Friday, April 24, 2009
Wow. Hard to believe it's been one year today since I finally took my life and health into my own hands. One year ago today, I came back to Sparkpeople (after joining and leaving twice before). I have to admit that I was pretty skeptical at first. What would make this diet any different from the rest? A year later, I can tell you it's like comparing apples and oranges.
A few things I have learned in this year...
1.) A diet is temporary. You stop once you lose the weight. Keeping weight off requires a lifestyle change. And you don't have to give up everything you love and exercise like a maniac. You actually can have a normal life, full of yummy delicious food - including ice cream and chocolate (in moderation, of course).
2.) I've learned that I am worth more than I've always sold myself for. I've never given myself much value. Why not? Is my life worth any less than someone else's just because I may not be as pretty, fit, outgoing, etc? No. My life is worth just as much President Obama's. And so is everyone else's.
3.) Other people can only walk all over me if I let them. I am only a victim if I want to be. I spent years working through lunch for various reasons. None of those reasons matter. Why should I get upset when the phone rings right after I take a bite of my lunch? I left the phone on. When one of my agents walks in when I'm eating and wants me to do something, why do I get upset and do it anyway? All I need to say is "I'm on lunch right now, but I'll get it when I'm back." If they get mad, then too bad.
4.) I may look silly or stupid when I'm outside exercising, but no one cares. Let them point and laugh and say crude remarks. Most likely, I'll never see them again anyway, and even if I do so what. I am making myself healthy and fit, and when I'm thin these are the same people that will drive down the street whistling and making more crude remarks. Some people are just like that; no matter what you look like, they will have something to say.
5.) And exercise is not the devil. It's not something designed to make us miserable. Actually, exercise can be fun. The key is finding exercises you enjoy and do those. No one loves every kind.
6.) Same with food. I don't have to live on broccoli and carrots for the rest of my life. I can eat whatever I want, as long as it's in moderation. And some things are best not bought. And going to the grocery store hungry is not a good idea. Cause then everything looks so delicious.
7.) Friends and family who don't support me 100% don't need to be in my life. A real friend isn't going to tell you "You won't make it", "You'll just regain it all back", or even the seemingly innocent "Oh you don't need to lose weight" and "You shouldn't lose that much; you'll be too skinny". If you say something to them and they keep at it, move on. I get enough negativity and drama from TV, thanks.
8.) Sometimes the best way to motivate yourself is to motivate others. Happiness and motivation are contagious. The more you encourage someone else, the more you'll feel it for yourself.
9.) I'm a food addict. Always will be. So I need a lot of inner-strength and will-power to be able to make healthier choices. And I cannot have those if I beat myself up for small mistakes, or if I allow others (whether real or imaginary) to negatively influence my decisions. If I think of this as a punishment, it will be. But it's not. It's a great opportunity to be the best person I can be.
10.) No one can have respect for me if I don't have enough respect for myself to take care of myself. When I consciously take control over what I eat and exercising, I feel better. I have more confidence and pride in myself. I have more respect for myself, and therefore so do others.
I can honestly say that I'm not the same person I was a year ago. That's a good thing, because I don't want to be her anymore.
When I started on this journey a year ago, all I wanted was to lose a few pounds. What I found was myself.