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Exercising after work leaves hubby feeling abandoned...

Thursday, December 03, 2009

I really need to do exercises and the best place is the gym, especially in the pools. This involves swimming before or after work. Last night I didn't get home until 7:00 p.m. and was in bed by 8:00 and this has been frequent. The schedule at my new gym will be even later for the aerobics swim classes 2 nights a week on Tuesdays and Thursdays. When I get home that late I just want to crash and hubby who is retired and alone all day wants to talk and I just want to go to sleep. I don't see a solution since I am working all day and the swimming doesn't start until 5 or 6 in the evening and in order to get to work on time I have to be up by 5:30 at the latest.

On the days I swim before work I have to get up at 4:30 and so I am in bed by 8:00, also.

I wouldn't be so engrossed with the gym and swimming but both my knees have been really sore and stiff lately and I know I haven't been doing enough exercise. I need to work on quads and glutes strengthening also as I have problems getting up from the floor. One day last week I slipped in my bedroom and it seemed to be quite awhile before I could get up again, so I know those muscles are weak.

Trying to explain this to hubby just doesn't work...he thinks everything in the world revolves around him.... and I guess I am seeing everything from my perspective, also.
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IHEARTMY2GIRLS 12/3/2009 11:25PM

    Just wondering, since he's retired and doesn't have a set schedule it would seem like getting up REALLY early and joining you might work cuz he can cat nap during the day. OR..how about making some plans before or right after meet for coffee or a leisurely walk (as mentioned above). OR...finding a different type of exercise that he'd be more interested in. I belong to a specialty gym run by PT's and they have a LOT of people rehabing from surgeries. The machines they have are all specifically designed to prevent repetitive wear and tear, my favorite is the recumbent elliptical, sitting down and optional if you do the arms at the same time. There are MANY male retirees who socialize more than exercise PLUS it makes me feel young and in pretty good shape physically but that's only because the average age is probably around 70 (I'm 51) but still people my age with hip, knee replacements etc.

I'm new here and thought I'd just give my two cents!!
I hope you come up with a solution for both of you but not matter what you come up with it MUST INCLUDE YOU TAKING CARE OF YOUR BODY AND WELL BEING.
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I wish you all the best.
~~~ M.



"JOY ISN'T THE ABSENCE OF SUFFERING IT IS THE PRESENCE OF GOD."

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CATLADY52 12/3/2009 7:01PM

    My late husband didn't want to be involved with exercise or eating healthy but he didn't mind my exercising and trying to eat healthy.

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ITSABOUTME2407 12/3/2009 12:16PM

    oh I too can so relate!!
I love my husband to death and always invite him but he has no interest in exercise and doesn't want me to either yet... he is the first to make comments about the way I look but.. the last to give me any support it is tough but I have to agree with the others ..invite him but regardless of his decisions take care of u
wishing u only the best ..trish emoticon

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WORKINGSTIFF 12/3/2009 8:43AM

    Again, I second the motion. Invite your husband to come along. That or find some leg exercises you can do at home-in front of him-so that he can see that you need the benefit from those exercises. You could talk with him while you work out. But keep letting him know that your workouts are vital to your health (and safety!).

Or try setting up a "date night" with him to make up for the time you're away. Make if feel special, and maybe he'll not be so hesitant about giving you the time you need.

It must be a collective "man thing." They all feel neglected when the focus isn't on them...

Is your husband unable to find activities for himself during the day? A big part of the problem is that if he's home alone all day, he's lonely and wants your company. If he's physically able, you should encourage him to get involved with something that is just for him.

Comment edited on: 12/3/2009 8:44:59 AM

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MOTOMOMOF2 12/3/2009 8:38AM

    I can relate too. I just keep going on my plan because the alternative is to not be around at all

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MATTRIXMSP 12/3/2009 8:29AM

    Is there anyway he could go to the gym too? Maybe he could catch the exercise bug too. Good luck!

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MSWEEZER 12/3/2009 8:03AM

    Sorry your DH feels this way. Trying to get him to join you is a great idea. I'm fortunate as my DH understands that my time (and exercise) is important for my well-being. He's invited to walk with me and occasion does so but he's pretty much fine entertaining himself. Whew!!



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WADDLESPENGUIN 12/3/2009 7:32AM

    I can really relate to that problem. I work away a lot, so on the weeks that I am at home, hubby isn't very happy if I want to spend our evenings exercising. My way round it was to get my husband to come on my walks with me. That way we can have a chat whilst exercising (just about) and everyone is happy.

Would your husband consider coming with you? You never know, he might enjoy and sees the benefits in it.

Anyway, keep up the good work and do what is best for you. emoticon

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