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Why say such a thing?

Monday, December 08, 2008

Well for all those reading this, I just restarted my weight loss journey about a month and a half ago and I'v been so excited.. I'v been telling everyone I know. Last week I told my guy friend (yes he is an ex) about my weight loss (down 10 lbs woo hoo), goals and how excited I was finally be making it happen and when I was done he told me that he knew that I couldnt do it and that I was going to fail. Now tell me why would anyone say something like that? So I asked him why he would say that to me and he said " I don't know.. that's just how I feel", so then I said don't you think thats kinda mean and he says " Yes, but I don't honestly think you can do it. why lie? ".

Since then I'v been in this little depression. I wonder if everyone feels this way about me. I'm trying to not let it get to me and throw me off track, but since then things seem don't seem as bright to me. Hopefully I'll be able to find my excitment again.


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THE_BEST_ME 3/29/2009 12:17AM

    The best revenge is to show him that u can and to live well.

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MARSHA74 2/16/2009 1:12PM

way to go you on losing 10lbs!!!!
nevermind what the ex says......this time next year watch his jaw drop as you stand in front of him, 120lbs lighter saying..see i told you i could!!!!!.....x
you go girl!! x

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MCCRIGHT 1/6/2009 1:50PM

    I know that you can do it. You have lots of positive support around you. All of us spark people are rooting for you. We wish you the best. Don't forget the good times with your ex, but also don't forget there is a reason he is an ex. I am sick and I would use his words as a challenge to prove him wrong. (I LOVE to prove people wrong.) Congrats on getting started again! I know you are going to give your best and that's all anyone can ask for. Just keep moving forward.


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SUZY6281 12/16/2008 1:10PM

    Having the support of others around you can be very valuable, however, you have to believe in yourself. Don't let one negative person take the wind out of your sails. You are the one that ultimately controls your success. Take it as a challenge. Prove to yourself that you can do this. In the end, those around you will be awed by your progress. I know you can do it, you've lost 10 pounds already!!


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LIQUEURLADY 12/10/2008 2:50PM

    Surely you have better friends! I had a similar thing happen when I was quitting smoking, and the person I was seeing said I couldn't do it, and proceeded to give me all these medical articles to show I couldn't. Well, over 9 years later, I'm an ex-smoker, and goodness knows where he is. Sounds to me that he really isn't on your side, and you're well rid of him.

I think 10 pounds gone is WONDERFUL! and I am SO HAPPY for you! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon I know the going gets tough sometimes, but when it does, get on the boards, and there's going to be someone out there to say the right thing that gets you going on the right track again. Be the very best you you can be -- we're rooting for you out here!

emoticon (and boot his nastiness out of your head!)

Comment edited on: 12/10/2008 2:53:25 PM

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JOELFAN 12/9/2008 4:23PM

    GO YOU! Never mind losers like him, it's losers (weight) like all of us that count!!

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AMMOMOJO 12/9/2008 7:32AM

    That was a cruel thing for him to say, and just shows that he is afraid of you bettering yourself. Don't let the negativity of others stop you from improving your life.

Congratulations on losing the 10 pounds though, that is fantastic! Keep up the good work!

You can do it!!

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JUST__TURTLE 12/8/2008 9:58PM

    DON'T LISTEN!!!! I had an ex as well...An ex friend tell me that she couldn't tell that I had lost weight but she could tell in my personality the first time I lost weight using spark. It has taken a year to be ready to conquer this problem and not believe what she said (when others said to the contrary) so I lost 145 pounds in a year (the ex-friend). People who say things like that and do not support you are dealing with their own issues. They are jealous, malicious, angry at something else, stupid and don't know how their comments hurt, or some other issue! 10 pounds is FABULOUS! Keep it up. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't give up and remember I am here if you need to talk!

God Bless!


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4THELOVEOFDOLLS 12/8/2008 5:31PM

    Don't give your power away. A slogan that helps me is " What others think of me is none of my business." Yes he was mean. Let it go and reclaim your joy! emoticon

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SILVARRI 12/8/2008 5:19PM

    Aww Sweetie :( Usually when someone says something as an attack like that, its usually not about you, its about them. He could have been having a bad day, feeling threatened by your weight loss and effort, or just mad that you are happy about something :P He is an ex after all ;)

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    Maybe its his way of saying, he is jealouse you didn't do it while still with him, so take the attitude of, I WILL SHOW YOU AND PROVE YOU WRONG......cause like little engine that could, so can you., And know you are not alone, we have all been there and heard that. emoticon

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