Monday, April 21, 2008
JILLIAN'S MESSAGE THIS MORNING....
JILLIAN'S TIP OF THE DAY
Release the Past
I don't care if you were the fat kid in high school, or the black sheep of the family, or the lazy teenager who hated exercise. Forget it — let it all go! Those old identities are not serving you in the present, and they certainly aren't going to help you achieve your goals for the future. If you let go of old conceptions of yourself, you can maintain an open mind and be open to all possibilities. It is imperative that you let go of the past in order to re-create yourself in the present.
I am learning all too well, that I reached the destination I am currently in due to past decisions, reactions, activities, beliefs, etc...
I am also learning that as I face all of this and am honest with ME, I am able to pound by pound, take of this "armor" I have hidden in...for most of my life.
For whatever reasons, I have kept my armor on my body...in some ways it has been protection, other timesit has been my safe refuge, much of it has been self-PUNISHMENT...as if I deserve to not feel confident and sexy and appealing to others...as if being the funny and caring fat-friend is just my destiny...My desiny is MINE to change, to direct, to reach toward...it is not something set in stone...there are infinite possibilities to my destiny...For all of our desinies!
I do not need nor want this armor on my any longer. I made a pledge to ME...(my new best friend, you know!)...Now I must honor what I told my new friend, Me.
I will have good days and I will have bad days, but just as I would not give up on any of my best friends outside of this skin I am in on their bad days, I must remind myself that I WILL NOT GIVE UP ON THE FRIEND I LIVE IN THIS SKIN WITH, ME on her bad days. And just as I would encourage and celebrate all of your successes, I must remember to offer the same joy and compasion and energy and reinforcement to my new friend, Me. She deserves the very best I can offer her, just as any of you, my friends do.
This journey was never promised to be an easy one...I am sure that is why so many of us have given up so many times before. I am hoping that we have all started to learn things about ourselves during the past 5 weeks. I hope that we will take what we have learned, and keep it in motion...keep using it instead of returning to old habits, old thought patterns. This is the year for all of us...we have all come to far to not continue on our journeys.
It will never be an EASY road...Anything worth working toward will have sacrifice and pain involved...we are all strong enough to face it and plug through and reach our destinies.
Have a wonderful Monday...love to all of you!