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Nobody's Perfect...So What?

Wednesday, May 14, 2008

I just wanted to share this video that DENISE_SP shared with me a couple weeks ago. It's from the Dove Real Beauty campaign, which I like in some ways for its compelling videos and advertisements. But I can't help but see the hypocrisy of a beauty company telling women that they shouldn't listen to the messages and agenda of the beauty industry. But keeping that aside, their messages really get people thinking. In fact, this one made me a little teary eyed.

We are always our own worst critics. When you see a photo or video of yourself, do you instantly zoom in on your imperfections or trouble spots? Doesn't that just as instantly cut down your own self worth and make you feel self-conscious and negative for the rest of the day? I think that we all could use a little boost. So as a means of boosting how you feel about yourself—and helping others to do the same—I encourage you to compliment someone each day. Maybe you could even share this video with him or her. Sometimes a kind word from someone else can help you begin to change the negative conversation in your head to a more positive one.

Oh and next time you find yourself zooming in on things you don't about yourself, take note of the picture above. Even if you're not perfect, parts of you are—so forget the imperfections and focus on your strengths! I don't care if it's your toes or your earlobes. Saying positive things about yourself is one of the first steps to loving your body…because we're all pretty awesome, right?


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
YANDI4LIFE 7/3/2008 4:27AM

    You are a very inspirational person. All of your blogs that I read tonight have made me feel as though they were written specifically for me. Coach Nicole you are the best!!!

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JULIANICA47 6/12/2008 2:17PM

    That is a great ad! So true! Thanks!

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AJB818 6/10/2008 10:22AM

    Thanks for the reminder and inspiration! We all need to change our focus sometimes!

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JMURRAY6 6/5/2008 12:37PM

    That blog was so true to the way I feel as well as many other people out Every time I see a picture of me, I just want to rip it up. My self image is distorted on so many levels. This blog lessons the worry on me about how I look to myself. The weight loss has been amazing since I started SP and my attitude has done a 360. Thank you for the inspiring blog. emoticon

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PAJOHNSON58 6/2/2008 8:44PM

    Jacqueline sounds just like me and my husband says the exact same thing that hers does.

I just don't feel complete unless I have the whole package (hair done, make-up, etc.). I guess when you've been in the competition world and your mom's a perfectionist about things like hair, weight, and make-up, you just take on that persona and it becomes a part of you.

I am a little better about going out without all of the fuss, but subconsciously not doing the whole getting ready routine still bothers me after we get to our destination.

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NEWLYFE2013 5/31/2008 5:51PM

    According to the video the boy on the bike is waiting for Amy and she's inside thinking of all of her flaws and not answering him when he calls. Many times I've wanted to hide too and hate myself when I look in pictures of me at my current weight. I need to focus on the qualities that are positive in my life. emoticon

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CYND59 5/31/2008 9:06AM

    Coach Nicole, I am another one that cried reading your blog. I have always had an issue of low self esteem. Since I have been a member of SP and truly learned what it means to have a lifestyle of eating healthy and exercising daily; I am slowing seeing changes in my attitude about myself. I may not be perfect (I never will be) but there are things about me that are not so bad! My husband has been telling me lately that he can really see the changes not only in my body (weight loss) but everything about me. Thank you and other SP advisors for making these changes a reality in my life. emoticon

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BARBARACRAIG 5/29/2008 7:54PM

  Coach Nicole, I love the idea of perfect toes or lobes! Truly not places we typically care about appearace-wise, but with summer and sandals on the way, I'm thinking about my toes-far from perfect, in fact, downright ugly-more and more.

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LADITEE 5/28/2008 2:59PM

    Well Nicole I actually cried , I am just like Amy, but learning to accept the things that other people do not accept. I am a very active 42 year old woman that does not look or act my age. The main thing holding me back in everything is my weight. People take one look at that & I loose all respect in their eyes. I coach powder puff football & would love to coach in a boys league, but its no respect for the fat girl - even if I know more football stats then the head coach. I was very verbally abused in a relationship that I ended 9 months ago & I still am working on the self esteem issues from that. I have not been able to loose one pound, I have actually been fighting with the same 5 all 9 months. I even took myself off my depression medication since I was told it was part of the reason why I can't loose weight, well that was about three months ago - still nothing! I am just frustrated & need lots of positive input. But I can tell you that I will never give up on myself. Becasue this time it's all for ME and no one else.

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GORDONBROWN 5/27/2008 5:07PM

  It saddens me that so many women are so trapped by body image worries these days. I think the media is having a really negative effect on our personal/spiritual development. Time to fight back and stop idolising the Paris Hiltons of this world

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GRAMMABANANA1 5/27/2008 12:58PM

    that is so true. It is more important if one is considering weight loss to do it for health reasons rather than looks.

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BELLACUDDLES 5/22/2008 4:45PM

    We all have something we do NOT like about ourselves and are so quick to see that, but we also all of us have something good as well, and we need to accentuate the GOOD!

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SYANG01 5/22/2008 1:41PM

    That is so true! We need to be more positive!

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~~JACQUELINE~~ 5/17/2008 7:36AM

    That is so like me and my Husband. If ever he suggests going out I have to go and change, do my hair, put on my make-up and then I'm ready...............he's said he'd be just as happy if I just put on my shoes and coat!!!! He sees ME, the person he loves......I see someone who needs props to look halfway good!

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RENA1965 5/16/2008 11:52PM

    I also liked this film.
I was bad really bad beating myself up, but even with plastic surgery is only a plaster on the sore. But sticking before, middle and efter photos all over my house has cured me of most of my figure distortion issues. It has slowly reprogrammed my brain to accept me for me now.
These days throwing clothing and jumping into my workout tights is just a fact of life, necessary and I block out people whom look negatively at me at the gym. The people whom actually ask me why I look like I do are very understanding and supportive..
I didn't look right at 306lbs and some people say the same now I am thin, I just decided to listen to myself to be able to cope.. I am sick and tired of other peoples judgements and fears..

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ITSMYLIFE08 5/15/2008 9:52AM

    Loved your blog. It's true: Sometimes we are our own worst enemy. I am working on that everyday.

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PMANQUEN 5/14/2008 7:50PM

    Love those ads.....self esteem is a huge part of hanging onto weight too....I am in the "too old" group!! LOL...still trying to fight it!

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CARLI_MAE 5/14/2008 3:14PM

    Funny, I finished a blog early this morning on the same topic, but regarding another kind of beauty of much more importance ... I would love to share it with you, Coach ... it's called "May - It's All About Beauty"

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PMSLIVES 5/14/2008 3:13PM

    I couldn't get to the video, but we have been battling with self esteem issues probably forever. When I was young it came out that they were using 12 year olds in ads made up to look like 30 and now with photo shop who knows the truth of pictures and CGI in movies! One of these years they will come out with glasses and then contacts that make us all look good all the time! One of the shocks my mom had when she had cataracts removed was how wrinkled she had gotten. Not sure where I'm going with this comment, but let's not be too harsh on ourselves and stop comparing perceived faults and just try to be the best and healthiest we can be.

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JLINK1972 5/14/2008 2:47PM

    That is soooo true.

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DACHSIE1 5/14/2008 2:37PM

    This is so TRUE. I have lost almost 75 lbs over the last 3 years and I still have to stop myself from saying negative things about my ARMS. Short of liposuction, which I'm not going to do, they are what they are. I lift weights, but they continue to be larger than I would like. I'm learning to love them anyway and I make a conscious effort to wear shorter sleeved tops. I try to change my dialogue about them when a negative pops into my head. It's difficult, but I realize that there are more important things in life then my arms!!!! It's about achieving my goal which I've done. There are so many people out there with illness, adversity. That puts things in perspective for me. And it's absolutely true that all the magazine pictures of these gorgeous women are totally airbrushed to make them look perfect. NOBODY IS PERFECT!! emoticon

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MAURIZIA 5/14/2008 1:41PM

    My SparkFamily at the "50+ with 50-99 lbs to lose" team has taught me what's special about me - and they have me believing all the great things they say! Another reason to LOVE SP! And Coach Nicole, when I'm doing your videos - particularly the bikini bootcamp challenge - you always up my mood! Thanks for that! ~~ Mauri

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COLEMANSR 5/14/2008 1:14PM

    Thanks so much. I love the saying at the top of your blog.

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RORYJO 5/14/2008 1:00PM

    Amen! I have just started facing up to the fact that I am my harshest critic...and just admitting that has made it easier for me to try and focus on the good my smile! Thank you for all you do!

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