk to him one last time.

It's never easy. ~~ Nancy

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