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The Gift of Loving Ourselves

Sunday, March 29, 2009

During my walk today an old favorite song of mine pumped me up in a whole new way. Ages ago many of us have heard what sounds like common sense spoken by Erich Fromm in his tiny book "The Art of Loving" that in order for anyone to love another person one must first truly love themselves.

Well for most of my life I belonged to that very large (pun intended!) club of people who never really "got it," never could honestly say that he/she loved him/herself unabashedly without conditions.

I realized today that one of the most exciting aspects of working out and making healthy food choices is that these are powerful means of affirming, accepting and truly loving and celebrating ourselves. Instead of hearing this song as a love song for someone else, I heard it as a celebration of being able to love myself, able to draw from that hidden strength inside about which I hadn't known for SO much of my life, feeling all pumped up, stepping right along to the drive and push of this wonderful song! So I had to get home and write this up and share it with all of you here within our SparkPeople community:

This is Love
Artist: Mary Chapin-Carpenter
Album: Stones In The Road

If you ever need to hear a voice in the middle of the night
When it seems so black outside that you can't remember light
Ever shone on you or the ones you love in this or another lifetime
And the voice you need to hear is the true and the trusted kind
With a soft, familiar rhythm in these swirling, unsure times
When the waves are lapping in and you're not sure you can swim
Well here's the lifeline
If you ever need to feel a hand take up your own
When you least expect but want it more than you've ever known
Baby here's that hand and baby here's my voice that's calling, this is love,
all it ever was and will be
This is love

And if you ever need some proof that time can heal your wounds
Just step inside my heart and walk around these rooms
Where the shadows used to be,
you can feel as well as see how peace con hover
Now time's been here to fix what's broken with its power
The love that smashed us both to bits spent its last few hours
Calling out your name, I thought this is the kind of pain
From which we don't recover

But I'm standing here now with my heart held out to you
You would've thought a miracle was all that got us through
Well baby all I know, all I know is I'm still standing
And this is love all it ever was and will be
This is love

And I see you still and there's this catch in my throat and
I just swallow hard till it leaves me
There's nothing in this world that can change what we know
Still I know I am here if you ever need me
And this is love

And if you ever think of me let it be around twilight
When the world has settled down and the last round of sunlight
Is waning in the sky, as you sit and watch the night descending
A car will pass out front with lovers at the wheel
A dog will bark out back and children's voices peal
Over and under the air, you've been there lost in the remembering
And if you ever wish for things that are only in the past
Just remember that the wrong things aren't supposed to last
Babe it's over and done and the rest is gonna come when you let it

And this is love, all that it ever was and will be
This is love, when you let it, if you let it now
This is love, all it ever was and can be
This is love

Lyrics link: www.getreadyforlove.com/

Link to album review: Mary Chapin-Carpenter, Stones In The Road
This is absolutely one of my all-time favorite albums! So is her other one, "Come On, Come On."


Link to mp3 download, entire album $8.99, songs 99 cents apiece:


If you aren't familiar with this album, celebrate yourself, celebrate life and buy it! :-)

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Member Comments About This Blog Post
    thanks :) i needed that.
    3122 days ago
    It's so great to see you still around! I went to comment on sweetzmix's page and saw your comment, I remembered you from my first few weeks here on SP last year! Great Blog, Im still learning this myself. Im working on having more than just a few glimpses here and there. I want to live in loving myself.
    3123 days ago
    Yupp! So true ...thanks for sharing a new perspective!

    3124 days ago
  • JIBBIE49
    So True!
    3124 days ago
    Oh that is sooo true. I've told people & even had on my page that no matter how thin I ever was or ever get, how fit I ever was or ever get it won't make an iota of difference if I can't love myself completely.

    Your post really hits on what I think a lot of us at SP suffer from - a lack of self-esteem, self-confidence, etc.
    3124 days ago
    Don.... That is a great Blog and a very good thing to think about.

    I am also one of those that never could honestly say that he/she loved him/herself unabashedly without conditions.

    It gives us all something to think about.

    Thanks for sharing. Hope you are doing well.

    Still snowing here we have had 5 1/2" so far.

    God Bless and my prayers are with you.

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    3125 days ago
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