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Taking care of me....

Monday, February 15, 2010

...should be second nature. It should feel normal to do but I have spent my life taking care of others and am now faced with the prospect of facing the world alone. I never thought things would end like this.
I can't continue to take care of someone who lies to me, cheats on me and then expects kissses and hugs. Can't do it, no matter how long we've been married.
It is down to figuring out the how and when of it...though we are in the same house we are not in the same bedroom and never will be again.
Today I am taking care of me...I did two work-outs this morning since I ended up with the day off. I feel good about that...one step at a time...I must remember what I tell my adult kids....Do the next indicated thing. That is how I have to conduct my life, minute by minute.
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    Hey, how are you doing?

    Sometimes these changes seem frightening but once you go through them, it seems more and more like the right thing to do.

    But keep taking care of your needs too!!

    2549 days ago
  • DULCINEA54935
    You are absolutely right that it is important, even crucial, to take care of yourself right now. You are in a devastating situation and you are the best one to know what you need and to get it for yourself.
    I can't pretend to know how awful you feel right now, but I do know that most things improve in time, including this awful situation.
    And there may be someone else, someone unknown yet, who can brighten your life in he future and help to take care of you as well.
    In the meantime, do take care of yourself. Know that you have lots of spark friends who care about you and wish you only the best.
    2741 days ago
  • IMHER325
    I too, have been there. You were very brave to post your feelings here, and get them out! My ex was very controlling, and demeaning, and I had a hard time realizing that was not right. I took care of him for 25 yrs and my two sons, and never me. I think I was on the verge of a nervous breakdown at the time I said enough was enough! Going thru divorce is not an easy thing, and my family deserted me because they didn't want to be involved. If it wasn't for my wonderful neighbor who gave me lots of support, I don't know what I would have done. I found a wonderful man, and we are now married. You have to keep your faith that you can get thru this. I stepped out of the box big time, took a huge leap of faith, and landed on my feet, and now couldn't be happier! There is light at the end of the tunnel, believe it or not! If there is anything I can do for you, please let me know. I can be a good reader!!
    2741 days ago
    Kath, I was so afraid it was something like this. I've been there. Hang in there, take care of yourself and do today what needs to be done. If you need to cry, then cry. If you need to shout and scream, then do it. You do what you need to do to get through it. I learned that what hurts the most hurts less the next time around it. Anything I can do let me know. You are in my thoughts and my prayers. Wish you were here.
    2742 days ago
    Sounds like you are making the best choices in a difficult situation. Hang in there, this like many other things will get better.....

    Do take good care of YOU!
    2742 days ago
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