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The Emotional Charge Has Been Taken Off Old Triggers

Sunday, September 13, 2009

I am home from a wonderful trip to San Diego. Although I needed to travel 90 minutes on windy roads to get to and from the Eugene Airport, I was able to do so. Yes, I needed seat belt extensions, but they were cheerfully given and gratefully used. They also motivated me to be so successful on program they would no longer be needed.

The biggest gift of the trip was seeing my father, enjoying his company and discovering the emotional charge had been taken off of the old triggers. Whether I agreed with him or not, was scolded by him or his anger showed up it was no big deal. I learned after the moment it was still peaceful and calm and loving. For me, that was a long way from previous interactions.

As always I met the nicest people on the plane. I had some good baby energy on the way to San Diego. I met Mike, who was very outdoorsy and well toned and friendly on the way home. It felt good to be accepted and to have pleasant conversations. I also made a nice spiritual connection with my father's friends at his local Thai restaurant.

One of my biggest surprises was watching my father sharpen his knife on the steel rod and going through his extensive spice collection. He is truly a chef and a cook. I never realized how accomplished and knowedgable he was in that area. He actually said he was going to try some of my flavors as well. Please understand my children used to say, "Mommy, mommy I'll be good, please don't cook dinner!" So that was quite a compliment and growth on my part.

I am so grateful for Spark People as a home base. I have learned so much here. Thank you to all who contribute to my success, the success of others and our community. May we all reclaim the positive sides of ourselves, the love of family and the thrill of new discoveries along the way.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
SLIMMERJESSE 9/20/2009 1:32PM

    Wish we could have met for coffee while you were here. Maybe next time? Have a wonderful day.

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VLVTGRRL 9/15/2009 6:15PM

    If the emotional charge is off old triggers, are they still triggers? Glad you had such a positive, great trip! Welcome home!

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ALEXSGIRL1 9/15/2009 6:14PM

    wow im love how positive you are. i love your spin on things. and the courage you have to try new things. or to stick yourself out there when the experience wasn't great's good to know that time changes,and so did you.. emoticon

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PAULASTRAS 9/15/2009 5:34PM

    love the blog, so sweet of you to share it...glad your trip
was a successful one and you are back home safe and sound.
love and hugs paula:)

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REBAP123 9/15/2009 10:58AM

    Karen, I'm so glad you had a great trip and nice time with your Dad. You've come a long way in healing.
Hugs...Becky emoticon

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BELLACUDDLES 9/14/2009 2:55PM

    Looks like you had a great time! So happy for you!


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CHBADILLO 9/14/2009 12:21PM

    Great blog!Thanks for sharring about your time with Dad and that you to were a Mom with children begging for fast food instead of Mom's cooking :)

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JEAJUD 9/14/2009 7:42AM

    Great to hear you have a good time and that you are accepting others for who they are and you're not letting them get into you! Great job!

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BIKERBABE2BE 9/13/2009 3:50PM

    Yeah for YOU!!!

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BABYFACE26 9/13/2009 3:19PM

    Fantastic blog! Made me happy to read of your successes, especially in the interaction with your father. Boy can I relate!!! My dad passed away a very long time ago...but I'd like to think, if we were able to talk now, I might have a similar experience. Meantime, I know that my interaction with ex BF echoes my communication with dad, from many years ago.
They are earthy, rational. I only know what I can see - is their world view. Mine is very different!

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CABINDOG 9/13/2009 3:06PM

    I loved this! I love the Discovery Statement Chart. I can identify. Thanks for the blog, Kay

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DEBMORSE1 9/13/2009 2:50PM

    I am thrilled for you that "the emotional charge has been taken off the old triggers." That's huge!!! You will continue to grow and improve every day as a result!!! Best wishes!

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LIVE2RUN4LIFE 9/13/2009 2:36PM

    I am so happy to read such a happy account of your trip. Thanks for sharing the story of your success.

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