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Response to Maxim's Article encouraging men to cheat!!!!!!!!!

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

After checking the mail today, I was sorting out what belonged to me and my husband and what belonged to our roommates and I came across something that has ignited a rage in me that I need to vent about. I have never told my husband what to read, what to watch, how to dress, how to do anything, I just encourage or discourage depending on how I feel about something. But today, I discovered that there is one thing I will NEVER allow to happen. EVER! He is never allowed to buy and/or bring home a Maxim Magazine.

I’ve known for some time now that my roommate has a subscription to Maxim. Being a plus size woman, I’ve always been offended about the way they portray women in skimpy, barely-there clothing that hardly passes the bar of pornography. Well, I guess it’s not just a plus size thing, I just feel for any woman who has to look at this on the shelves at a store, let alone at home on the coffee table. Today, Maxim really pushed my buttons. I was glancing at the cover and saw in bold lettering, “Sex: Cheat and Don’t Get Caught; Women Tell You How.” ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!!!!!!????? So, curious and pissed off I flipped to the article, “Have Your Cake…and Eat It, Too” with the subtitle “Want a Foolproof Guide to Cheating and Getting Away With It? Take Some Tips From the Pros: Women,” written by Gillian Telling. This writer should be absolutely ashamed of herself.

In Telling’s article, she has tips for men and why they work. Here are some of the examples:

Make Your Girl a Guy: This actually suggests that a man having an affair change his mistress’s name to a a guy’s so that when his girlfriend or wife sees texts or calls coming in frequently she’ll just assume it’s from a friend. DISGUSTING!
A woman named Kelsey (assuming names have been changed) encourages a man to always be reachable so that his woman won’t think he’s doing the dirty with the skank from the office. Nice, huh? And this woman goes on to describe how this worked for her with her own adultery!

Don’t Date Your Fling: advised by Mara who says “F***, don’t date. Period. Don’t meet up for coffee, don’t confide in each other about your lives, don’t even exchange numbers if you can avoid it. Just F***.” UNBELIEVABLE!!!!!!!!!!!!

My question is, who the hell would be okay with writing this article. I hope that woman can’t sleep at night, nor any of the women who have made these suggestions. There are so few good men in the world who don’t drool over every long legged size 2 that walks in front of him. So, why the hell would you hand this magazine with this article in it to a man, who granted probably isn’t all that great if he’s buying it in the first place, and encourage him to cheat and teach him how to get away with it? What the hell could you possibly be thinking????

Yes, I know that my husband will always be faithful to me because our marriage is strong, open, honest, loving and fulfilling, but I still wouldn’t allow him to read this magazine or bring it into my house. If any man purchases this filthy excuse for a magazine they are helping to pay this woman’s salary and therefore encouraging more articles like this to be published, and heightening the risk of turning the few good men left in this world into lying, cheating, scumbag pigs. NEVER, EVER will I allow this trash into my home.
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    Lame as hell. Yikes.
    2755 days ago
    ooooh girl... i totally agree and i am a guy... let me say how irritated i was to just see the magazine when i was at work (i am a stylist) laying in the magazine rack... but then reading the article after i took it out of rotation for clients to see, i was at first amused... thinking really women are this doggie... then it was like wow way to break up a relationship, that article broke all sorts of trust barriers for couples guilty or not.
    2760 days ago
  • FINESSE910
    If you need to cheat- you shouldn't be in a relationship. This is so sickening. In a way, I am ecstatic that I read this response and didn't even see the article because my first thought was: What is this world coming to? But seeing all these responses makes me feel a little more hope.

    This is so sad. Cheaters, female or male, really need to come to terms with a lot of stuff in their life. Karma's really going to leave a big bite out of their ass- and I hope it looks like cellulite.
    2768 days ago
    wow. thats stupid. my bf is never allowed to look at that magazine now!! lol.
    2768 days ago
    Ugh. Just... ugh.
    2768 days ago
    My husband gets Maxim. I saw the article. I don't really care - him cheating on me or not has nothing to do with the magazine. It's just a magazine.
    2768 days ago
    Wow! What the hell?! Someone should write a letter to the editor!
    2771 days ago
    Wow that is terrible! It worries me that the magazine actually feels they have the target audience to read this - they wouldn't publish it if they didn't think it would be well received. UGH
    2771 days ago
    WOW i cant believe that!!! that would have pissed me off too! if you really feel the need to go and be with someone else, then why dont people just cut off their current relationship to be with that person??? its not that hard...i dont see a reason for cheating and it only hurts everyone involved. My FH and i had been dating since we were 15/16 years old. when i turned 21 i had met someone at the bar. i could've cheated on him with this person, but i had too much respect for my bf at the time and told him i had met someone and wanted to see where it would go. we broke up for about a year, both dated other people, and now a few years later, we are getting ready to be married. this whole scenario could've turned out COMPLETELY different had i chose to cheat. but i didnt, and it turned out perfect! Honesty is the key!

    so glad you posted this, i cant believe someone could live with themselves for writing it....i would expect this from a man, but deff not a woman!
    2771 days ago
    "My question is, who the hell would be okay with writing this article." Good question. That's nuts. I would have been ticked off too.

    for real!!
    2772 days ago
    Disgusting. Is cheating supposed to be cute or funny? My husband cheated on me when our baby was a few months old and I left him. So here I am with a 1 year old, living at my moms, and going through a divorce. My son will never have a holiday as a family, a birthday as a family, etc. It's not cute or funny. It's serious and can destroy lives. Women like that (and men) should be ashamed. But they are probably too damn selfish to ever care or realize the harm that they are doing.
    2772 days ago
    wtf i am a guy and this article irritated me why if a person is in a relationship and there happy why would they need to cheat. if a person is dumb enough to cheat the they should be caught. they should have more articles helping people catch cheaters. this will be the last maxim magazine i ever buy. and people wonder why people cheat its crap like this that is wrecking marriage's and relationships. i was very suprised that there were no other guys posts on this. i have been in a relationship for 3 years and would never think about cheating. what is very amazing is that a women wrote the article.
    2772 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/18/2010 9:27:20 PM
    The laws of attraction say that what you put out there will come back to you. More than likely these women cheat and get cheated on like a revolving door and they probably tend to date guys that do the same. Lots of low self esteem going on in those circles.
    2773 days ago
    Tiger Woods must have read this magazine!
    2773 days ago
  • JULIE2719
    The last virtue of a decadent society is tolerance for everything. Good for you for being outraged.
    2773 days ago
  • SUGIRL06
    At least you have a great guy that wouldn't even bat an eye at that article except for maybe out of sheer curiosity of what other idiot guys are doing to sabotage their relationships! I am not really surprised they put an article like that in there. No magazines are very good. I agree with ABBYONORMAL who said to also thing about some women's magazines that are no better! I'll stick to my fitness magazines, thanks!
    2773 days ago
    Wow that article sounds so stupid. However, anyone who would take serious advice from a magazine is probably an idiot anyway and would probably already be the type of person to cheat. It's no less infuriating though so I totally get your point!!
    2773 days ago
    So I debated for a good 30 seconds on weather to post a rebuttle just for the sake of open mindedness...I do not want to start anything, I just think both sides should be viewed. I understand your side completely. Now, here's my view point.
    Think of how many women's magazines there are out there. Think of how many skinny, barely dressed women are in them as well. Think also of the Cosmo articles. I've seen several that are on par with Maxium, in terms of infidelity. If you are going to hate and loathe a magazine for men promoting this, also look at the other side as well. I enjoy Maxim, its full of great stuff, and some stuff (like this!) that is purely for those guys that are absolutly retarded. .02 :)
    2773 days ago
    Yep...retarded....as many men can be. If a guy's going to cheat, he's stupid anyway, so why bother even touching those kinds of guys. The types of guys that read that stuff are probably not in great committed relationships anyway, or they just buy the magazine to waste brain cells looking at air-brushed pictures.
    2773 days ago
    Good for you for standing up for what is good, true , right and honest! nothing wrong with getting angry at this!
    I would too!
    SOMEBODY has to draw the line....and you know the saying : ' If you don't STAND ( up) for something you wil FALL FOR anything! "...

    it takes guts to stand up for what is right!

    yes, I am shocked too!

    2773 days ago
  • JEA1668
    maxim is present in my college house i admit, its 'reading material' for the guys bathroom and yes i have definitely grumbled about it but hey, they listened when i said hell no to porn and gave them my side to the argument as the boys bathroom is also a guest bathroom basically for when friends come over, or parents or siblings etc so that was a def no! its funny i told nick about it and he went wow, thats bad even for maxim. all our stuff in the bathroom is pretty outdated so atleast that wont be up there. he agreed that it was terrible and was wicked surprised it would be published in maxim...i mean playboy or some porn mag i would expect it more but i mean maxim? they even downsized the amount of pictures of skimpyness seen but still *gah* what is this world coming to. well all i can say is that when those women want to settle down adn have a family or find someone they really want to be with, SURPRISE you taught him how to cheat or SURPRISE you picked a loser because thats the type of person youve always gone for...so great job ladies who did that article, youre making the world an even more vulgar place and TRYing to make monogamy history. I was born, Bred and RAISED to be Monogamous, its just who i am, thinking about cheating or being with someone else when i'm in a committed relationship disgusts me...and hearing from girlfriends of mine who are also in college their exploits with guys who have girlfriends or with guys when THEY have boyfriends themselves makes me SO angry, what kind of a person ARE YOU?! i'm sporry i get very heated on this topic...ive been cheated on more than once and had to help friends go through it when they were cheated on...its become WAY too commonplace and it depresses me. no one seems to think about others anymore or cares. this world needs a revamp can i do believe it is going to happen through us (sparklers who feel this way and those who commented on this blog) I knowmany of you have children and many plan on it, i know i plan on having kids in my life, no doubt about it, and i WILL raise them right! so really, it starts with me :) it starts with US!
    2773 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/17/2010 6:09:20 PM
    I couldn't agree more. No wonder divorce rates are going up. How dare they! emoticon Disgusting, thank you for bringing this to our attention!
    2773 days ago
    2773 days ago
    This is disgusting. Some people have no scruples what-so-ever. We could probably google it and everyone send a message to the editor in protest. Thanks for informing us of this outrage.
    2773 days ago
    I have never been one to harp on family values but some people could use a little moral direction. Cheating is never okay. Especially since we live in an age where you could probably have an open relationship if you want one. If a man wants his cake and wants to eat it too, I have a simple solution--don't get married! Don't have serious long term relationships! Then you can do whatever you want. Ugh, I am disgusted.
    2773 days ago
    What were they thinking to publish something like that? I agree with someone here, write a letter to the editor. Believe me, they read that stuff and it matters to them. The last thing they want to do is lose readers. Yuck all the way around!
    2773 days ago
  • MUSICLVR2675
    wow...I can't imagine how those people sleep at night. They have no morals! No standards! No respect! My BF and I have discussed cheating situations and I trust he would never cheat on me but it doesn't help for other single women out there still trying to find a decent man out there! I would definitely write in to the magazine!!
    I think anyone who is offended by this article should as well!
    2773 days ago
    OMG, thats disgusting. I'm so with you on this one!!
    2773 days ago
    wow thats so messed up. i am TOTTALLY with you on this
    2773 days ago
    I am in total agreement with you. Have you considered writing a letter to the writer and magazine? That is such crap. Thankfully John doesn't like those magazines, doesn't read them or buy them. I can appreciate your passion about the subject. Although I am not entirely surprised that such an article was written since Americans seem to have lost their morals somewhere down the line, I would not hand this magazine to my boyfriend or any person in my family.
    2773 days ago
    That is so sad.

    Sin is becoming so "accepted". Years ago an article like this would not have been aloud to be published. Things like this terrify me because I'm raising a son, and I hope I can teach him that things like this are NOT okay- no matter who says it is.

    I'd have thrown the thing in the garbage or torn out the article before giving it to your roommate... lol. No one- not even your roommate- should allow their mind to possibly be altered by this trash. I feel so sad he feels he needs to read that crap.

    I hope your day goes a little better. Try and shrug it off. emoticon
    2773 days ago
    Wow.... Just .... wow...

    emoticon That's what I think of Maxim
    2773 days ago
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