Monday, March 01, 2010
Some of you know that my boyfriend Jim has recently become a part of his 15 year old daughter's life (Kiersten). Last September, he finally got to see her again after a 5 year absence. He was over the moon, but sad that he still didn't have any contact with his oldest daughter, Aleia. Kiersten lives here in Spokane with her mother & grandmother, and was much easier to get in touch with. Aleia, however, lives with her mother & step-father in Oregon, and it took us a few years to track them down. Jim and his ex-wife are not on speaking terms, and Jim hasn't seen her or Aleia in 17 1/2 years. All of his efforts to be a part of Aleia's life have been met with resistance by her mother, and this has been very hard on him.
This past Saturday, Aleia responded toJim online, letting him know that she is no longer living with her mother. She turns 18 this month, graduates in May, and has invited us to her graduation! Suddenly, Jim is a proud papa, and I am practically a step-mama! This is the most amazing thing to ever happen to us. I have always wanted children, but never had any. Jim has wanted to be a father to his children but was not allowed. Now, suddenly, we have 2 daughters who are almost grown women! We have both been overflowing with emotion for the last few days, overcome with joy and clinging to each other endlessly. I am so overwhelmed with excitement that I am constantly on the verge of tears (happy tears, of course!), as is he.
Both girls are such beautiful young ladies, and both are very sweet and very intelligent. I don't know if Kiersten knows what she wants to do after high-school, but Aleia is determined to be a pediatrician, she is one very ambitious young woman! I cannot wait to get to know both of them better, and if I can't be a mom, I can at least be a loving mother-figure and a friend.
Life can be so amazingly beautiful, can't it?