I had a nice dinner at a nice restaurant, ate the whole thing, and I don't feel guilty!!!
Thursday, August 06, 2009
Since starting back on the pathway to a healthy lifestyle back in January, one of the hardest challenges I've had to face is my husband's eating habits. He likes to cook, but the things he cooks are seldom compatible with my new lifestyle. He likes to snack as well, and I've had to learn to stick to my guns and "just say no" to the trigger foods he offers me. I have tried to do this without hurting his feelings, but he gets exasperated from time to time.
We used to go out for dinner frequently when neither of us felt like cooking after a long day at work, but these days I prefer to prepare my own food so I can control what I'm putting into my body. Recently a friend gave us a gift certificate to a restaurant that's a bit more upscale than one we'd choose on our own. So I reluctantly agreed to go out to dinner tonight. Even though I had a light lunch in anticipation, I still figured I'd be over my calorie limit at the end of the day.
When the waitress brought the menu, I asked her if they had any nutritional information available. Of course, the answer was no. I selected what looked to be a healthy option - grilled tilapia, spinach and rice pilaf. It came with a cup of soup, italian bread and a dessert.
The portions were not oversized - I ate slowly, and took my dessert to go. After approximating my meal with the nutrition tracker, I had enough room left to eat the dessert without going over my nutritional quota. I thoroughly enjoyed it!!!
My husband has said that he doesn't know what to cook for me anymore because of my "crazy diet." I've explained that it's not a diet, just healthy choices and portion control. I think he's finally getting it.
Thank you, Spark People!!!
Member Comments About This Blog Post
The question I have to ask, is, does your husband have a weight problem? Mine did not, we would go to dinner, he could eat whatever he wanted, I ate whatever I wanted, and it attacked my hips, stomach, wherever it could. And of course I got too fat and unattractive to him, and he divorced me. Great guy huh? Well hopefully your husband will come around and realize you just may not have the same ideals as he, when it comes to food choices. Yours, are insuring you have a healthy future, and you care about how you look, and feel. Stay Sparkly! MJ
2729 days ago
It is fantastic to hear that you were able to eat out and maintain your calorie intake. I am also glad that you have been able to say no to your husband, I know that must be difficult at times, you have my respect for that. I've had times where I've tried to convince people that it's not a diet, it's havnig a healthy lifestyle. Good luck!
2761 days ago
Super job! You showed great restraint in portion control and management. The key is using the fitness tracker, and knowing the key words on the menu, such as grilled, broiled, etc. Ever so often we need to treat ourselves to a night out, as long as we use our heads. Like your husband, I also cook, and I sometimes have to think since I'm cooking for two (or more if my daughter is here) how to cook for them too. Be sure to share with him your needs in leading a healthy lifestyle, and maybe he'll follow. My wife is following with me! Good luck and Two 'Thumbs Up!
2761 days ago
I loved the title of your blog - by listening to yourself you still enjoyed a wonderful meal and stayed under your calories. What an achievement!
I battle the same issues with my husband (we both love going out to eat) and I try to plan those meals so I do not do too much damage - but sometimes I just listen to my body and eat and enjoy. And even then, I don't do so bad.
Continue to Enjoy!
2761 days ago
You did great!
It's so hard to have the rest of the family understand our new way of eating. it takes while to sink in... Once your husband understand this is a new "way of life" rather than a temporary fix he can start cooking different things for you. Maybe you can cook together at the weekends so he has a better idea.
2761 days ago
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