Well was ready to go to bed, and the phone rang. Dh picked it up and it is dd, she is crying cos they were at dads, he is not in a good frame of mind cos of having to go to the bank for some more of mums stuff. Anyway short story here, he said that he is going to blow up at dil, all cos way back when son and dil got married, 6 years ago, she said they werent her grandparents and she wouldnt call them that. also when mum died she wouldnt go in the room cos ti bothered her really bad cos her grandma has passed recently and mum to her had suffered. so now he says if she comes with that baby, and calls him grampa not as to the baby but her - now thats confusing. anyway he is going to in no uncertain terms give her real hell.
so now dd is on the phone crying and scared. this is driving me, dad was bad, then okay now bad again but not sure what to do. He wont go to councelling etc. dd and ds were very very close and then they moved in together with their spouses and not so close but now, she is upset also cos ds didnt go to visit mum as much and that hurt lisa, now this is going to make more mess.
dad rarely speaks and blows up when he does, he had a bad time at the bank so know that is part of it, but still he cant just do these things. I will say i wont blame ds if it severs their relationship. but hopefully when dad is arond the baby we will be there too. I think my way will be that his house is a smokey mess, and come here with baby and will call dad to come here. he wont do these things if someone is around.
OH man i was tired now i am wired.
I so wish that he would calm down, go to counc. etc. or even just think first.
anyway
going ot listen to dh talking to dd. and then go to bed, I have to go to work tomorrow and the OT is going to be there to follow me around.
night all