Toxic people

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

So, I work for a toxic person. She just really knows how to get my goat. Additionally, my dad is married to her. Can't get away from her, really.

Yesterday morning, she accused me of sneaking into her house and stealing her hair brushes. Why the hell would I wanna do that?! Why the hell would ANYONE wanna do that?

Anyhow, my point is, before I really started working on myself, I probably would have ended up getting right back in her face and getting way more upset than I did. Instead, I let her crazy-lady accusations just slide right off me and minded my own damned business. I think the exercise is helping me manage my stress. I'm quick to anger, and I've noticed my anger response is slowing down a little.

Still, every time she's around, my stomach knots up.

Ugh...she's just poisonous.

I found a quote on the internet that I'm gonna repeat here:

Know that when a person is toxic, it is because of their own issues. Accept that a toxic person's behavior has nothing to do with you. In life, each of us has to take responsibility for our own actions. Toxic people do not do this. They have a habit of turning things around so that you feel bad, you feel guilty, and you feel like you are at fault. Realize this and take back your power.

Remembering this is helping me out. It used to be so bad with her that I had to go to the doctor and get a prescription of anxiety medication. I would wake up in the middle of the night enraged and anxious.

At least I'm taking control of what I can control, and that's my body and my reactions to her behavior.

Edit: I went back and found the address of where I got that quote.
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    You a really cool chick, did you know that!? :)

    I have a bad temper too, and know my fair share of the toxic ones.

    Thanks for the quote, and Kudo's to you for working on yourself! Toxic people should try it LOL


    3156 days ago
    Great quote! I work with a lot of toxic people and it can really bring you down. Next time, I will remember this quote and let it roll off my back.
    3156 days ago
    I liked your quote, my DARLING MOTHER is a toxic person, my sister and me don't have anything to do with her anymore and we are happier for it. Stay away from her as much as you can and memorize the quote, if you can't memorize write it down and carry it with you at all times so you can refer to it when she acts up.
    3157 days ago
    Toxic people feed off of others...
    Take back your power...
    Good for you for not letting her crazy lost brush... crap upset you ...
    she misplaces something and then she has to blame you... shame on her.
    Keep up the good work! ;}
    Thanks for sharing and for the quote!
    3157 days ago
    Thanks for sharing the quote!! I learned about "toxic people" long ago & have since TRIED to choose my friends carefully & also applies to family members & how much time we are willing to spend with them!!
    God Bless,

    3157 days ago
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