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Why is the term Cheating even used with a LifeStyle Change?

Saturday, May 16, 2009

I have learned that even Weight Watchers encourages people to have one *cheat* food every week. **see below-Marty says WW does NOT use the 'cheat' word!

What I fail to understand is, why use the word cheat at all? Why not *indulge yourself* one time per week? To me the entire concept of cheating is negative.

From Wikipedia:

Cheating is an act of lying, deception, fraud, trickery, imposture, or imposition. Cheating characteristically is employed to create an unfair advantage, usually in one's own interest, and often at the expense of others.[1] Cheating implies the breaking of rules.

There was more in the definition, but the above says it all. Link to definition:

emoticon Interesting, to say the least.

**edit: Thank you Marty! Since you belong to WW, you would know! I read that here on one of the messageboards - but the word cheat might have been out of the mouth of the poster. I appreciate you correcting me!

**MIKIIO, I can indulge myself anytime I have extra calories. However, this doesn't mean I can or would eat a trigger food. I still cannot have cookies, lol.
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    I agree that "indulge" is MUCH better than cheat. Our USA culture has many virtues, but we have taken some of those that came from our Puritan heritage too far, as the Puritans sometimes did.

    Balance in all things! Moderate indulgence is the point in a lifestyle change: calories and exercise should balance out as quickly as feasible. We should not hate ourselves for the times when we accidentally slip off track. The slips will happen more often if we don't build in reasonable indulgence.

    All great points!
    3204 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/19/2009 1:06:29 PM
    I've always thought that to be true!! This isn't a TEST! This is LIFE! We should enjoy it.....not feel like we've done something so horrible that we need to be expelled from it!
    3205 days ago
  • _VALEO_
    Once again, I'm with you. Don't like this term either.

    I don't "cheat", and so far I don't "indulge" myself -I'm not strong enough to indulge myself one time a week. If I allow myself to buy chocolate, I know I won't be reasonnable.
    Chocolate is my *jones*, and as soon as I begin eating one bar, I want more and more and more... the last thing I want is to sabotage all my efforts.

    Keep on sparking!
    3205 days ago
    I love your thoughts here, Linda! "Cheating" implies that we're stealthy food criminals, and the term has made me feel sooo guilty at times! I've also hear people say, "I've been BAD!" after indulging. It just seems to me that such value judgments are counterproductive in our struggle to get to - and stay at - a healthy weight. Good for you! - Sara emoticon
    3205 days ago
    What a great point! You are right on. Another word I refuse to use is 'diet', again because of the negative connotations and notion that it is temporary. I use the term nutrition plan instead, when describing my new lifstyle.
    3206 days ago
    I have to admit I call it a cheat day too. But in reality it's only one meal that I indulge in which I think is pretty good considering I still even try to pick the wisest choice on the menu. But heck, every once in a while you have to let loose and go for the gold. Good blog!
    3206 days ago
  • SPARROW147
    I have to agree, cheating is so negative. You can still incorporate "cheat" things into your food plans. I have a Skinny Cow fudge bar as my REWARD for staying in my range. I suppose some would consider that a cheat, but I don't.
    3207 days ago
    Cheating is so neagtive!. Indulge or reward-positive. I agree with the others here. I prefer to reward myself IF I have honestly tracked everything and have
    a little wiggle room left on my calories. Or I might indulge for a special occasion. But I watch closely so it doesn't become a daily habit.
    3207 days ago
    I agree, I don't like the word cheat for something you can do in moderation and shouldn't feel like your cheating yourself! emoticon
    3207 days ago
    Amen!!! I totally agree with you. I never say 'cheat'. I have certain days that I indulge in a richer fare, usually holidays and my birthday and then only if I actually want something richer. I don't just do it because it's that day. You are awesome and I love your attitude. It's the winner's attitude!

    Alex emoticon
    3207 days ago
  • MARTY19
    I never heard of ww using the "cheat" word. They give you 35 flex points to use during the week. I don't like the word cheat either. It seeems to me that cheating will build on the guilt.
    But I cannot control how others think and feel. Each of us makes choices and we live with them.

    3207 days ago
    I completely agree that the words we use to define our life and this journey of a healthy lifestyle are extremely important. They set the stage
    for our mind. We all know that if our mind is not on board with whatever goal we have set, it will most likely be impossible to achieve.

    To use a word like "cheat" to describe a part of the "plan" implies (at least to me) that commitment is shaky or that we intend to break the rules we
    have set. I have taken the trouble to find ways to incorporate the foods I
    love and consider "treats" into my calorie and nutrient range by planning ahead to include them. This way I feel satisfied and have no need to cheat.
    3207 days ago
  • MRSAKINS2005
    I totally agree. I give myself a "reward" for every week I do great on my eating. Maybe some as small as a tiny chocolate bar or a piece of cheesecake. Something I kicked out of my diet plan and lifestyle change. I hate to call it cheating. Cheating is only if you do it and don't report it for your own personal numbers. As if you'll be judged if you add it in to your food tracker and everyone sees. I again totaly agree with you.
    3207 days ago
    My thought is it's better to eat a small piece of chocolate cake if you are craving it rather than CARVING the cake into ONE portion.


    Not a typo, I meant the carving vs. craving


    3207 days ago
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