I think that until I learned from some lessons in my life, I had to repeat them over and over again. I've decided to smarten up, grow 'a set' (or blow the dust off of the ones I USED to have), let go of my need to be POLITE, and speak my mind! This is something that I decided to work on this year. And just in time, because the SPAWN (AKA my SIL) is coming for a visit in 11 weeks. My initial feeling was DREAD when I heard of her visit, because of all the 'joyful' (yes, sarcasm) past trips. When you put her and my MIL together, it's like the scene in Jurassic Park with the 2 Raptors as they join forces and attack. My SIL is different than my MIL in her approach, as she puts her thoughts and words in other people's mouths. When I think of her, I go for a walk down memory lane, and it's NOT a pleasant stroll!

I went to the beach with her ONCE, a few years back. I was in my bathing suit, on my back, on the blanket, as she sat up. She told me that 'people were pointing and staring at me'. Since I was on my back, I didn't see it, so WHY did she have to tell me this??? When I questioned her about 'why would people point and stare', she replied 'that it's out of fear, because they don't want to look like you'. I laid there feeling SO vulnerable and exposed, frozen in place, unable to move or even speak. With all of the dignity I could pull from my size 22, plus-sized body, I stood up, got dressed, and left. I cried the entire way home, wondering WHY she told me this!

There have been years of comments like that, and the ironic thing is - that she was a size 22 until about 7 years ago. Another judgemental former-chunker! Anyone on here that knows me, is aware that I had hair loss due to a whacked out thyroid. Since I used to be a hairdresser, many moons ago, I know a thing or two about hair. Approaching it with the 'when you have lemons, make lemonade' attitude, I cut my hair into a medium length tousled style, which was a longer version of my profile pic. It kind of hid my hair loss, and I thought that it looked cute. I did the best I could with what I had! When she came for a visit, she commented on my hair by saying how 'her boyfriend says that's how all middle-aged, overweight women wear their hair'. At first I was speechless, but then I said 'thanks a lot'! Her reply was 'oh, that's what HE SAYS'. Well, he wasn't there, had no idea how my hair looked, and hadn't seen me in years. Once again - WHY?

After going out to dinner with the toxic-twosome (MIL & SIL) and my MIL's companion, my SIL told me that my MIL said that 'I should be a professional makeup artist, because it's AMAZING what I can do to myself with makeup'. She then said 'can you believe she said that'? I replied "I can't believe that IF she said it, that YOU would repeat it to me"! Her comeback was 'well, I'm JUST telling you what she said.' And the purpose is - what???

My DH and I have very little to do with her, and are glad that she lives FAR away. She is going to turn 50 this year, but dresses like a 20 year old hootchie momma! Sorry, but seeing your butt-crack and muffin-top are NOT attractive! I used to think that she had the BIGGEST ego that I've EVER seen. She had plastic surgery a couple of years ago and had her boobs done. But instead of getting a 'normal' size implant, they had to special order her implants because they are 960 cc's each - about 32 oz. From what I've heard average is in the 300 cc range. No kidding - they are BIGGER than her head! When she was here, she would point out all of the men looking at her, as my DH and I rolled our eyes. She told me 'that I'm lucky that I live in Florida and DON'T have the desire to be PERFECT'!!! Maybe ALL of that silicone was going to her head, or all of that Botox she gets did more than numb her frozen forehead. She refers to herself as 'SMOKIN' HOT' - who in the world calls THEMSELVES THAT? I do think that she is an attractive woman when she fixes her hair and makeup, BUT, she wouldn't be SMOKIN' HOT unless I set her @ss on fire!

It took awhile, but I now think that she has a false-ego. She puts people down in an attempt to make herself feel better. How pathetic! She wears skin tight, revealing clothing to show off her after- market equipment - for attention. I think that it's kind of sad. In the past, she would split her visit between her mother's house and ours. But after the last few times, my DH and I had enough of the conflict and drama that she creates. We both agreed that she will NOT be invited to stay with us - NOT even for 1 day! Let her stay with her mother, and the 2 Raptors can attack each other - I'm OUT of the equation!

I'm sure that we'll see her a couple of times while she's here - family obligation, and all that crap! But the silicone shrew is in for a BIG surprise!!!! That BS will NO longer fly with me - I'll stick my size 10 foot (with a nice POINTY heel) SO far up her keister - her tonsils will rattle!!! I've learned from the past, and I will NOT repeat MY past behavior of telling her that she hurt my feelings, in a POLITE way - it doesn't work with Raptors! I'm respecting myself, finding my voice, and NO longer tolerating rude comments from Botoxed, silicone-enhanced shrews, or ANYONE else! I deserve better!!!