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... but I'm not hungry, why should I eat more?

Sunday, June 14, 2009

I recently posted to answer questions from someone I would rather not name. I don't think she would get upset, but I am not comfortable naming anyone.

She is an Under-Eater and wanted to know why should she have to eat if not hungry and went on to say, "But I'm never hungry as it is! I don't want to feed myself when I'm not hungry. Yesterday I hit 1,000 calories and I actually felt ill. And I couldn't stand the sight of myself. I don't feel stomach discomfort at lower calories, and I don't feel hungry either. Ick. I know I'm supposed to get that high, but it makes me feel sick. Physically and mentally sick."

This is a very real problem but one that I cannot really relate to since I am a Compulsive Overeater. Yes, I don't feel like I am now but at Overeaters Anonymous we were told that just like an Alcoholic we must consider ourselves to be permanently as Compulsive Overeaters. And it is worse for us because while you can live without alcohol and drugs, you cannot survive without foods.

I wanted to publish my answer left on the message board because maybe it will help someone else. As I say, this is a very real problem, and one I am seeing pop up all too often now.

My reply:

I have heard of that. There is a team here called Under-Eaters. Perhaps you should look into joining them.

I am not a doctor and cannot differentiate between a mental block or physical problems. If you get sick eating more, you need to speak with people that know what you are going through.

Ok, I found 3 teams for you to look into joining - they will understand what you are dealing with and can offer better support. Your problem is very real and you deserve the best help that I can find.

The one thing that will not change is you will not lose weight if you don't eat enough calories. Not my idea, just factual statistics. Good luck to you. I am here if you need me.

Help for Undereaters Spark Team

Recovering Eating Disorders Spark Team

Eating Disorders Anonymous

P.S. My sister says the same thing you said, "why should she eat if she isn't hungry?" Well, she has been struggling with the same 2 lbs for an entire year and can't seem to go below 139-40.

In the past year I have dropped 85 lbs by eating what my calorie range calls for; more when I need to compensate for my calories burned. I really do average 1900-2100 daily and am losing yet again.

I guess I don't worry about it because I no longer believe in ever allowing myself to get hungry. I eat regular meals during the day and I no longer get hungry ever. I like that.

I wish you only the best!

**edit 6/15: today a thought entered my mind and I wanted to post it. I really don't allow myself to get hungry if I can avoid it. I was just talking with DH when I said, "I don't allow my car to run out of gas before I refill the tank."

Wow, that is an "AHA" moment! I am worth a lot more than my car.

Have a great day everyone!
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    Wow, you are awesome. I wouldn't have thought to go look for Spark teams for her to join.
    3198 days ago
    You are so very right when you say this, Linda!

    Our bodies suddenly decide, often very quickly, that they should use fewer calories in case a famine is coming, so we won't lose weight by starving ourselves.

    Besides that, today's society bombards us with messages that seem to be intended to confuse even the healthiest mindsets. From Twiggy and Wallis Simpson to the current air-brushing of those who are beautiful as they are, we keep getting messages that 'il faut soufrir d'etre belle,' and even that is not quite enough. Our ideas of beauty are silly: it is not necessary to suffer to be beautiful, and those who are shaping our ideas of beauty are fools.

    When we're really healthy and listening to our bodies, hunger is the right guide, but if hunger and calorie counts don't fit over time, it's a signal that we have a problem.

    In my case, if I had seen my doctor sooner, I might have been diagnosed with Graves disease sooner. Earlier is always better, and I'm just grateful I don't have eye problems yet. Still, if I had checked on a change in hunger, I might not have lost a lot of muscle strength in my lower body from Graves disease.

    AA is effective at allowing the recovering alcoholic to lead a normal life, which makes it a miracle. The model can and does work for other problems.

    I might just check out a few of those links myself.

    You never know.

    I might learn something!

    3199 days ago
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