A lot of frustration...not weight related..
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
My Step-father has been in the hospital since August after having suffered two strokes in less than a month. Since this time I have taken his dog to the vet's to be put to sleep, and this past couple of weeks, sold his house. Now I have to empty it before the 1st of december which is when the new ownerr takes possesion. All this I am doing with a Power of attorney for incapacity. My step-father is perfectly aware of what is going on around him but he is paralized, so he is not mobile and cannot sign for anything. So..this past weekend I went to his bank to 'take control' of his account so I can sin his cheques and place the money from his house in mutaul funds, in his name of course. The bank refused me, said the power of attorney wasn't ggod enough, although they didn;'t completely understand it as it is in English and this is a French province. They said I would need another notorized power of attorney which of course just means more moneey spent on something I aalready have. So, fist off I am going to go to my own bank and find out if with the papers that I have if I can open an account in his name and do the funds thing also. ohterwise I guess I am just going to have to call my dad's notory and see what he says. All this bureaocracy is starting to drive me just a little nuts.....
but i guess it does help to write it down, although I guess this is rambling quyite a bit :-)... might help keep me sane..........
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hey girl i` ashamed ...you with all that`s going on with your life u found time to drop me a line to silly old me...je te leve mon chapeau for your father-in-law not easy but ur doin it as the grace of an angel. Hope everything goes better soon keep u in my thought .Ty for the goodie much appreciated...
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Hello my dear Siegrid. Oh so many problems. I know "a bit" about that. At our age, we live between our children and ageing parents ! Until now, you did so much and so well ! You are such a helping woman !
I am shocked that you had this language problems with the bank employee. People working in institutions should all be bilingual. I am sorry for what you have been told. It makes me angry.
Of course, you have not finished and you meet so many frustrations. On another hand, it is a relief hearing you talking about those things. I had too to empty my parent's house, and when my dad died, I had to find help from the CLSC for my mom etc etc etc. Sometimes, it looks that those numerous problems will never end, or that they are too heavy. But we are stronger than we thought we are.
I read somewhere : what does not kill you improves you. (ce qui ne te tue pas te fait avancer). Well... put that into your pipe and smoke, girl !!
I hope you find your serenity everyday. If you can keep a moment (or 2 or 3) where you are out of all that. It is very good that you share those things with us. That's life - I mean, A PART of it -.
I wish you the best contituation and strenght and always, everyday, sweet moments, malgré ces moments difficiles.
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Comment edited on: 11/11/2009 10:40:54 PM
Well, you just put my life in perspective... Hope it works out soon for you- what a big pain in the butt! I hate dealing with any legal paperwork. Best of luck cleaning out the house, it's always quite a job. But before you know it, you'll have it all worked out. Where are those magic elves when you need 'em??
2478 days ago
Oh, Siegrid!! I've (very recently) been through sooo much of the SAME thing, only, it's been watching/trying to help Clint with his father, who has now passed on!! There are STILL legal paperwork processes lingering (nearly settled) since his death (bless his heart) but... the STRESS I've had to see Clint go through, girl... I am feelin' for ya' Sweetie!!
I don't know how it works up there, but Clint had to 'do' the Power of Attorney & become the Executor (meaning, he had to open an account, make sure taxes are taken care of, and funds distributed according to the Will) if I've got that right. ANYWAY, he's still dealing with that after months of it, but... depending on the size of an estate, some take years!!
Hope you can get things set up for your step-dad SOON, and........ it really does help to get important thoughts, ideas, lists, feelings, plans, whatevers DOWN in words. You just keep rambling, girlfriend, cuz' believe it or not, it's gonna' make some things much clearer. You have done AMAZING!! I was shocked that you got his house sold sooo FAST!! Just keep swimming, just keep swimming... swimming, swimming...
What do we 'do' we swim- swim!!
(¸.·´ (¸.·´ *Annie*
2478 days ago
Comment edited on: 11/11/2009 9:08:56 PM
Ahhhh, good old legal mess. Been there, done that. Check with you own bank. Language should not be a problem. There should be no problem to accommodate you.
Writing and sharing definitely helps. Good luck.
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