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From generation to generation

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

We were in Philadelphia for my MIL's unveiling, when mourning officially ends and there's a ceremony at the cemetery (and the tombstone is unveiled, hence the name). His mother was 98 when she passed away - now DH and his brother are the older generation in the family. Well, and a bunch of cousins.

Which means there are also nieces and nephews - all in their 30s, all married. Second cousins in their 20s. Grand-nieces and grand-nephews, ranging in age from 22 months to 6 or 7 yrs old.

So I was thinking about how we slowly slide into place as the "grands" - how we barely notice that we're aging out, and the younger generation is moving into place as the "adults", as the power generation. It's just weird, I met these nieces and nephews when they were just starting college. Now they have toddlers and young children. And a puppy. I was at their weddings. I was even at one graduation.

And I'm looking at retirement in 5 years - and they'll have more toddlers, and the ones who are now toddlers will be in school.

I barely feel older than I did when I was 16. I look older, I just don't feel older. I don't think older. I've racked up the years. But my brain hasn't aged with my body.

I'll admit, though, it's fun to hang out with the little ones who are just discovering the world - I actually was corrected by little Mr 22 months, who told me that was a red SQUARE when I called it a cube, LOL!

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SAPNA. 10/14/2009 10:13AM

    3 years ago my sister and I became the older generation when our father, the last of his generation passed away. It is a very strange feeling to be in this position. Frightening in a way because our years now are numbered. Wondering if we can have the things we would like, or do the things we want because we really havent got all that much time left. Wondering if we maybe should not treat ourselves, because our kids need so many things. Thinking about how little our pensions are and will we be able to manage. Hoping to keep our health and strength and faculties so not to be a burden. Praying we wont have the faults we see in so many old people. Monthly visits to so many gravesides and the unreality of knowing we are going to be with them sooner rather than later. Hoping against hope that we will be remembered with fondness and love and gratitude for the small part we played while inhabiting the earth. Hoping against hope that we will have the courage to face our time left with courage. Still smiling despite all odds, and being of some use to the very end.

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JLPNURSE 10/14/2009 6:58AM

    We're feeling it too. Though we still have our parents and some grands around, we are becoming more the go-tos in the family, the ones who make the decisions for the older folks. I wish we had more young'ins around though. We have 1 neice who is 27, and 4 little ones.

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AIDELADE27 10/13/2009 9:49PM

    Although I'm only 22, I can understand this a little bit. Young kids I know are now in graduated high school and going to college! Really weird. I think the most important thing is to stay young at heart. emoticon

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