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I've Reached My Goal Weight!!!!!!!

Sunday, May 31, 2009

Now that I've got your attention, let me explain...

"The secret to staying motivated all the time is to set emotionally-charged goals - in writing - and to stay focused on those goals day and night. It's really your SUB-conscious that controls your behaviour. If you know what to do, but you can't seem to get yourself to do it, you've probably been giving negative or conflicting messages to your subconscious mind. What you think about repeatedly every day is eventually accepted by your subconscious mind and it then guides your actions on auto-pilot. The more you dwell on what you don't want, the more of it you will create. It is extremely important for you to focus all your thoughts on what you want to achieve, not on what you want to avoid. What most of us think of as 'realistic' goals are not motivating. WANTS are motivating.Visualize your goal as though you've already achieved it." TOM VENUTO, 'Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle'

You see, I've learned something extremely important about myself these past several months. In addition to being a 'sprinter', I am a dreamer. I am not at all motivated by what is, or 'reality', I am motivated by WHAT COULD BE. It doesn't matter where I am in my life, how great things are, how happy I am... I can ALWAYS see how it could be better. And it's not that I expect or want anything to be different, or that I am unhappy where I am (I'm actually rarely unhappy about anything)... it's that in order to be happy and energized, I need to always be striving... or at least imagining the potential.

I discovered this in relation to my tracker quite by accident. In a fit of pique I set my weight at goal weight and hit the 'save changes' button. I expected to feel a little uncomfortable and guilty once it reloaded... after all, I was 'lying'. What I found happening instead is that I got big, dopey grin on my face. I felt something inside of me begin to hum with excitement. My energy level was high, and I was pumped! I had this dancing feeling that needed somewhere to go, so I went and danced with my daughter for a bit. I came back, still grinning, acknowledged that the party was over, nice while it lasted, and I set the tracker back to reflect the 'truth'. I waited while it loaded. The visual came up on my computer screen and my energy simply deflated. It must have been a very clear-headed day for me because I immediately registered the change. "What the heck?" So I went back and set the tracker to goal weight. Curiosity now had me fidgeting... and it happened again. The silly grin reappeared and I sat up straighter. I once again changed the tracker back to 'truth', and even though I was vibrating with the excitement of curiosity, I still noticed a sinking in my chest as I was once again confronted by reality staring me in the face. I realized, in one fell swoop, that being continuously confronted by my weight tracker as it reflects my reality was killing my spirit.

You see, I lose weight VERY slowly by nature apparently, and I've now chosen a path that is going to deliberately reinforce this. A tracker that barely moves is disheartening to me. As hard as I try, I can't avoid comparing myself to others (even to those with whom I disagree about how to eliminate fat) because that little tracker is such a strong visual... and my tracker in it's current state screams at me, "You are always going to be fat." And I honestly believe my subconscious complies with the dictum, and sets my motivation accordingly.

The truth is that I don't have a clue what that 'scale' number will be until I get there, so it makes me anxious even to contemplate it... I am instead measuring whether or not I am achieving my 'fat elimination' goals by using body measurements and BMI. It is the ratio of fat to lean muscle that interests me. Secondly, I absolutely DO NOT care what I weigh... I never have... the scale never has, never will, motivate me. What the scale says when I get to where I'm going with measurements and BMI (and these goals are VERY specific in my mind), is not something that I care about... I, in fact, expect it to be a higher number than most people would guess. Finally, I've had to work VERY HARD to overcome a negative body image and learn to love my body, and myself, as I am. For me, the tracker undermines and disrespects this work. I truly believe statistics such as these are an irrelevant measure of any person... and I will not, nor will my success or lack thereof, be measured in such a limited way.

So, since all the tools at Spark are for me to use to my best benefit, I'm choosing to set my tracker as a visual representation of my goal. I'm visualizing my goal as though I've already achieved it, and IT FEELS GREAT! I apologise up front to anyone who feels I'm being deceptive, for it's sincerely NOT my intention to mislead anyone (I've put a disclaimer on my SparkPage). I'm simply maximizing for myself the tools I've been given here to help me achieve my goals. I guess I also hope my small act of liberty will invite you to examine more closely what it is that helps or hinders you on your journey, and encourage you to do what best serves you.

I see being able to think outside the box as being key to creating LIFESTYLE, rather than following a short-term, 'canned' program to get a specific result. I encourage everyone of you to find your own way out of the various 'boxes' you live in, by circumstance or by your own choosing.

I've applied the same thinking to discerning how I might be behaving once I achieve my current health and fitness goals, and once I have eliminated this fat from my body (notice I'm NOT 'losing weight' anymore). If I'm going to maintain my achievements I need to figure out what it might feel like to live in a fit and active way.... and I need to start baby-stepping my way toward that lifestyle NOW... it has to be how I get fit and healthy. I can't spend my life simply exercising... I need to feel like I am LIVING while keeping my body healthy. To that end, I've collected some pictures of my 'inner athlete'! My face literally breaks into a HUGE grin every time I scroll through them. I'm looking for a balance between what I need to do for myself, and activities that keep us moving and enjoying each other as a family. These are some of the things calling my name:

Meet my 'inner athlete'!


Our city is built on a river and has a rowing club... I need to look into what is available for 'newbies'.



My husband and I are organizing a 'dragon boat' team with people from his company! There is a Dragon Boat Festival here every year in August! We'll attend this year and train through the winter for next year!



Calm, flexible and balanced!



Win-win... work out all my pent up feelings and get an amazing cardio workout... not to mention the awesome shoulder and back sculpting potential. I can't tell you how many times in a day I want to hit something! THIS should take care of that! LOL!



...and should I fall, the landing is a lot softer than on ice!



I want to be THIS STRONG! (The beautiful gal on the weight machine is KAREN7360, who didn't start training until she was over 50!)



Hiking/geocaching year 'round! We all LOVE back-roading in our house, and my wee girl thinks maps and treasure hunts are THE BEST!



Power-kiting: you can do it all year 'round using a buggy, snow skis, snowboard, water skis... we already have the equipment... my husband is an enthusiast! Even though I've always wanted to, I've been reluctant to join him because of my lack of physical fitness... no more! All of you Sparks in Kansas, look up... you may see me there one day! LOL!



I need to be able to swim MUCH better if I'm going to get my dive certification... again, husband's passion! (Even though I rarely FEEL like swimming!) I LOVED my one dive experience... and the promise of LOTS of warm holidays... I want to swim with the sharks! :D



Can you tell I'm an Aquarian? LOL! I don't care for swimming all that much, but I LOVE activities involving water! It's always been a dream of mine to raft white water... anyone see 'The River Wild' with Merle Streep? I've seen the movie eight times, and I'll see it eight more... the power of the river compels me!



One of my goals is being able to dance (a PASSION!) for a whole evening (3 hours) without sitting out a dance! Our favourite dances are Swing (West Coast) and CHA! CHA!... then again the Jive and Waltz are wonderful, too!


...Or maybe I'll qualify for the air force! LOL
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"To the question of your life you are the answer, and to the problems of your life you are the solution." JOE CORDARE

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." ARISTOTELES

"Never do to lose weight what you wouldn't do to maintain it!" AUTHOR UNKNOWN



What do YOU WANT!? Visualize your goals as though you've already achieved them!







What I REALLY look like right now (February, 2012)!
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UNTIL. (My 'Just Do It' blog)
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...Because YOU are a CAR!
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  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

ERIN1957 9/21/2012 5:52AM

    Absolutely love this!!!!
It will be a guide to me, thank you.
As well as doing it my own way.
You added such reminders, inspirational sharing of reality and how positive this journey can be!
AMAZING!

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BEST_LIFE_NOW 1/5/2012 8:02AM

  I retread thus again. You inspire me. I'd love for you blogs to become a book. I'd buy it!

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TWINKS55 1/27/2011 7:14PM

    I love your blog, Ramona! Great thought process. You stand up for what you believe in and follow through.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

Dianne

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BRAVENEWGRL 1/2/2011 10:39AM

    I loved this blog - what a great way to kick off the new year!!!!Thanks for the inspiration and the motivation!

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TEENY_BIKINI 1/1/2011 10:44PM

    This is great...

"The more you dwell on what you don't want, the more of it you will create. It is extremely important for you to focus all your thoughts on what you want to achieve, not on what you want to avoid."

I should paint it on my wall so I don't forget.

Thanks, gorgeous.

Cheers.

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BEST_LIFE_NOW 12/18/2010 5:10PM

  Ramona, I like your way of thinking! We need to do what motivates us and keeps us moving forward!

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ALYFITN 9/16/2010 9:36AM

    Ramona---I just love you!!! You are absolutely right in using SP as a tool to success.
Your blogs are inspiring. I found you while checking out nutrition trackers and finding out I am way low in protein consumption. I religiously tracked food back in Jan-Feb-March. It is eye opening when I compare my tracker with that of others whom I want to emulate. By focusing on 'good protein' days of my own--I am figuring out what will work for me in my day to day life forever.
I can't help but smile when I think of you setting your tracker to goal. Whatever works, go for it!! emoticon

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PRIMALMICHAEL 9/5/2010 5:21PM

    Thank you for taking the time and having the courage to share this with us. I am truly inspired by what you are doing and I now have a whole new set of goals to keep my motivation running high!

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CHEPRBYTHEDOZN 9/3/2010 2:08PM

    FANTASTIC! You have the mindset and ambition and vision to achieve all these goals. (and that karen gal has an awesome back!!!HOLY COW!)

I'm so proud of you and inspired!!

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_THEA_ 5/21/2010 11:12AM

    Ramona!!!!! Love it! The rowing pic caught my eye, as I have a daughter who is a BEAST rower and last spring/summer, I went to the local rowing club and rowed as a novice. I LOVE IT with all of my being! It's the most liberating, envigorating, therapeutic, yet peace-bringing activity that I've every participated in! I can't wait until the summer program begins again so I can resume! YOU should give it a whirl...you won't be disappointed! Call up and ask about their NOVICE rowing programs for adults - you won't regret it!

Have a great day!!!

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ALEXANDRA64 4/26/2010 7:29AM

    Wow!!! I'm impressed and all this is SO true. Funny how this coincides with my latest meditation tool. I decided to add mantras/affirmations to the first half of my meditation time. So I was playing around with "success thoughts" thinking I should say them about the present "I am" versus "I will be". Then I shortened it to "I CAN, I AM, I WILL!" and that seems to fit and feel very empowering. I get weighed once a month at the nutritionist office so don't really go by weight either but rather body measurements because I realized from experience, years ago, that the weight can remain the same and the measurements drastically change from the losing fat and gaining muscle exchange so so speak. So KUDOS to you for following through with what you believe!!!!! Now that I read this I know you are an even more amazing person then I had thought! Thanks for the inspiration this morning!!

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MEGDIE3 1/17/2010 1:05PM

    very inspiring and motivating. emoticon

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NEWMOMOVER40 7/22/2009 11:47PM

    This is so interesting. What motivates one person can de-motivate another. I totally missed your "disclaimer" as you call it (though you owe an explanation to absolutely no one)!

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MOCOHOLO 7/11/2009 2:12AM

    I love this! What a true lightbulb moment!! I knew I liked you and now I have even more of a reason - I'm an Aquarian too, and you know we like other Aquarians best of all!

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AMJSATURN 6/7/2009 9:51AM

    One word for your courage to think outside of the box "AWESOME"

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HILLRUNNER 6/2/2009 6:18AM

    Ramona!

Thanks for the insight and the blog! Work what works for you!


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VEEJAY3 6/1/2009 9:10PM

    From one out-of-the-box thinker to another:
Amen, sistah!!!

I wish I could find a quote I want for you ... something like:
"the saddest thing is to see the world as it is instead of as it could be."

something like that ... but I can't find it!
Anyway, LOVE this blog.

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KALISWALKER 6/1/2009 1:04AM

    "Never do to lose weight what you wouldn't do to maintain it!" AUTHOR UNKNOWN

That is scary to read, but so true. To go through the work of getting it off only to regain it would be heart breaking.

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CT1954 5/31/2009 11:04PM

    Hey Ramona, talk about thinking outside the box! You are outside of it and done kicked it out the way. Best wishes on meeting all your goals!

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Carlene

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NIGELNIA 5/31/2009 10:02PM

    Hey Ramona,
I love your blog. and I can relate to your feelings about the ticker. Visualization is so helpful. ANd hey what works for you works for you. You go for it you athlete you. I cant wait to see your pics with that awesome back and you finishing your dragon boat race... Cheers to you... way to go emoticon

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ZIRCADIA 5/31/2009 6:44PM

    I'M AN AQUARIUS! I love all your goals -- especially the dancing and woot woot rowing! :) hahahaha :D AND I WANNA DO PULLUPS TOO!

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YOYONOMORE1 5/31/2009 6:36PM

    Very interesting blog and a different way of looking at things, nothing wrong with that. The weight ticker works for me, especially now that I am getting closer to that first goal weight I set. I think it's wonderful though that you are stimulating people's way of thinking about or looking at what they are doing, and you are right, we all need to find what works for us and it's a process, for sure. I loved all the pictures of the activities. Have a great week and keep that great attitude.

Hugs,
Shirl

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PONYFARMER 5/31/2009 6:03PM

    Another good one! Question: Can l use some of your blog (credit will be given) in my classroom. I teach high school, low level readers and they need some powerful inspiration. You can say no by the way.

I have done some work with them, building vision boards and talking about visualisation.

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JCARDINAL 5/31/2009 12:57PM

    Love your blog! I always walk away inspired.

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LADYROSE 5/31/2009 12:10PM

    That is so freakin awesome!

And so true... when you can create a powerful emotional visual of what you want and where you're going, your mind will do everything it can to make that happen. It's up to you to take appropriate action that lines up with your goals.

Fast or slow, it doesn't matter, as long as the lessons are learned.

HUGS!!!

ps. Just knowing you're here is more help than you know!

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GLAMOURGIRL-9 5/31/2009 10:42AM

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TORYJANE719 5/31/2009 10:34AM

    Congrats Ramona!!!

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A victory is a victory and no one should tell you otherwise. I think I'm going to take your advice on the small goal setting!!! Keep up the good work!!!!!

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WANDAH3 5/31/2009 9:43AM

    Ramona, I'm so glad to be sharing this journey with you. Love your blog and like you I need to claim things as I dream them to be, not as how they might appear in actual time. We are the creators of our own reality.

Hugs,
Wanda

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OMELYN 5/31/2009 9:23AM

    Ramona,
What a great attitude adjustment. You certainly can't be accused of starting down one path and refusing to look around and find a better one. It is not only "the road less traveled" it is the best one for you.

I look forward to following you progress, as I get back on my own path. I have abandoned exercise.. and gained a few to prove it. I have given myself the start date of June 1st to begin posting my food and exercise again. It is very appropriate for me, and worked... I had gotten my bmi in healthy range, and that I won't allow to change.


thanks, as always for the inspiration
Lynn

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SKINNYINMYHEAD 5/31/2009 9:22AM

    Today is my day to reflect on my week. Wow. Have you given me some things to think about. I see a lot of my thoughts expressed in your writing. (Did I mention you are one talented writer? you ARE.)

For the first time on SP, I'm subscribing to a blog. Your experiment on the tracker ticker thingeemabob was crazy wild. I completely understood what you were saying. I can be feeling great, empowered, strong and look at that *&%$# ticker and immediately have a negative outlook.

Thank you for writing.

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KARENE10 5/31/2009 9:03AM

    I loved this blog! I can see exactly why moving the ticker would make you feel more like exercising,eating better,etc. When I "cheat" and say I've done 50 minutes of exercise on the tracker I then proceed to do it because I SAID that I have! I don't know,maybe it has something to do with being an Aquarian emoticon

Great Pics too!
Karene

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DEBBIER9 5/31/2009 8:33AM

    love the blog and especially the last comment may I use that?

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CFMOSS 5/31/2009 8:23AM

    You are wonderfully made. Keep on keeping on.

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PLAYFULLKITTY 5/31/2009 7:34AM

    You have to do what works for YOU...so you go for it :)

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PANDAFEET 5/31/2009 4:59AM

    Way to go, Sis. Do what ever it takes to convince you that you are wonderfully made

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