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Blog Prompt - If Ray gained weight...

Wednesday, May 06, 2009

No, it would not bother me.

I married Ray for better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer...

Ok, so as the joke goes, why can't I take better, healthy and rich?!

I told Ray that unless his health depended on losing weight, I would never force him to do anything. It is his body and we are supposed to have free choice in life.

But I must say that Ray actually started losing weight before me! So it was really tough to catch up to him and pass him by since he dropped 30 lbs on his own!

Now he wants to drop another 10 lbs but the doctor advised him to go really slowly. Ray's health is good and his doctor advises not to "rock the boat" too much or too quickly. He has maintained his weight loss for almost a year now!!
WooHoo Ray!!

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SPARKLESSENCE 5/9/2009 5:17PM

    Yeah, Ray and Linda!! You two inspire me! And I suspect you'll both enjoy a nice, long stretch of great health up ahead due to your efforts. You'll also inspire each other to maintain that good health, too. This is so much easier with teamwork, isn't it? I'm finding that out, too. - Sara emoticon

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_VALEO_ 5/9/2009 3:58AM

    Go Ray!
It's good that both of you are on your healthy journey, you can support each other!

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GRALLEN 5/6/2009 2:20PM

    Good job Ray! You are right Linda. Only if the doc said he had to lose weight would I ever push the hubby into it. Although he does pretty good on his own to lose when he feels he needs to. Dang stinker can lose 4 lbs a week if he really tried and here I struggle to get rid of one measely pound. lol

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MARTY19 5/6/2009 11:36AM

    emoticon RAY!!!!

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LIVNFITNHAPPY 5/6/2009 11:25AM

    Hi Linda,

My husband has gained some weight since we got married. It does not bother me in an aesthetic sense. I love him for who he is as a person.
I do, however, think about the effect of even those 30 or so pounds have on his overall health.

Before we started dating he was quite fit and a perfect weight. He had hired a personal trainer and a nutritionist to get there. His doctor had threatened him with more medication unless he took off the weight.
After marriage the nutritionist moved away and he stopped going to the personal trainer. The weight crept back. He soothes himself with food after a hard day of work and while at work.

He is on 4 different medications for high blood pressure, cholestrol, etc.
There is a family history of stroke and heart by-pass surgeries. So, I am constantly concerned. I, too, know that I cannot make him change and he does have free choice.

I thought that my own weight release might inspire him. He is very proud of what I have accomplished and he does accompany me on some
of my fitness walks. He has even eaten entrees I have made from Spark People recipes. But he has not really made a commitment yet.

So, it is a challenge. I will continue to share how great I feel with the extra weight gone back into the wild. I will make the healthiest, tastiest dishes I can and bring him along on walks. It was really late in life before I found my true love and I pray that he will take care of himself
with as much love and attention as he cares for me as our life together.

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