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Unexpected turn

Saturday, June 06, 2009

These last couple of weeks have been full of sun, beachtime and hanging out with friends and neighbors. Add to this TONS of stress. My way of handling the stress hasn't been with eating for once but with hiding out at the beach, reading some books and venting to my girlfriends. I found out yesterday that my daughter and her husband were being evicted (and a judgement brought against them in court). They have until the 12th to get their stuff out. They had their electricity turned off 2 weeks ago and have been temporarily staying with his mother in an one bedroom apartment. Now they are basically homeless with no options since neither are working. So my husband, myself and my son sat down to try to come up with a viable solution to try to help but also to lay down some boundaries to prevent ourselves from being sucked in (since neither of the adults are making appropriate choices or decisions). I just bought an used travel trailer which I was going to put on our property we have in the mountains. Now it will be sitting on my son's property with my daughter, her husband, Ali, and 2 boston terriers all living in it. We have given them a couple months in the trailer which should be enough time to find work and figure out a living situation. I will be close enough (10 minute drive) to help with Ali and my son will keep an eye on the situation (and won't hesitate to call his sister out for being a derelict).

I will have Ali for this week while they go and pack up, and deal with storage. Gives me plenty of time to take more pictures, fatten her up and of course love on her. These pics were from 2 weeks ago.
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    Your granddaughter is so cute!! I am sorry to hear about your daughter and her situation. What your doing for them is really nice.
    3175 days ago
    She is so beautiful.

    I am sorry to hear about your family problems. I hope it will go OK. I wish them be good.

    They do have your support, it is very big. When my husband come to America he has no one to go or to meet him. He had $200. I was in our country with two kids and another $200. That was all. It was so difficult. I wish your daughter family will be good.

    3175 days ago

    Comment edited on: 6/15/2009 10:16:28 AM
    I am sorry to hear about your daughter's eviction. The trailer seems like a great option for now. Hope you enjoy the extra time with your grandaughter.
    3179 days ago
    ali is a beautiful blessing, isn't she? sorry to read about your daughter's misfortunes. what you did with the trailer is a godsend to them. i hear you about not wanting to get sucked in. just what you're doing with and for ali adds such quality to her and your lives. i wish you all the best of luck and much success in conquering this new set of family challenges. ali is MORE than adorable! you're THE BEST GRANDMA! n
    3180 days ago
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    Your granddaughter is such a cutie. I hope her parents become real parents and not just kids playing at being grown up. I hope all your plans go well and everything works out and that at least one of them finds a good job to support the family.

    Hope you continue to deal with this added stress in positive ways!
    Best of luck to you and yours.
    3182 days ago
    She is so adorable! Thank God they have you and your hubs! Lots of prayers and hugs for you!
    3183 days ago
    I loved the pictures of your grand daughter. She is such a cutie, just like her grandma.

    You always impress me with your wisdom and this challenge is no exception. You always come up with the perfect solution. I know it's stressful and it's hard but the kids are young and with your help they can learn from this and grow.

    I was an idiot years ago as well. LOL. Everyone I knew begged me not to marry my first husband and I did anyway and it was just as awful as they said it would be. LOL. But it did help me to become the person I am today - ( a total freak! - lol).

    2 months with 2 adults, a new baby, and 2 dogs living in a travel trailer might be enough to straighten anyone up, even me. emoticon
    3183 days ago
    Being a parent is 24/7 for life isn't it? Ali is lucky to have you for her grandma and her mom is lucky to have you for her mom! Hope all works out with the "kids". At least Ali seems to be doing okay and she is just adorable. emoticon
    3183 days ago
    What an adorable little baby!!! You and little Ali look so happy together. I sure hope that situations improve soon. You are such a wonderful parent to help out. It is so hard to see your children in such a struggle. All your SP friends are here to listen and give you a shoulder to lean on.
    3183 days ago
    You are a wonderful mother and family for helping your daughter and family out. Little Ali sure is growing! emoticon
    3184 days ago
    Sounds like an intervention that may give them the room to grow in. And the best hope is that they will. Blessings to you all and that what is their best interests manifests with work on their part. Glad you get to be close to the cutie-pa-too-tie
    3184 days ago
    oh wow ... it's not that this wasn't to be expected sooner or later, but now that it has happened it sounds fearsome. i hope this will be a wake up call for them to get their lives in order. i'm very, very glad that you are able to jump in quickly to care for ali. the "adults" clearly have to start to take care of themselves now.
    and the picture of you and ali is adorable. BOTH of you. you look like one happy loving granny. no, actually you look like you could be her mom. having a baby around you must work some rejuvenating magic for you!
    3184 days ago
    Wow. The peanut is growing so fast. I'm sorry you're going through this stress. Family sure can put us through the wringer, can't they?

    3185 days ago
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