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My Annual Blog Entry - ha ha

Friday, April 03, 2009

Well, I'm sitting in Barnes & Noble in Bend. I'm down here for 2 weeks to help my Dad out with my Mom, and can't get on the internet at their house, sooo....
I miss being at home this time of year for this long -- so much to do in the garden -- but Dad was really feeling stressed and needed some respite in addition to the 3 and a half hours the he has a caregiver coming in. Mom still knows who I am, but thinks we are at my house some of the time, and is more confused in general. She looked at my laptop this morning (I was playing Solitaire, which she has played on computer in past years) and asked what it was. I told her that it was a computer and she asked "What's a computer?"..... Her verbal skills are still pretty good, which is unusual at this stage of Alzheimer's. But very little to do there -- music upsets her after a very short time, same with tv. She is unable to walk more than a very short distance, so walks are out, as are drives, as she has urinary frequency. There are many cleaning and organizing things I'd love to do, but Dad refuses, gets upset and angry if I do -- I think he is so stressed that anything that creates any change in his environment and routine is just one straw too many. I did manage to get my mom's hair washed and get her in the bathtub. And I'll go thru her closet and do laundry and sheets. But that's about it -- I do get a lot of reading done, but she also gets frustrated with that.
emoticon OK, enough whining. I AM very grateful to be retired and able to come on short notice. I plan to come for a week or more each month now that we're almost past the snowy roads in the mountain passes. Hadn't been since my long visit in early December.

And I am healthy. And happy. And have a great husband who is willing to hold down the fort when I'm gone. AND we are actually going on a trip together next month to NY and DC, and visit my daughter and her husband in CT, and John's niece in DC. My husbands hates to travel, so I am usually on my own or with a friend when I go someplace. But he's willing this time -- my daughter offered us airline tickets -- so I'm really looking forward to sharing this with him. (And hope he doesn't get too grumpy!) I've been to NYC, but not DC -- and we've carved out a couple of days each for the Met in NY and the Smithsonian in DC, besides the usual sights. I'm so glad to be seeing DC with Obama in the Whitehouse. What an awesome change!

Time to sign off from my paid wifi time. I guess it would make more sense to do all my writing at the house and use this time for posting and reading....

Greetings to all my friends and teams -- hope you are all well.

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VALERIEMAHA 5/8/2009 4:41PM

    Ahhhh...there you are! You are most likely home again by now...over a month later. Happy Mom's Day. Here's a poem for you:

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Your summer plans with SO sound delightful. DC in the Obama WhiteHouse -- YES! I just watched (via Netflix) Obama's inaguration again the other day. It made me burst inside just like the first time. He's an astounding leader.

How's the garden looking?

Blessings on your head!
xox
Maha
P.S. I LOVE Bend and environs! I took Amtrak from Oakland, CA to Bellingham, WA a few years ago, getting off and on several times. I got off in Eugene and was picked up by a friend who lives in Bend. I spent a couple days with her and friends in Eugene. What a blast!

And once again, me'n Kathy hanging out with the same friend!

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ATRANSFORMATION 4/3/2009 10:54PM

    And here is your annual comment!

I can so relate to the stress of dealing with aging parents, dementia and having to care for them out of town...thankful for my hubby, too.

What part of Bend do they live in. I spent a lot of time in Northwest Crossing when the kids were there, but explored a lot. Hiked up to Pilot Butte with the little ones, til the snow and bitter cold wind pushed us back. But DID drive up there once. And clearly there was the BEST farmers' market in the summer time there.

My nephew is living with my folks for a while, which is an awesome arrangement for all of us. He has free rent, gets to surf and swim every day, and he loves sports and politics so provides my dad with company and conversation. He also is a flirt and can sweet talk my mom down when she gets agitated...I'll be down again mid May. April is SO busy.

We'll have to make an attempt to meet in the middle this summer to share some stories.

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