Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Lately, I've been thinking about the relationship women have with food. We have this love/hate relationship with food and so often, it is misguided and dysfunctional. Our relationships with food tend to be extreme we fret over it, think about it constantly, avoid it or abuse it. Sometimes our relationship with food is like having an affair we do it in secret, carefully covering our tracks and making flimsy excuses for the reason the kids' snacks are missing or that the ice cream is gone. Or we treat ourselves like the garbage disposal and eat the leftovers off of everyone's plate and don't even realize we're doing it!
Why do we do this to ourselves? I think there are several things going on. First, we aren't aware. Our minds are going in a thousand different directions and we're not cognizant of what's going into our mouths. Secondly, we're in a hurry. We can't eat right because we "don't have time". Everyone else comes first we're the last ones on the food chain. Third, we rationalize. We say, "it's just this once" when in reality, it was "just this once" last week and the week before, too. Fourth, we procrastinate and put off eating right. "Next week, I'll " or "starting Monday, I'm going to" And lastly, (you're not going to like this) we lie to ourselves. We say things that suggest we are eating healthy and not very much, but our actions (our true eating) and our body clutter tell a different story.
I want to see women EMPOWERED by food, not ENSLAVED by it! If food is truly the fuel for our lives and we want them to be QUALITY-FILLED lives, then our food MUST be fuel! That means we NEED nutrients, not negative nutrition! Our food must be more than mere mouth entertainment it must DO something for our bodies, not take something (like our health!) away from them!
How do we get to this place of actually wanting all of this for our lives? I don't know of one living soul who DOESN'T want a healthy life! We all do, but to do this we need to create it. And to create it, we need to define it.
I was watching Suze Orman one morning a while ago. She was giving a talk on the eight qualities of wealthy women. She was powerful and she was spot on. I thought about this in regard to food and a light bulb went off: there are certain qualities of healthy women, too!
Here then, are my Five Qualities of Healthy Women:
1)A healthy woman is AWARE. Her mouth is a treasure, not a trash can. When it is time to fuel up, she chooses food that will nourish her body so she can nourish herself first, THEN the people in her life. Her nutritional needs are NOT on the bottom of the list!
2)A healthy woman TAKES THE TIME. Contrary to what we think (that we don't have time), we all have the same 24 hours in the day. Taking 5 minutes to make a nutrient packed salad or waiting 5 minutes in the drive thru amounts to the same amount of time one of those choices has huge dividends, the other one just offers a huge backend!
3)A healthy woman is CONSISTENT. It's not about being on a diet to lose weight to get into your smallest pair of jeans. Consistently eating well means you are consistently doing something proactive to affect the quality of your health. Nutrients feed your body's cells, giving them life and giving you vitality and energy!
4)A healthy woman is APPRECIATIVE. Good, healthy food eaten with a happy, grateful heart makes all the difference! When you eat poorly, you feel guilty. We all do! We vow to better next time, but next time doesn't come. Appreciating what YOU DO FOR YOURSELF (via healthy eating) will change EVERYTHING! Your energy levels, the sparkle in your eyes, the constant smile on your faceā¦people will wonder what you're up to!
5)A healthy woman MOVES her body! We need this--it is nature's best anti-depressant! Endorphins ladies, endorphins! You feel GREAT after an invigorating walk! You can give yourself hearty congratulations and high five yourself yes you can! Doing something and moving is like the frosting on the healthy woman's cake. Yes, you can do this. Yes, you DO have time!
Being a healthy woman starts with your attitude, regardless of where you are health-wise. It's possible to have a bright and shining attitude and have a lot of health issues. I've been with women with chronic health conditions that I never knew existed because their bright and cheerful attitudes outshone their health issues. Likewise, I've also been with women whose health problems were the focal points of their lives and conversation. Guess who I'd rather spend my time with?
I believe with my whole heart that our attitudes can affect our health and either make things better or worse. Our attitudes are like the emotional compasses for our bodies they determine our direction.
I want you ALL to be healthy women! Being a healthy woman starts with the food you eat. Look at those five qualities again and choose to be an empowered and healthy woman!
Your Dinner Diva at www.savingdinner.com