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Some thoughts along the way....

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Was posting to Karen back and forth about this being a journey. its a journey not a destination. That is what this lifestyle is....when you get down to it, that is what LIFE is.

You can't (ok, well you can, i can, we all can) live from destination to destination. We can all live by the "I'll be happy when...." bone. But why? Why will you be happy in the future? Why not be happy today! It's Happiness, not Happen-ness, right. I don't mean gleeful, I mean content.

I heard someone say this one time and its stuck with me. "Its simple, not always easy."

Being happy today, its simple for me to say. Not always easy to live out. I think, well I'll speak for me. I used to live by "destination." By the "I'll be happy when" bone. Ya know the "wish bone".

I'll be happy when:

I'm married
have kids
change jobs
have ____ $$

my in laws stop being...well the way they are, heck some days i'll be happy when i'm of us gets called home (don't laugh you have those days, come on sarah, pee on the toilet!! LOL)

I'll be happy when my kids are outta diapers, walk, talk, can dress themself, feed themself, stop fighting with their brother, start school, get outta school!!

I'll be happy when I'm 30, 40, 50.

Oooh how about this....I'll be happy when I'm _______ pounds! When I fit into ____ size.

Again, why be happy (content) in the future? Why not today? For me it was because I lived by destinations.

I'm not Noah Webster (yes he really had a first name and an actual purpose for his book google Noah Websters 1828 Dictionary) But here are my definitions of Destination and Journey:

A destination is where you pack your bags with all your baggage (and I don't mean leather suitcases with wheels or anything else), old junk, old stuff, old you, old everything. You go to your "destination" spot, have a good time, eat too much, drink too much, relax a bit, get sunburned, purchase souveniers (which will be baggage someday) to take back with you to allllll your old stuff.

A journey is much different. Cuz you leave your "stuff" at the docks. Maybe you take a backpack, but otherwise, its just you, putting one foot in front of the other to the place where you become and when you get to where you "become" you continue on the journey, because becoming isn't a destination.

Becoming: here i'll get a little bit "greek" on ya! In the greek they have interesting grammar. One part is a present active imperitive (meaning of uncertain affinity), its like this "I see and I keep on seeing." It doesn't stop. Its not on a "walk/run" program, its only running.

I become and I keep on becoming, taking each change of the road on. The highs the lows, the turns, the rest stops, the places with no decent bathroom, the bumps, the hills, the valleys, the intercestion where the light is too long, the stretch of the road where I put it on cruise control and turn up the radio! Its all a journey. Enjoy your journey to becoming. :)
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    Great Blog!
    And so true- I think I need to remember that it's okay to look towards the future as long as I'm not living for the future. I need to live for today, be in the moment, love who I am and what I'm doing right now. Thanks for reminding me :)

    3139 days ago
    It's amazing how God works...this week, in the beginning, I was extremely hard on myself, more than usual, and one day I thought...why? Why do I not like myself the way I AM? So I started thinking more positive thoughts about myself...I felt a little better...We started talking about this being a journey...I felt a little better...Then you write this great blog! (Good job!)...And I feel a little better!! =) Thanks for helping me feel a little better.=)
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    3140 days ago
    I need to take this message to heart. I am a "if only" and "later, when" type or person and it doesn't fit well for me.
    3140 days ago
    What a great blog, and so very true.

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    3140 days ago
    I love this blog!
    Thank you so much, I love positivity and especially in the middle of the week. Keep up your great outlook, you are so correct!
    3140 days ago
    Oh my, apparently SP had issues, either way...I guess I love it...TWICE! ;)
    3140 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/12/2009 4:11:07 PM
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