Fireproof Your marraige Team Monthly Book Club schedule (AKA Tashena's recommended reading list for
Wednesday, March 04, 2009
Thought I would post this as a blog as well just so it is in one place for everyone to reference but also because my team is small and growing and I'd like all my friends in all my teams to have access to this list. So here it is, the books I've gone through and intend to go through. I'm encouraging my Fireproof teammates to go through and anyone else is welcomed to pick and choose to learn and grow with us! December 2008 - April 2009 are rereads for me, but as an imperfect person I need the reminders! And I hope to learn a lot of new things from the May 2009 - December 2009 part of the list. I hope others can read them and learn a lot as well! Book, Author and short description listed below
October & November 2008– The Love Dare
Too many marriages end when someone says “I’ve fallen out of love with you” or “I don’t love you anymore.” In reality, such statements reveal a lack of understanding about the fundamental nature of true love.
The Love Dare, as featured in the new movie Fireproof (starring Kirk Cameron and from the team that brought us the #1 best selling DVD Facing the Giants), is a forty-day guided devotional experience that will lead your heart back to truly loving your spouse while learning more about the design, nature, and source of true love.
Each day’s entry discusses a unique aspect of love, presents a specific “dare” to do for your spouse (some will be very easy, others very challenging), and gives you a journaling area to chart the progress that you will be making.
It's time to learn the keys to finding true intimacy and developing a dynamic marriage. Take the dare!
Unconditional love is eagerly promised at weddings, but rarely practiced in real life. As a result, romantic hopes are often replaced with disappointment in the home, but it doesn't have to stay that way.
The Love Dare, as featured in the new movie Fireproof, is a 40-day challenge for husbands and wives to understand and practice unconditional love. Whether your marriage is hanging by a thread or healthy and strong, The Love Dare is a journey you need to take.
December 2008 – Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus Dr. John Gray PHD
An essential tool for couples who want to develop more satisfying relationships with their partners. In this book, John provides a practical and proven way for men and women to communicate better by acknowledging the differences between them.
Based on years of counseling couples and research, he gives advice on how to counteract these differences in communication styles, emotional needs and modes of behavior to promote a greater understanding between partners. His simple suggestions for reducing conflict, information on interpreting behavior and secrets to successful relationships will enrich your life.
January 2009 – The Five Love Languages Dr. Gary Chapman
Making Marriage Work: It doesn't have to feel like a chore
Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English. No matter how hard you try to express love in “English”, if your spouse understands only “Chinese”, you will never understand how to love each other.
Marriage Myth: Married life is unhappy life.
Fact: Studies show that married people have better emotional and physical health, longer lives, greater sexual satisfaction,
greater incomes, and more accumulated wealth.
January 2009 The Five Love Languages
Being sincere is not enough. We must be willing to learn our spouse’s primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love.
My conclusion after thirty years of marriage counseling is that there are basically five emotional love languages—five ways that people speak and understand emotional love. However, there may be numerous dialects. The important thing is to speak the love language of your spouse.
Communicating love isn’t as easy as feeling “in love,” because it’s quite a different thing. Falling in love is not an act of the will or a conscious choice. It’s effortless. One who is “in love” is not genuinely interested in fostering the personal growth of the other person. If the euphoric pleasure of being “in love” never ended, we might never experience true love and meaningful communication.
Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself. Most of us do many things each day that do not come “naturally” for us. For some of us, that is getting out of bed in the morning. We go against our feelings and get out of bed because we believe there is something worthwhile to do that day. And normally, before the day is over, we feel good about having gotten up. Our actions preceded our emotions.
The same is true with love. We discover the primary love language of our spouse, and we choose to speak it whether or not it is natural for us. You might not love the language itself, but speaking it will clearly communicate love to your spouse.
Love is a choice. And either partner can start the process today.
February 2009 – Personality Plus by Florence Littauer
In Personality Plus, Florence Littauer gives you valuable insight for appreciating your one-of-a-kind, God-given personality. She includes a Personality Profile test that reveals how your unique blend of traits affects your emotions, work performance, and relationships. Through humorous anecdotes and straightforward counsel, Personality Plus guides you to improve upon your strengths and correct your weaknesses.
March 2009 – His Needs, Her Needs – 15th Anniversary Eddition By Willard F. Harley Jr.
It's no surprise - men and women have radically different priorities. Describing the ten most important needs of men and women, Dr. Harley teaches you how to "affair-proof" your marriage. Learn how to sustain romance, increase intimacy, and deepen your awareness year after year. This 15th anniversary edition features a new preface, plus personal questionnaires and inventories.
April 2009 – Love & Respect: The Love she most Desires, the Respect he Desperately Needs
Discover the secret that cracks the communication code between husbands and wives and reap the benefits of marriage as God intended. Citing extensive biblical and psychological research, Eggerichs shows that harmony and happiness in relationships is not achieved by love alone, but by building on both parts of the Ephesians 5:33 equation: love and respect. A Focus on the Family book.
May, June and July 2009 - Becoming the Woman God Wants Me to Be: A 90-Day Guide to Living the Proverbs 31 Life
By: Donna Partow
Energize your whole life in 90 days with Partow's practical 13-week plan! Covering everything from faith and family to fitness, fashion, and finances, she shows you how to have greater personal vitality and deeper intimacy with God. This in-depth study of Proverbs 31:10-31 includes a leader's guide and study questions. Paperback.
August 2009 - Love Busters: Protecting Your Marriage from Habits that Destroy Romantic Love by Willard F.Jr. Harley
In this fifteenth anniversary edition of Love Busters, Willard F. Harley, Jr., helps couples identify and overcome the most common habits that destroy the feeling of love.
September 2009 - Becoming the Woman of His Dreams : Seven Qualities Every Man Longs For by Sharon Jaynes
Becoming the Woman of His Dreams is for women who want to be more Cinderella than Cruella De Vil, but this book is not just about living happily ever after. It's a thoughtful look at the wonderful, unique, and God-ordained role a woman has in her husband's life.
Author Sharon Jaynes surveyed hundreds of men and asked them many specific questions, including
How would you describe the woman of your dreams?
What does your wife do well that other women could learn from?
What is one thing you wish women understood about what a man wants in the woman of his dreams?
Pulling it all together, Sharon presents seven key qualities that together unlock the secret to a happy marriage.
October 2009 - What a Husband Needs from His Wife: Physically, Emotionally, Spiritually by Melanie Chitwood
What do men really need from their wives? And what is the best way for wives to meet those needs? This engaging and thoroughly biblical guide demonstrates that a woman meets her husband's needs most effectively by maintaining her own vibrant personal relationship with Christ. Filled with useful tools that will help women understand their husbands better, this enlightening resource includes...
ideas for dealing with addictions, infidelity, and financial challenges
explanations of personality types and love languages
resources that offer help for the helper
A study guide at the end of the book makes this a perfect tool for individual or small group use.
November 2009 - The Power of a Woman's Words: Speaking Life and Healing into Your Relationships by Sharon Jaynes
International speaker Sharon Jaynes believes that women have incredible power in their sphere of influence with the words they speak.
Words are one of the most powerful forces in the universe, and they can be used for good or evil. When God created our world, He did so with words. He said, "Let there be..." and it was so. While our words cannot bring into existence things that are not, they do have the power to build courage into a husband's life, instill confidence into a child's heart, fan into flames the dying embers of a friend's smoldering dreams, and draw the lost to Christ.
This book is for every woman who desires to use her words to build up rather than tear down, to encourage rather than discourage, to cheer rather than jeer. It is for all who desire to have more control over that mighty force called the tongue.
December 2009 - The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian
The Power of a Praying Wife has sold more than 3,000,000 copies and has encouraged countless women to trust God for their marriages. Stormie Omartian's key insights are revealed through real-life illustrations, inspiring Scriptures, encouraging quotes, and sample prayers to help every wife pray for her husband's
Role as father and leader
Security in work and finances
Faith and future
Any woman who desires a closer relationship with her husband will enjoy receiving this refreshing look at the power of prayer in marriage.