Decision of one
Wednesday, September 02, 2009
We are getting ready to take a trip to the mountains. Probably our last before the winter. I just hope the fish will be biting better than the last time. I was hoping at least one of the kids would go with us, but they have their own lives to live now. That's okay too, because I don't get a lot of time with just hubby and no phones. The other day at lunch I think his phone rang four times. I will enjoy the time of solitude and relaxation creating good memories to be cherished for a lifetime.
Just thinking of the last week and how I have seen the passing of two acquaintances. I see the devastated mom, the strong dad and the broken brother. Each person is an individual, each responding to the same circumstance in life. Each had a separate relationship, separate memories though many will be the same. Each one is affected by the decision of one.
The kids who were in the car too each have different emotions in regards to Pat's decisions that night. One probably feels guilt along with the grief. One realises how easily it could have been him and not Patrick. The other thinks of how he tried to tell Pat that he did not want to go, yet at Patrick's urging he did. How will those lives all be changed by what happened at 2 am one day that was so insignificant to so many in this world as they slept comfortably in the beds at home surrounded by those they loved? One decision changed many lives that night.
We never know which one decision we make will impact our lives and the lives of those around us. Some we can change when we see the affect was not as we intended. Many we cannot. Let us choose our words carefully as though they would be our last. Let us treat others in the way we want to be remembered if it is the last interaction they ever have with us. Let us love will all our hearts so that we have no regrets of unspoken words. Let us follow the gentle urgings of our hearts as they try to direct us through life. Let us not condemn or judge others for things we don't understand, but think we do. Let us choose to be remembered for the good that we do, not for that we cannot take back.