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    MARLENE0802  
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Life after Death


Thursday, June 18, 2009

I'm so grateful for having found SP. Last year I lost 60 pounds. I was feeling great. A lot of energy I hadn't had for years. Enjoying my six children and nine grandchildren with one exception.

I had a son who had struggled with drug addiction for 25 years. On January 7th of this year two officers rang my door bell to kindly and compassionately inform me that my son had passed away from an accidental drug overdose. The nightmare began and of course I went to my oldest and dearest friend for comfort. The pounds began piling on which added weight to my already heavy heart.

I sought additional comfort from a Compassionate Friends group on Facebook. For those that don't know what Compassionate Friends are it is a group for parents who have lost children.

When I found this group one of the first entries that I saw posted by one of the Mom's was "I RAN TODAY". That was a true inspiration to me. As I watched her postings, the last one I saw said "I'm feeling healthier thanks to SparkPeople.com. I decided to check it out and I have begun to feel hope that once again I can take this weight off in a more healthy way than I've ever done before.

To my dearest and oldest friend "Food" I love you I just want to get closer to you more colorful side. That is the side that makes me feel better in the long run. I appreciate your comfort but together we need to work on me being around to play with my grandchildren while they are growing up.

There has been enough sadness in the family. I don't want part of the sadness to be my poor health.

Thank you to the founder of SP for giving me hope and somewhere positive to place my focus. emoticon
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MARGOMANIAC 7/22/2009 8:53PM

    Dear Marlene,
I am so sorry for your loss. It is just so unnsatural for a child to predecease a parent. It sems to put the survivor's world out of whack. My brother died a number of years ago after living life in the "fast lane" (no details-too long ago to drag them out) and my Mom really has still not fully recovered and has suffered numerous illnesses and severe depression. My sisters and I are now all over the map and that seems to help her more than if we were sitting on top of her. She now has to fend for herself and get a grip on herself and make new friends and become more independent again. I see a marked improvement and she is now starting to heal.
I am happy that you have taken steps to get back on track and decided to seek assisstance with dealing with your grief and the resulting weight problems. You are resilient and discovered that you want to live life to the fullest and be around for your other children and grandchildren. You will succeed on your journey to a new healthier lifestyle and both you and your family will benefit from the positive changes that you make. You will be able to create wonderful memories for all of you.
Feel free to drop in and chat at any time and you go "CRAZY" girl. It is the only way to survive in the world today...trust me on this one...that is why I am called the "MANIAC".
Hugs,
Margo


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SMILINGEYES2 6/19/2009 10:11AM

    I am so sorry for your loss of your son. I can not think of anything that could be more difficult to face.

I am thankful that you are now finding the support that you need. Best wishes on your journey to a healthier you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Linda emoticon

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CANDYXPERT 6/18/2009 5:45PM

    I am so sorry about your son. I have a son too - he's only 8. I cannot imagine ...

Glad you are here with us on SparkPeople! It's horrible enough to lose your son, don't loose yourself.

Hugs

Julie

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