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Think Before You Speak

Sunday, March 29, 2009

If you think twice before speaking once, you will speak twice the better for it. - William Penn

The idea of choosing your words carefully sounds easy enough, but how many times do you end up with your foot in your mouth? Everyone can probably recall a situation where someone offended them by saying something rude or out of line. These comments are not only embarrassing, but they can also damage relationships.... If you say the wrong thing in front of others, chances are that people will remember it. Wouldn't you prefer to be remembered for something more positive? Once you have said something out loud it cannot be taken back, and rarely can it be undone even with a tremendous amount of work." (from healthy reflections)

This advice is great to remember, especially for spur of the moment conversations- for example: a colleague has drops in unexpectedly and starts complaining about the boss or another colleague. The temptation may be to join in the complaining as a form of sympathy or support. Before you know it Complainer number 1 talks to another colleague and attributes the complaint to you or says that you support his/her complaints. All of a sudden this gets back to the boss and you're in the middle of it.

What do you want to put out into the world? Positive energy or negative? So what do you do when temptation comes knocking? When someone else brings it to you, how can you stop the flow?

Take a step back, mentally & physically out of the complainer's energy space.

Firmly ground yourself with a few deep breaths.

Tell yourself silently, "This is not about me."

Ask yourself,"Is this what I want to be remembered for?"

Remember: There are no do-overs. Once it leaves your lips, someone will remember.

Say to the complainer, "I hear your frustration. Have you spoken to __ about this? (direct them back to the source of their venting).

If you feel strong enough, say "I cannot be party to this negative energy, but I'd be happy to keep your highest and best in mind for a positive resolution."

So think twice, speak once.
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    This is another good messge about mindfulness. Taking that moment to breathe and think through the consequences of your speech. Thanks for the reminder.
    3248 days ago
    Thank you for the advice we should all be following. I know there are times I "jump on the wagon" and luckily I have never had to eat crow yet. If I don't do better, and I know I will make the effort, I will be spitting out feathers!!
    3248 days ago
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    I love that thumbnail of that BUNNY. So cute. emoticon
    3248 days ago
    Jude my Daughter works with a few ladies and time and time again 2 of them get into bother for what they say. My daughter never joins in with comments when people are saying things in the spur of the moment.

    She often says to them that they should not be talking in that way. Clever girl my daughter xx

    I acted without thinking

    And behaved a bit unwise

    In looking back I feel

    That I should now apologise

    I yielded to the moment

    Rushing to the wrong conclusion

    My words and deeds resulted

    In unhappiness and confusion

    I wish I could go back in time

    And past mistakes ignore

    I'd like to say I'm sorry

    and apologise once more

    3248 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/29/2009 6:33:27 PM
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