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WHY DON'T I LOSE THE WEIGHT?..--BECOMING SPARKIER.


Saturday, December 26, 2009

I AM GRASPING FOR A HIGHER LEVEL OF SPARKINESS THAT IS ELUDING ME. SO MANY SPARK PEOPLE CAN DO IT, WHY CAN'T I? THERE IS NO EXCUSE. SOMEWHERE BETWEEN THE SPARKERS WHO LOST THE WEIGHT, AND THOSE WHO HAVEN'T YET,THERE LIES A GAP I WANT TO CROSS. HOW DO I REACH THE LEVEL OF THOSE WHO HAVE LOST THE WEIGHT? WHAT HOLDS ME BACK? KNOWING WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE DOESN'T SEEM COMPLICATED. WHY DON'T I DO IT? WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME ? I HAVE THE DESIRE TO LOSE THE WEIGHT. WHY DON'T I DO WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE? WHY IS BECOMING LEANER SO PUZZLING? WHY IS REACHING A HIGHER LEVEL OF SPARK SO HARD TO GRASP?............THE FACTS DON'T SEEM THAT TRICKY...FACT A: LEAN PEOPLE ARE MORE ACTIVE.[THEY SPEND MORE OF THEIR TIME BEING ACTIVE THAN WATCHING TV!]..FACT B: TO LOSE WEIGHT EAT LESS...FACT C: IF I'M NOT LOSING WEIGHT I'M EATING TOO MUCH!.........................
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........................BEING HONEST I ADMIT I HAVE TO BE MORE CONSISTENT IN DAILY WALKING THE WALK, [DIET & EXERCISE]. AND NOT JUST TALKING THIS BUNCH OF BLAH BLAH HOT AIR TALK, BUT ACTUALLY GETTING IT DONE. ....IF BECOMING HEALTHIER IS ABOUT BEHAVIOR CHANGE I NEED TO DEVELOP THE DAILY HABITS OF EXERCISE AND PORTION CONTROL. SMALLER PORTIONS SHOULD BE ONE OF THE KEYS TO UNLOCK THIS EXTRA BAGGAGE FROM ME. BEFORE HAVING SECONDS I SHOULD ASK MYSELF IF THAT WOULD HELP BRING ME CLOSER TOWARD MY GOAL OF IMPROVING THE QUALITY OF MY LIFE! ALSO, IF I CAN RECORD ALL I EAT EVERY DAY THIS SHOULD HELP TO FREE ME FROM SOME OF THIS HEAVY, UNHEALTHY, UNNECCESARY, DETRIMENTAL BURDEN I'VE BEEN LUGGING AROUND WITH ME FOR SEVERAL YEARS NOW...I NEED TO PUT IN THE HONEST EFFORT, LIKE MY LIFE DEPENDS ON IT............................
.SO,CAN YOU KIND SPARK PEOPLE TELL ME HOW DO I STAY MOTIVATED TO STAY ON TRACK EVERY DAY AND CROSS INTO THE LAND OF PEACE AND HAPPINESS AT THE NEXT SPARK LEVEL???????? emoticon emoticon emoticon
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KATELJM 1/13/2010 8:03AM

    When I was frustrated with my weight loss, I looked at my exercise and nutrition, and made conscious choices to improve.

First, clearly identify what losing weight will mean to you. Create an indelible image in your brain, and take the time to make a Vision Board to look at as a reminder.

I created my own snack inventory that served some nutritional purpose; if I kept out of the vending machine, I did better all around. Planning my food a day ahead helped tremendously!

Committing to exercising 20 minutes a day -- no matter what I did in those 20 minutes -- made a huge difference. Overall, my 2009 motto was "Go to the Gym", even if only to shower. These conscious changes paid off big for me in 2009.

Before 2009, I thought I had plenty of time to set things right. WRONG! (You can read my story on my page, if you wish.) That experience propelled me to change my behavior.

Know that emoticon

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IZZYJEAN 1/13/2010 5:58AM

    Spark was right when they said start with small goals and once you have built a streak you will find yourself adding to them. I started with clearing 8 glasses of water everyday just because I wanted to see the glass spill over on the page. Sounds silly but for me it worked. Next I just kept adding in small doable goals (exercise at least 10 min which I ended up adding on to). For once I found something that works. So, start small and don't try to do everything at once. Consistency is the key and not throwing in the towel when you have eaten a piece of pie with enough calories to cover dinner! Just get right back on track.
I know you can do this!

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DREMARGRL 1/12/2010 9:24PM

    I hope that you are doing better now in 2010, my friend, and that all these nice people have helped with their suggestions. It is all IN YOU....YOU have to want it bad enough. I hope that happens within you because I do think you are soooooo worth it! XO MaryAnn emoticon

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FITKAT2010 12/31/2009 9:22PM

    Very simply look at what you are fearful about should you do what you want to and can do. Deal with the fear and you instantly will be motivated.

How do you DEAL with fear? Realize it isn't real.

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TIME4ANEWME47 12/31/2009 9:13PM

    Staying motivated...that is something I told my doctor in August I had a hard time doing. Now I have achieved that goal!!! How? Because I set mini goals for myself...starting with food...drinking 8 glasses of water daily then moving up to 10; eating 6 small meals with fruits and veggies in between; tracking food intake was very helpful although I don't do that as much anymore; choosing to get up at 5:3o am to exercise for 30 minutes and now have progressed to 60-I do this at least 6 times a week-routines consist of DVD's I bought, rented from library and ONDEMAND picks of cardio, dance, weight training, tae bo, step aerobics, pilates; learning the difference between being hungry and eating cause food is available; giving myself permission that because it is on my plate, does not mean I have to eat the whole kit and kaboodle-it can be bagged up and saved for another meal; getting rid of 95% of junk food in my home; no longer eating fast food or drinking pop; and once I achieve a particular goal, making sure to pat myself on the back and continue to move forward. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!!!! NEVER, NEVER, NEVER GIVE IN or UP!!!!!! Your life depends on succeeding!!! And even though you are in a bit of a slump for now, it will get better!!! Most importantly, I take one day at a time and realize when I slip up I am only human and the next minute or hour or day is never too late to start again. It has been worth every amount of energy and believe me, I AM NOT A MORNING PERSON LOL :) I will keep you close in my thoughts...I believe in you.

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HICALGAL 12/30/2009 10:52AM

    i can only tell you what works for me. besides eating right and exercising, it's doing the work consistently. not 24/7, just consistently. and for that to happen, i needed the cooperation of mind, body and spirit. from experience, without one...it's won't happen or won't happen for long.

we're all basically aiming for the same thing. "eating right and exercising" but with our own personal tweaking to make it happen. find what works for you and then tweak it to keep yourself on track. emoticon

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DDOORN 12/28/2009 6:30AM

    The key to losing the weight is in our food choices...the quality and quantity of of food choices.

The key to making the weight we HAVE look its best is in our workouts!

Here's to the healthiest, happiest year YET ahead in 2010! :-)

Don

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BO42SOX 12/27/2009 11:04AM

    When I start to get out of the healthy habits I begin not to start over but start to set small daily goals,and than I achieve those and farther down the road I see" Hey I'm doing it!"-Please spark mail any of us,were all here for you and care-hugs-Kathleen

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FIREBALL_V 12/27/2009 9:24AM

    I guess I am not one of those people...yet... but I do understand how you feel! I struggle too. I have found recently it's become easier to lose because I joined a non profit weight loss group and weighing in every week with others is definitely more motivating to me than weighing alone in my own bathroom. I think you need to find what works to motivate you. We are all different. I KNOW you can do it..just find that movtivation..somewhere!!

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IZONPRIZE 12/27/2009 12:35AM

    I am not at my goal yet; had lost 32 and maintained 20 lb loss for about a year, but want to say (for me) it is when the desire to reach my goal outweighs my desire for other things then I see the victory. Success has to begin in our mind first and then it can become a reality. Make a decision. Make it for yourself. This is not easy for anyone--those who only need to lose 10 lbs or those who need to lose 1000 lbs. It is not easy, but it is attainable. I agree with everyone who posted here. Good advice! I am cheering you on!

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PISTL67 12/26/2009 11:06PM

    thanx all so much for all the great support, inspiration, and advice. i truly appreciate all the great insight and ideas. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SI1V3RBACK 12/26/2009 8:16PM

    Well here is what has worked for me .. in very broad strokes. Track everything. I use the nutrition tracker to trade not just calories but the fat/protein,carb balance. I eat a high calorie relatively high fat diet. I aim for about 30/30/30 - 40% being the carb portion. Tracking keeps you honest. Enter everything so you and be honest about it. It will help you know what seems to be working and what isn't. Also track your fitness, and make a fitness plan ... write it down, what you intend to do each day. Writing it down helps me actually do it because there it is in black and white. Keep it with you as you workout so you can refer to what you have to do next for exercise/weights.

Generally, always change things up. It is important for exercise and also for nutrition. Keeping things changing helps to keep it interesting and keeps you body from adapting and working against what you want to achieve.

That, in a very simple short description, is what has worked for me.



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RAINRUN 12/26/2009 6:36PM

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DREMARGRL 12/26/2009 1:58PM

    By blogging, reading and learning about Spark, you have taken a major step in joining the Sparkly ones! Just a few more steps....putting yourself at the top of your list, posting your food, and moving everyday......will get you going. You have to know that it is HARD WORK. If everyone could do it, there wouldn't be so many obese people in this world. So....with that said, just the mere fact that you are here, I do KNOW THAT YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!!!!! There's one question I wanted to ask you....Have you done any research about low carbing? My son is 39 and is finally on board the low carb train. It works for both of us very well. We both just feel great....and it is not a diet. It's our lifestyle. Getting the lbs off and keeping it off is work and exercise is part of the equation, but if you are wanting it badly enough, you do it. Sparkpeople definitely helps keep me on track and helps me get back to it quickly.
Good luck on your journey to better health. I'm cheering you on! There are so many people doing that with you......Just remember that anything worth having is worth working your butt off for! HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!! I have a feeling it's going to be a very good year for you! YOU ARE WORTH IT!!!!!!!!!!
XXOO MaryAnn emoticon emoticon

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FIRENUT34 12/26/2009 1:57PM

    Your right and nailed it on the head. It is a lifestyle change. Many people think they are doing good when they eat something that is bad and think that they will just workout harder. It doesn't usually work. Keeping track of what you eat is great, but you also need to learn what is good and what is bad to eat. They might want you to eat say 46 grams of fat per day, but that is primarily Mono and polyunsaturated fats and not unsaturated fats. What is simple and what are complex carbs. One of the big motivations for me is to be healthy for myself as I want to be with my kids and wife as long as possible. I'm 47 and my first baby girl will be born next month and I would love to be able to walk her down the aisle. Plus someday I want to retire and enjoy it. When you do it and start noticing the weight loss, you will be motivated. But remember the best advice, slow and steady weight lost is best and will usually last. Fast weight loss usually equals giving up and fast weight gain.

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GLAZED-DONUT 12/26/2009 1:27PM

    You can do this – we all have our own battles we face every day.. our own mental blocks that prevent us from moving to the next level. Sometimes we do well, then fall off the wagon… in my opinion it’s about consistency.
Personally I can kill myself in the gym, but if I eat poorly I may not gain, but I won’t move forward either.
Just try not to beat yourself up too much. Take it one day at a time with the goal of having more “good” days than “bad”. I highly suggest tracking your foods – spark has a great tracker but I use fitday.com
Finances allowing, I would also suggest getting a heart rate monitor – I am in love with mine and couldn’t workout without it!!!
It’s all about ones mental state… if you want to you will… I tell myself daily things like “if not now, when?” and “Do or do not, there is not try” – we ALL have our bad days.. its what we decide to do about it the next day that counts! It sounds to me if you are getting there. Focus in on YOU, what you want, what you need and then make a plan on how to get there – before long you will be a super sparkling sparker!!! (hugs) – good luck!!! xxoo


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QUIDDITCHGRRL 12/26/2009 12:56PM

    I agree with RENA1965 - make small changes that you will be able to stick with consistently, and you will be able to add the next change more quickly than you think.

You've mentioned portion control, being consistent with diet and exercising. Since those seem to be a priority, pick one of those things to focus on and decide to make it the focus of your life for a set period of time. Don't give up if you slip up, just stick to it for whatever time you've chosen. Once you've decided what you want to try, ask us for advice/help and we'll give it freely. :)

Good luck!!!

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RENA1965 12/26/2009 12:45PM

    Just baby steps, get something running and on to the next thing get that running and onto something else.. First of all enjoy the food you make, look in sparks recipes and find stuff you can say yahoo yummy to or change out sugar for sweetner, butter for lowfat margerine and use foods you can measure and weight without problems. Make recipes your comfortable using, just adapt them so they are healthier...


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MERLINANDME 12/26/2009 12:39PM

    I think you are beginning to catch the Spark. It is in the wanting that the job gets done. Do you want it more than you want to sit on your duff? Then get up and walk or run or lift some weights. Do you want it more than you want the cheesy pizza or the chocolate truffle? Then walk away from the food and find something healthy to fuel your body.

For me it is all about desire. I want to have an easy life. I want to feel better about presenting myself. I want to fit into an airplane seatbelt. I want to feel well when I get up in the morning.

Once I caught the want, the Spark was there.

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