Last winter, I knew I wanted to plan a bit of boxing into my spring schedule. Wasn't quite sure though how I would go about it as I didn't feel like I had the experience to draw upon. However, I've been doing some more research and feel I've gotten something pulled together that will be fun, as well as strengthening, for me.
I bought a heavy bag unit via Craigslist last fall for about $100. It looks like this:
The $129 price at Academy doesn't include the bags so I think I did get a great deal.
I'd already learned some punches from Billy Blanks Tae Bo dvds and from my kickboxing class. I studied up some more using this website to make sure I was doing my punches right
and this website
whichs shows some nice combinations.
I figured I would add in my jumping rope (the challenge I've been doing now for about four weeks) and my pushup challenge (another challenge I'm in week four)
and later plan on adding ab crunches and squats - basically designing a body weight exercise plan that meshes with my boxing, that I'll be doing 3x a week (cardio is 4x a week)
However, I don't plan on sparring. That would be taking this to a level of danger I don't want to do - not so much as dangerous to me but to the other person.
Yes, I'm serious.
While boxing (as well as racquetball) vents a lot of my internal frustrations (which is often expressed with anger)
and in that way it is great for me, boxing a person would put me in a psychological frame of mind that I was being attacked or in immenient danger of physical harm.
This would not be good as both with Nature and Nurture, I was raised to believe that anger and violence was an appropriate response:
Interestingly enough one of the boxing sites talks about how it is known that some fighters dramatically lose it when their face is struck - eliciting probably a primal need to protect your most important asset - your brain! I am not sure what I would do if I was struck in the face - and most likely it would be a replay of Mrs. White from the movie Clue with "flames, flames on either side of my head...."
The only time I was physically attacked was by my much stronger brother D, when we were in our twenties. After my dad died, he went through some very stressful life events (preceded by other stressful life events). One day he and I had it out. He had me down, straddled and gloated that I could do nothing. I told him he better get off of me and that was my only warning. Let me tell you that I got him off of me and it was nasty and down dirty fighting.
The only time I was threatened with a rumble (by my brother D's girlfriends older sister) she never showed. Even though I went to some tough schools, people generally don't threaten me. I think this is because we all have an instinct for survival and there is some subliminal sense that if I was pushed they wouldn't like the outcome.
Like I've written before, I say what I mean and I mean what I say. I don't go for hair pulling girlie fights... threaten me - my hubby or my children - and you are going down under a wild tornado of fists and kicks. Being in a battle frenzy would not be good for me or the other person.
Bad things would happen and though I want to vent my emotions, I don't want to do it in that manner. You might want to talk about control - yeah, I control myself. I control a raging torrent of emotions all the time and that dam has to hold or the people I love won't be safe. I won't compromise that control for a bit of "fun" sparring with someone.
Why I thought I'd write about this today is because I do believe women have a need (probably not as much as our male counterparts who have more testosterone or even as much as me LOL) to express and vent our aggression but society and "nurture" (our environment) has not found that acceptable. Instead we are supposed to play nice, work well with others and color within the lines.
What women, who have not had the experience of just going crazy with their anger and FULLY venting it out, don't understand is that anger will seep out in some form or another. Maybe it will be with resentment, jealousy, envy, manipulation, or passive-aggressive behavior. Irregardless, some times you will get angry - and sometimes you won't express it.
Sometimes we cover it up with food.