Now that I've got your attention, let me explain...
"The secret to staying motivated all the time is to set emotionally-charged goals - in writing - and to stay focused on those goals day and night. It's really your SUB-conscious that controls your behaviour. If you know what to do, but you can't seem to get yourself to do it, you've probably been giving negative or conflicting messages to your subconscious mind. What you think about repeatedly every day is eventually accepted by your subconscious mind and it then guides your actions on auto-pilot. The more you dwell on what you don't want, the more of it you will create. It is extremely important for you to focus all your thoughts on what you want to achieve, not on what you want to avoid. What most of us think of as 'realistic' goals are not motivating. WANTS are motivating.Visualize your goal as though you've already achieved it." TOM VENUTO, 'Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle'
You see, I've learned something extremely important about myself these past several months. In addition to being a 'sprinter', I am a dreamer. I am not at all motivated by what is, or 'reality', I am motivated by WHAT COULD BE. It doesn't matter where I am in my life, how great things are, how happy I am... I can ALWAYS see how it could be better. And it's not that I expect or want anything to be different, or that I am unhappy where I am (I'm actually rarely unhappy about anything)... it's that in order to be happy and energized, I need to always be striving... or at least imagining the potential.
I discovered this in relation to my tracker quite by accident. In a fit of pique I set my weight at goal weight and hit the 'save changes' button. I expected to feel a little uncomfortable and guilty once it reloaded... after all, I was 'lying'. What I found happening instead is that I got big, dopey grin on my face. I felt something inside of me begin to hum with excitement. My energy level was high, and I was pumped! I had this dancing feeling that needed somewhere to go, so I went and danced with my daughter for a bit. I came back, still grinning, acknowledged that the party was over, nice while it lasted, and I set the tracker back to reflect the 'truth'. I waited while it loaded. The visual came up on my computer screen and my energy simply deflated. It must have been a very clear-headed day for me because I immediately registered the change. "What the heck?" So I went back and set the tracker to goal weight. Curiosity now had me fidgeting... and it happened again. The silly grin reappeared and I sat up straighter. I once again changed the tracker back to 'truth', and even though I was vibrating with the excitement of curiosity, I still noticed a sinking in my chest as I was once again confronted by reality staring me in the face. I realized, in one fell swoop, that being continuously confronted by my weight tracker as it reflects my reality was killing my spirit.
You see, I lose weight VERY slowly by nature apparently, and I've now chosen a path that is going to deliberately reinforce this. A tracker that barely moves is disheartening to me. As hard as I try, I can't avoid comparing myself to others (even to those with whom I disagree about how to eliminate fat) because that little tracker is such a strong visual... and my tracker in it's current state screams at me, "You are always going to be fat." And I honestly believe my subconscious complies with the dictum, and sets my motivation accordingly.
The truth is that I don't have a clue what that 'scale' number will be until I get there, so it makes me anxious even to contemplate it... I am instead measuring whether or not I am achieving my 'fat elimination' goals by using body measurements and BMI. It is the ratio of fat to lean muscle that interests me. Secondly, I absolutely DO NOT care what I weigh... I never have... the scale never has, never will, motivate me. What the scale says when I get to where I'm going with measurements and BMI (and these goals are VERY specific in my mind), is not something that I care about... I, in fact, expect it to be a higher number than most people would guess. Finally, I've had to work VERY HARD to overcome a negative body image and learn to love my body, and myself, as I am. For me, the tracker undermines and disrespects this work. I truly believe statistics such as these are an irrelevant measure of any person... and I will not, nor will my success or lack thereof, be measured in such a limited way.
So, since all the tools at Spark are for me to use to my best benefit, I'm choosing to set my tracker as a visual representation of my goal. I'm visualizing my goal as though I've already achieved it, and IT FEELS GREAT! I apologise up front to anyone who feels I'm being deceptive, for it's sincerely NOT my intention to mislead anyone (I've put a disclaimer on my SparkPage). I'm simply maximizing for myself the tools I've been given here to help me achieve my goals. I guess I also hope my small act of liberty will invite you to examine more closely what it is that helps or hinders you on your journey, and encourage you to do what best serves you.
I see being able to think outside the box as being key to creating LIFESTYLE, rather than following a short-term, 'canned' program to get a specific result. I encourage everyone of you to find your own way out of the various 'boxes' you live in, by circumstance or by your own choosing.
I've applied the same thinking to discerning how I might be behaving once I achieve my current health and fitness goals, and once I have eliminated this fat from my body (notice I'm NOT 'losing weight' anymore). If I'm going to maintain my achievements I need to figure out what it might feel like to live in a fit and active way.... and I need to start baby-stepping my way toward that lifestyle NOW... it has to be how I get fit and healthy. I can't spend my life simply exercising... I need to feel like I am LIVING while keeping my body healthy. To that end, I've collected some pictures of my 'inner athlete'! My face literally breaks into a HUGE grin every time I scroll through them. I'm looking for a balance between what I need to do for myself, and activities that keep us moving and enjoying each other as a family. These are some of the things calling my name:
Meet my 'inner athlete'!
Our city is built on a river and has a rowing club... I need to look into what is available for 'newbies'.
My husband and I are organizing a 'dragon boat' team with people from his company! There is a Dragon Boat Festival here every year in August! We'll attend this year and train through the winter for next year!
Calm, flexible and balanced!
Win-win... work out all my pent up feelings and get an amazing cardio workout... not to mention the awesome shoulder and back sculpting potential. I can't tell you how many times in a day I want to hit something! THIS should take care of that! LOL!
...and should I fall, the landing is a lot softer than on ice!
I want to be THIS STRONG! (The beautiful gal on the weight machine is KAREN7360, who didn't start training until she was over 50!)
Hiking/geocaching year 'round! We all LOVE back-roading in our house, and my wee girl thinks maps and treasure hunts are THE BEST!
Power-kiting: you can do it all year 'round using a buggy, snow skis, snowboard, water skis... we already have the equipment... my husband is an enthusiast! Even though I've always wanted to, I've been reluctant to join him because of my lack of physical fitness... no more! All of you Sparks in Kansas, look up... you may see me there one day! LOL!
I need to be able to swim MUCH better if I'm going to get my dive certification... again, husband's passion! (Even though I rarely FEEL like swimming!) I LOVED my one dive experience... and the promise of LOTS of warm holidays... I want to swim with the sharks! :D
Can you tell I'm an Aquarian? LOL! I don't care for swimming all that much, but I LOVE activities involving water! It's always been a dream of mine to raft white water... anyone see 'The River Wild' with Merle Streep? I've seen the movie eight times, and I'll see it eight more... the power of the river compels me!
One of my goals is being able to dance (a PASSION!) for a whole evening (3 hours) without sitting out a dance! Our favourite dances are Swing (West Coast) and CHA! CHA!... then again the Jive and Waltz are wonderful, too!
...Or maybe I'll qualify for the air force! LOL
Thanks for the inspiration S318830!
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What I REALLY look like right now (February, 2012)!
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