Friday, April 03, 2009
Well, I'm sitting in Barnes & Noble in Bend. I'm down here for 2 weeks to help my Dad out with my Mom, and can't get on the internet at their house, sooo....
I miss being at home this time of year for this long -- so much to do in the garden -- but Dad was really feeling stressed and needed some respite in addition to the 3 and a half hours the he has a caregiver coming in. Mom still knows who I am, but thinks we are at my house some of the time, and is more confused in general. She looked at my laptop this morning (I was playing Solitaire, which she has played on computer in past years) and asked what it was. I told her that it was a computer and she asked "What's a computer?"..... Her verbal skills are still pretty good, which is unusual at this stage of Alzheimer's. But very little to do there -- music upsets her after a very short time, same with tv. She is unable to walk more than a very short distance, so walks are out, as are drives, as she has urinary frequency. There are many cleaning and organizing things I'd love to do, but Dad refuses, gets upset and angry if I do -- I think he is so stressed that anything that creates any change in his environment and routine is just one straw too many. I did manage to get my mom's hair washed and get her in the bathtub. And I'll go thru her closet and do laundry and sheets. But that's about it -- I do get a lot of reading done, but she also gets frustrated with that.
OK, enough whining. I AM very grateful to be retired and able to come on short notice. I plan to come for a week or more each month now that we're almost past the snowy roads in the mountain passes. Hadn't been since my long visit in early December.
And I am healthy. And happy. And have a great husband who is willing to hold down the fort when I'm gone. AND we are actually going on a trip together next month to NY and DC, and visit my daughter and her husband in CT, and John's niece in DC. My husbands hates to travel, so I am usually on my own or with a friend when I go someplace. But he's willing this time -- my daughter offered us airline tickets -- so I'm really looking forward to sharing this with him. (And hope he doesn't get too grumpy!) I've been to NYC, but not DC -- and we've carved out a couple of days each for the Met in NY and the Smithsonian in DC, besides the usual sights. I'm so glad to be seeing DC with Obama in the Whitehouse. What an awesome change!
Time to sign off from my paid wifi time. I guess it would make more sense to do all my writing at the house and use this time for posting and reading....
Greetings to all my friends and teams -- hope you are all well.