Friday, February 13, 2009
"Love is . . . being patient, even when you're tired - especially when you're tired." -- Danae Jacobsen, age 16
With Valentine's Day tomorrow, I think it is appropriate to ask "what does Love mean to me." My partner said something I had not thought about before the other day. She said she wanted to "Love me the way I need and want to be loved, not the way she wants to love me."
Often, I do things, because I think that is what the other person needs or wants. I have "loved" the way I thought the person needed to be loved, and not truly listened to hear what they are telling me either verbally or through their body language. It is difficult to break out of the old paradigms and be "present" to truly see what your wife, husband, child, friend, parent, may be wanting at any given moment. But, wow, what an unselfish way to love someone!
I will freely show and share my love for others. . . not the way I want to show it, but the way they need it.