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So sad

Thursday, October 29, 2009

I just received word (email) that an old friend passed away from liver cancer. I knew him years ago (30-ish years ago to be exact) and while we weren't exactly BF/GF, we were more than just friends. He was recuperating from a bad relationship, I was in grad school, he worked with a friend of mine, and, well, we spent a summer hanging out and exchanging kisses. And sailing. And cooking chocolate cheesecake, or Grand Marnier souffle. Movies, long walks, talks, all that.

At any rate - he moved on and got married. I joined the Peace Corps. Our paths crossed periodically, but I hadn't seen him in years - got updates from friends, that was about it.

So it feels strange to feel so sad that he's gone. He was one of those funny crazy vibrant people you meet every now and again, when you just connect and know that you've always known this person, in a deja vu kind of way. Whether because there's just a connection, or because we had a previous life together, or because our brains just work that way, sometimes there's someone you're just in sync with - and he was one of those people.

I'm sad he's gone. I'm sad for his wife. I'm sad for the world. I'm sad for his family, whom I had met that summer. And I'm sad for him, that he's gone - he was in his late 50s, which doesn't seem that old any more. He was someone who loved life, who lived life to the fullest, living in each moment.

Goodbye, AJF - aka The Wart. I'm sad to see you go.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
TARABEAR 10/31/2009 1:41PM

    I'm sorry. Hold onto those very special memories of him. Maybe it will help if you share some of your thoughts with his wife and family.

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JLPNURSE 10/30/2009 8:40AM

    I'm sorry for your loss.

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SECRETFUN 10/29/2009 10:01PM

  Peace and tranquility for all.

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BODYNSOIL1 10/29/2009 8:20PM

    Phebess, So sorry for your loss. It must be an odd feeling to have a good friend pass on, it brings all the fond memorys back to the surface. ((hugs))

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SAPNA. 10/29/2009 7:36PM

    I am so sorry for your loss. It hits us very hard when we lose someone we were close to when we were young. We find it hard to imagine them no longer being on this earth. They lived and loved and laughed and we shared all that with them. They were part of our youth and our best memories. memories that never grow old as we grow old. Try to remember him like that not as he was at the end. Enjoy those memories and say a prayer for his Neshama, his precious soul.

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