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Who I am.

Friday, October 23, 2009

I was recently asked my profession. I haven't done anything glamorous, just working for a living.

Short version, I have done keypunch for Merrill Lynch, clerical work for Prudential, factory work in Penn where I was a closer on ladies garments (I learned to sew on a machine with a cutting knife), librarian - in other words, I did humble but honest work wherever I lived.

In New York City I started with Merrill Lynch and then the Phone Company, Texaco and finally Prudential Ins where I stayed for 7 years. When I moved to Penn in 1978 for my mother it was factory work (10 years) since that was what was available and I met my DH in 1985 (he had been widowed 5 months earlier) and we married in 1986 and it was his dream to return to his birthplace, Sumrall Mississippi where I volunteered at the local elementary school and finally got on at the public library where I worked for 7 years.

My DH was 63 at the time to my 33 but other than age we are almost identical in nature and it was an immediate bonding for both of us. I am truly blessed to have found my soul-mate and to have been able to recognize it! I shudder at the thought I almost turned him loose just because of age. 3 days into our relationship I knew he was the man in my life! 13 months later we married. When he turned 75 he decided he wanted me home so I am no longer employed. I love my status as an hw (housewife) but I am not meticulous in cleaning, preferring playing on my computer to the daily doldrums of cleaning and I spend a lot of time running around with DH. We have a golfcart and live on a "Rails to Trails" and
and this is where I do 99% of my daily walking.

On Mar 27, 2008 I awoke and weighed 210 and said to myself, "no more." 16 months later I awoke on July 23, 2009 and weighed 120 and said to myself, "at last!"

And that is who I am. It hasn't been a glamorous life, but I found myself along the way and I have contentment.

...and a new body! emoticon


**I neglected to mention I assist my dad in his daily living. My mother passed away Jan 1, 2004 and we almost lost dad twice the same month. I moved him to my property Dec 2007 when he stopped eating and he is doing much better. Feb 2009 he had to go onto Kidney Dialysis but he is doing remarkably well now. We purchased a new mobile home for him and he loves his independence! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
ONEREALLYBIGDOG 10/28/2009 12:27PM

I think this is my all time favorite blog.

Thanks for sharing
Very interesting to say the least.

You have always been the inSPiration
Glad you found your Soul mate too.

Enjoy the rest of your journey.
We only get one chance at this thing called life.

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GOIN4GR8 10/27/2009 11:49PM

    Thanks for sharing, Linda. And the comment you left me yesterday made SO much sense (as always) ... I love the way you look at things.

Thanks for the encouragement!


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JERSEYGIRL24 10/26/2009 6:18PM


I really enjoyed reading about you. Except for the fact that my DH is only 2 years older than me, our stories are similar in some ways. Down to Prudential. I worked there for 19 years starting in 1977. I started in Newark, and then my office moved to Roseland, NJ. Anyway, I would love to compare more stories with you sometime. I am glad that you found your soul mate and that the two of you are so happy.



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LINDA! 10/25/2009 7:53PM

    I really enjoyed reading your blog. Lucky you! You found your soul mate and happiness. I am praying for your DH's health and your dad's as well. emoticon

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GONE2BEACH101 10/25/2009 8:54AM this blog!! Thanks for all the encouragement you give to others and for sharing your story!!

I am sooooo glad your Dad is doing so well!! My dad passed 18 mos after my mom...broken hearted...

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STEPHANIE0904 10/23/2009 9:44PM

    Give me simple and happy over glamorous any day of the week - you've got it and I'm happy for you!!!! Thanks for sharing part of your love story with us.

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REDGRAMA 10/23/2009 9:07PM

    Dear Linda, Thank you for letting us in on SOME VERY PRIVATE

Good luck & God Bless now & ALWAYS.
Hugs Nancy.

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SUPREME5 10/23/2009 8:48PM

    thank you fr this log showesyou can lose no mater wht you do in lie its just hesame e allllllllhave to work it

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MESSENE 10/23/2009 3:47PM

    Linda, Your wonderful to have as a friend!!!I love this blog too. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 10/23/2009 3:07PM

    I'm happy for you!

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BOOKWORM100 10/23/2009 2:22PM

    emoticon Cheers to finding happiness and contentment!! Thanks for sharing more about yourself, Linda.

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MEADSBAY 10/23/2009 12:36PM

thank you for letting us have a peek into your wonderful,interesting and happy life.
You are an amazing woman and so full of wit and wisdom.
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LIVNFITNHAPPY 10/23/2009 11:26AM

    This is a personal success story! What is more glamorous than happiness???
Many celebrities would envy your life. Your writing is infused with the energy of your peace and contentment and is always a joy to read. Thank you for sharing! :) Janet

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GRALLEN 10/23/2009 10:37AM

    I'm like you in that I don't do glamorous work like being a doctor or a lawyer (if being a lawyer can be considered glamorous hehehe). I've done clerical work mostly in the construction or housing business. My husband is older then me but by only 4 years. It was interesting learning more about you in this blog. Thanks for sharing.

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FINDINGREALME 10/23/2009 10:24AM


You have found happiness and love -- who cares if the life was or wasn't glamorous. Not to mention that you set a very ambitious personal goal for yourself and met that goal! To have such personal success plus the love of your soul mate, family and friends means that you are truly blessed.

My hope is that all of us will someday join there!

Congrats on navigating through this difficult journey and coming out a winner!!


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EILAROSE1 10/23/2009 10:20AM

    What a beautiful blog !!!!

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MSCANDICE25 10/23/2009 9:50AM

    Love this this just goes to show that you dont have to be a big time show out and have all the riches and glory to be happy!! In my eyes I belive that people who are simple and just love life are the happiest people around and I would have to say you are one of them and you are right about the age that dont matter as long as the two people are happy with each other and I love that this is who you are!!

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ONMYWAYTOGOAL 10/23/2009 8:43AM

    Linda, your story is beautiful. There's no need for glamor unless you desire it. True love and happiness are all that matters!

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_VALEO_ 10/23/2009 8:20AM

    I don't think a life should be "glamourous" to be a success; anyhow, I'm not at all a careerist, and place my values elsewehre.
You made the choices you wanted for your life, you know who you are and what you want, and found true love and hapiness on the way.
That's indeed a great life to me.

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JAE_HENNINGTON 10/23/2009 7:27AM

  I only wish for me the answer was so easy, I sometimes think I know who I am, but then things change, I don't know anymore.. I am happy for you

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MSLZZY 10/23/2009 7:22AM

    Your life-your choice! Nothing wrong there. I'd say you chose wisely! Being content in today's world says it all! emoticon
Congratulations for all your victories! You are an inspiration!

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MARTY19 10/23/2009 7:04AM

    You have been blessed in so many ways. You have found your soulmate which is so rare in this day and age. You have been engaged in honest labor which you enjoyed. You are now home which must be a pleasure. (I feel envious) And you have reached your ideal weight. It doesn't get much better than that.

Love you,

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DAWNWINS 10/23/2009 6:50AM

    Great story, I enjoyed reading it, thanks for sharing. Have a good weekend!

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